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Trans men are women according to Gender Critical Movement

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ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

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eatfigs · 23/02/2025 20:33

@WiddlinDiddlin why do you believe that?

lifeturnsonadime · 23/02/2025 20:31

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/02/2025 18:33

Can you not imagine the issues that will arise when women who look like men, pass as men, have facial hair and big muscles, are using womens bathrooms.

I don't disagree that some people will feel uncomfortable at non-passing transwomen, and transwomen who have not had surgery, in female only spaces.

I do think forcing those people into male only spaces puts them at risk.

But putting transmen like the person in this picture, into female only spaces, is also going to cause a problem! You may feel like the person in this image is an outlier, but they are not - transmen tend to 'pass' far far more easily and more often.

The solution is not going to be insisting that they use the bathroom for their birth gender is it. That isn't going to work, regardless of what you think about transgender.

No one is putting her in the women's toilets though, it's up to her where she goes.

It's males in women's single sex spaces that risks harm to women. As the TRAs say no one is doing genital inspections.

She is being used to support the erosion of female boundaries. That's not on really.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/02/2025 20:30

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2025 18:43

The solution is not going to be insisting that they use the bathroom for their birth gender is it. That isn't going to work, regardless of what you think about transgender.

So again, as this gotcha has been attempted multiple times and hasn't got any better, what you're saying is that all masculine looking women should avoid using the ladies?

Personally, it's up to men to object to women in their spaces. I don't think they should use them but it's not my issue.

What I'm saying is that actual men, whatever stage they are of their "transition" are not welcome in female spaces.

There is no 'gotcha' - I think there should be a different kind of provision, trans spaces or do away with male/female multi-cubicle toilets entirely and have single user facilities that anyone can use, that does not put anyone in contact with anyone else.

But that is by the by, and isn't what is happening now.

I don't think 'all masculine looking women should avoid using the ladies' however as someone related to a masculine looking woman, I can tell you, they already are as a direct result of being accosted/attacked (yes!) by women who have jumped to conclusions.

@eatfigs "At this point, the general assumption when seeing a hirsute women - like the one in the photo you attached - in a female-only space will be that she's female."

Hahahahaha. Hahaha. No. It really really will not be.

ditalini · 23/02/2025 20:27

If Michael passes then Michael can use the men's. If a man realises that Michael is actually female and objects then Michael can be asked to leave. But as Michael passes then that won't happen will it? What with all that facial hair and big muscles.

If Michael wants to use the women's space then Michael is entitled to do so as a female person. Michael can expect to be challenged as their appearance has been changed by the use of testosterone, but Michael can explain this.

Or Michael can campaign for, and use, a third space. GC women are generally very supportive of such spaces which can be used by anyone who isn't comfortable using the space designated for their sex.

What isn't acceptable is for Michael to act as a Trojan horse for men who want to get into women's spaces, because lets face it, this is what it's all about. Sad for Michael if they haven't worked out by now that the only time TRAs give a shit about transmen is when they need a useful idiot.

Alucard55 · 23/02/2025 19:34

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2025 18:43

The solution is not going to be insisting that they use the bathroom for their birth gender is it. That isn't going to work, regardless of what you think about transgender.

So again, as this gotcha has been attempted multiple times and hasn't got any better, what you're saying is that all masculine looking women should avoid using the ladies?

Personally, it's up to men to object to women in their spaces. I don't think they should use them but it's not my issue.

What I'm saying is that actual men, whatever stage they are of their "transition" are not welcome in female spaces.

Very well said.

Keep all men out of womens spaces and men can fight their own battles.

eatfigs · 23/02/2025 18:44

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/02/2025 18:33

Can you not imagine the issues that will arise when women who look like men, pass as men, have facial hair and big muscles, are using womens bathrooms.

I don't disagree that some people will feel uncomfortable at non-passing transwomen, and transwomen who have not had surgery, in female only spaces.

I do think forcing those people into male only spaces puts them at risk.

But putting transmen like the person in this picture, into female only spaces, is also going to cause a problem! You may feel like the person in this image is an outlier, but they are not - transmen tend to 'pass' far far more easily and more often.

The solution is not going to be insisting that they use the bathroom for their birth gender is it. That isn't going to work, regardless of what you think about transgender.

When law and policy revert back to the norm of women's spaces being strictly female-only again, there will be a significant deterrent effect upon males who desire to be women even trying to use women's spaces.

If males know they can be investigated and penalized for this disregard of women's boundaries, they'll be much less likely to even try, and as a consequence, there will be much less suspicion overall of there being potential female impersonators trying to sneak into women's spaces.

At this point, the general assumption when seeing a hirsute women - like the one in the photo you attached - in a female-only space will be that she's female.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2025 18:43

The solution is not going to be insisting that they use the bathroom for their birth gender is it. That isn't going to work, regardless of what you think about transgender.

So again, as this gotcha has been attempted multiple times and hasn't got any better, what you're saying is that all masculine looking women should avoid using the ladies?

Personally, it's up to men to object to women in their spaces. I don't think they should use them but it's not my issue.

What I'm saying is that actual men, whatever stage they are of their "transition" are not welcome in female spaces.

Talkinpeace · 23/02/2025 18:36

How tall is she ?

Because many of the transmen are much shorter and slighter than their selfies would imply

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/02/2025 18:33

RobJamesCollierFor007 · 22/02/2025 02:10

I'm a bit confused here tbh. How is a transman suffering significant psychological trauma by being told to use a women's bathroom? How does being told to use the bathroom of their birth sex affect their sense of safety ? Women don't usually attack other women.

Can you not imagine the issues that will arise when women who look like men, pass as men, have facial hair and big muscles, are using womens bathrooms.

