To be feeling a bit miffed that I've been uninvited?

OP, you sound eminently sensible. Especially compared to some of the posters on this thread.

Not to mention what kind of man goes to a wedding without his wife?

One whose wife has never clapped eyes on either the bride or groom?

No, not absolutely everything. But what are weddings about if not celebrating relationships and marriage. It's beyond weird to event a good friend to your wedding but uninvite their wife.

Not to mention what kind of man goes to a wedding without his wife?

That's really weird imo, to invite someone without their long term partner.
It happened to us once, and DH turned down the invitation. I wouldn't go to a wedding without him either (I'd go to an evening do if it was just a bunch of work colleagues going without partners but not the whole day)

Personally I think it is really rude to invite someone to a wedding but not invite their spouse!

My spider sense is twitching, suggest to DH you still want to make a long weekend of it and you'll potter around by yourself on wedding day.

See if that horrifies him....

I’d assume they redid the numbers for both day and evening and revised the invite rather than think there was some conspiracy;

sometimes the simplest explanation is the obvious one, I’m fairly sure the boss isn’t giving a lot of thought to the op who he has never even met.

Many of us are confused about why dh going to the day event have any impact on numbers for the evening. Make no sense at all

Sounds like either the boss or dh don't want OP there and are making up weird excuses

I’d be surprised if many people would refuse to go to their bosses wedding if their partner couldnt come too. That sounds like a clingy sort of thing to do. I’m female, I’d go. And I’d not expect my husband to be weeping into his whisky or people telling him it meant I was delighted he wasn’t going, or I was gay or some of the other mad suggestions being made.

No one is deranged.
Some people wouldn't go to a work friend's wedding without their partner.
Some people would attend on their own without a thought.

I don't think anything about this scenario is worth a row over.

Deranged because people see it differently than you do? I wouldn’t call you deranged for having a different opinion.

Of course I don’t think anyone with a different opinion to me is deranged. But yes, I do think these particular opinions are deranged.

Me thinking it’s fine for OP’s husband to go to the wedding on its own and someone else thinking he shouldn’t go = different opinions.

Thinking OP’s husband going to a wedding alone means he must be in love with the groom, or that the groom and his fiancée are deliberately trying to drive a wedge between him and OP so they can marry him off to the groom’s sister = deranged.

Ahhh yes I agree with that, I assumed it was aimed at the last few replies!

I can fathom that. I find the adoration of the boss a bit strange that’s all

it's not opinion though

it's making up complete insane scenario and accuse the DH to want to meet his lover, or to be gay, in love with the groom and.. doing what on the wedding day exactly? 😂😂

Deranged doesn't cover it.

Absolutely, some are even doubling down and giving a little head tilt as they do it.

He’s not thrilled to be going without the op she never wrote that, hes thrilled to be going full stop as it shows how much his boss thinks of him

i cant fathom why you can’t grasp that.

Deranged because people see it differently than you do? I wouldn’t call you deranged for having a different opinion.

Anyway, I just think if that was me and I’d planned a whole rare night/ weekend away without kids with my DH based on the evening invite to this wedding I’d feel a bit guilty/bad if then it was changed to only me invited for the whole day and now DH not invited at all. Personally I would then not enjoy being at a wedding all day where I wouldn’t really know anyone but I know others wouldn’t care about that.

Honestly, some of the responses on this thread are deranged.

glad it's not just me 😂

I don't know if people are bored so they are trying to stir some trouble for the fun of it, or if they have so little life that they actually believe a word they writing

I’m not trying to be mean. I just don’t get it, as lots of others don’t too. It’s a discussion forum….

I find it bizarre that he’s ’thrilled and honoured’ to be invited to the day do without the OP and where he’ll know nobody. But he must be a very sociable person. I’m not saying it’s reflective of their relationship.

I’d be absolutely fine about not going (I wouldn’t want to go to be honest). I just find your DH’s enthusiasm for it all strange. My DH is a sociable guy and this would be his idea of hell. He’d really want me there too.

Are you quite ok, or did you wake up and chose mean?

he’s delighted to go all day as it shows how well his boss thinks of him and their relationship. This doesn’t indicate he’s delighted the op isn’t going.

as I am sure you know but fancied rushing in and giving her a kick?

So strange that he’s ’thrilled’ to be going to the day event without you.

Again, where are you getting that thrilled he’s going equals thrilled that OP isn’t?

Yeah all of this. So strange that he’s ’thrilled’ to be going to the day event without you. His boss will be busy all day. Your DH may be sociable but it’s still basically hanging around all day with people he doesn’t know.

YANBU. I think it’s very inconsiderate of the boss to leave you out. I can understand not inviting a casual gf, but when someone is in a long, committed relationship or married, it’s bizarre not to include their partner.

Ideally, if it was just a friend, your DH would decline, but he might be in an awkward position professionally. The boss has shown poor boundaries and a lack of judgement. There’s not much you can do about it unfortunately.