Not to pursue an ASD diagnosis as an adult

There is no mild autism.

High-functioning autism (HFA) is a non-medical term for people with mild autism spectrum disorder (ASD) or ASD Level 1

You don’t need a diagnosis

I did, in similar circumstances. In my case I felt compelled to have a definitive answer as to why I have always felt different / not quite able to work and live collectively with others despite being intelligent and generally viewed as a valued member of society. I feel a bit more able now to link my feelings to external factors - like picking up on the fact that the loud environment I have just been in was overwhelming for me, or the particular difficulties I experience as a parent. It has also highlighted my strengths and I feel more able to lean in to them since diagnosis.

I don’t feel disabled, fwiw. I feel like I have been granted something like an instruction manual for myself, and I see it as a positive.

The other point I would mention is that autistic women sometimes find their functioning getting worse or challenges become more apparent around menopause, so that may factor in.

And the way you trivialise a condition that has a massive detrimental impact on life for so many people really makes me question your aims with starting this thread.

GPs aren’t qualified to diagnose and why on earth would a GP bring up potential autism in a discussion about something else?They don’t have the time to discuss what you go in for properly let alone something completely unrelated and that has apparantly in your case not got any symptoms that cause issues. Finally to get a diagnosis autism needs to have significant impact on life. You are “high functioning, high achieving and high earning” who doesn’t need reasonable adjustments. As such I doubt you’d get a diagnosis.

We have a full house of undiagnosed (and hereditary) ND in our household. DD is currently seeking diagnosis because she needs adjustments for school. Her choice; school suggested. Other DD currently out of school because of ND but not seeking diagnosis because there’s no need (long boring story). The “science and theory” of ND is nascent and I am not convinced diagnosis particularly helps. None of us need medication or many adjustments; we know ourselves well and can manage our environments within our tolerance levels, and utilise the theory of what helps where it actually helps us. Unless there is a good reason or need for diagnosis (and for some, the need to know is one of those) then don’t bother.

I didn't bother - and my GP offered it along with the opinion that it was pretty much a certainty, and various friends who are medics have said the same (but obviously cannot dx as they are friends)...

But at the same time pointed out how long I might wait for the official dx...

And I can't have any of the relevant medication.
I don't work for anyone but myself and where I sub-contract, I only do so for people who are understanding and can make accomodations for my other far more pertinent disabilities.

I am on full PIP and UC anyway, it would make zero difference there.

I already accept that this is who I am and how my brain works, and those around me do too (unsurprisingly really my partner is dx as are many friends)...

So theres really nothing to be gained from having an official dx for me - its really up to you if it would change things for the better, or not.

I think in your shoes, I probably wouldn't bother, looking at your list of pros and cons.