I don't disagree that some people will feel uncomfortable at non-passing transwomen, and transwomen who have not had surgery, in female only spaces.

I do think forcing those people into male only spaces puts them at risk.

But putting transmen like the person in this picture, into female only spaces, is also going to cause a problem! You may feel like the person in this image is an outlier, but they are not - transmen tend to 'pass' far far more easily and more often.

The solution is not going to be insisting that they use the bathroom for their birth gender is it. That isn't going to work, regardless of what you think about transgender.

Trans men are women according to Gender Critical Movement
Gymnopedie · 23/02/2025 18:21

Nameychangington · 23/02/2025 08:58

OP didn't come back then? I was sure we'd get another fact free emotional screed at about 3am. Oh well.

He/she (I don't know which, biologically or gender woo) is probably off on a TRA forum complaining that we're subjecting them to literal violence.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/02/2025 18:18

IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 23/02/2025 17:51

Do you know what, OP? My “lived experience “ as a woman in her 50s adds up to multiple sexual assaults (including rape), kerb crawling, being followed home off public transport, being groped a million fucking times. Guys you think you know turning out to be predatory. Honestly too many to count. And I am a very average person. You mentioned gaslighting, I am so sorry to tell you that it is you who is living in a delusion. Your massive diatribe is both cringe and utter bs.

being gender critical is a badge of honour, it literally means understanding and accepting reality.x
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GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 23/02/2025 17:59

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:18

Pity you weren't in med school with me so. You're all so ignorant in the UK when it comes to transpeople. Is it not being thought in schools or through the NHS?

Why do you all even care if someone calls themselves their correct gender. It doesn't threaten anyone or anything. Please get educated.

Except in sports, prisons, changing rooms, DV shelters, women's awards (best actress anyone?) if we can't define women we can't protect women's rights, recognise women's achievements or create any single sex spaces.

So in one sentence what is a woman if you think some men are then you are clearly rejecting the adult human female definition so we need new definition. Please let us know what it is.

WillIEverBeOk · 23/02/2025 17:55

Apennyforapound · 23/02/2025 10:58

I agree with this in the sense of biology. I do however think that this man is a woman in her mind, and born in the wrong biological body (that body is either biologically male, or biologically female, as much as they would prefer it to be otherwise). You can only change that body to an extent using science, and there is no uterus and different pelvic organs.

People don't attempt to change sex flippantly, I can not imagine going through all of the hormone process and painful operations. At the end of all of this, they have a body that is as close as possible to the sex they should have been born as.

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You do realise that 97% (at least with transwomen) don't have any surgery, right? So they do absolutely nothing but claim they are a woman because.... they feel like it (or, rather, get aroused by dressing as women), @Apennyforapound .

IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 23/02/2025 17:51

Do you know what, OP? My “lived experience “ as a woman in her 50s adds up to multiple sexual assaults (including rape), kerb crawling, being followed home off public transport, being groped a million fucking times. Guys you think you know turning out to be predatory. Honestly too many to count. And I am a very average person. You mentioned gaslighting, I am so sorry to tell you that it is you who is living in a delusion. Your massive diatribe is both cringe and utter bs.

being gender critical is a badge of honour, it literally means understanding and accepting reality.x
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WillIEverBeOk · 23/02/2025 17:47

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:20

Why do you care about being a women or what it means be a woman though?? I'm a cisgender woman and couldn't give a sht who called themselves one. It doesn't effect anything or any of our rights.

Why do you care about being a women or what it means be a woman though??

Spoken like a male supremacist. Any feminist will tell you why it counts to be a woman and what it means to be a woman - a member of the oppressed sex class. You may as well ask Why do you care about being black or what it means be black though??

WillIEverBeOk · 23/02/2025 17:44

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:22

I finished in 2005, of course we study gender issues.

You realise 'gender' is a misogynistic man-made social construct that isn't tangible and doesn't exist... right? Only sex is real and exists. And female only intimate safe single SEX spaces are based on....SEX. Not a 'gender' in some male's head.

WillIEverBeOk · 23/02/2025 17:42

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:20

Why do you care about being a women or what it means be a woman though?? I'm a cisgender woman and couldn't give a sht who called themselves one. It doesn't effect anything or any of our rights.

A MALE with a COCK AND NUT SACK in a safe FEMALE ONLY space affects all women and girls, especially rape survivors. Cast aside your brainwashing and science denialism and use critical thinking.

WillIEverBeOk · 23/02/2025 17:40

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:18

Pity you weren't in med school with me so. You're all so ignorant in the UK when it comes to transpeople. Is it not being thought in schools or through the NHS?

Why do you all even care if someone calls themselves their correct gender. It doesn't threaten anyone or anything. Please get educated.

If you were in med school, you'd know a male with a cock and balls is not any type of woman, @H112 .

WillIEverBeOk · 23/02/2025 17:39

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:13

Transwomen are women. They don't effect my daily life as a woman so why would I care about what they do.

@H112 'Transwomen' are males with penis and testicles. If you have a cock and balls, how are you a woman? If a male with penis and testicles are in a female only safe single sex space, where many of us women and girls are rape survivors, it affects us.

Its clear you don't actually know what a 'transwoman' is.

eatfigs · 23/02/2025 17:37

H112 · 23/02/2025 10:13

Transwomen are women. They don't effect my daily life as a woman so why would I care about what they do.

Are you sure about that?

What about these ones who, by their own admission, get sexually aroused when wearing clothing intended for women?

Surely getting an erect penis as a consequence of cross-dressing would preclude one from being a woman?

Helleofabore · 23/02/2025 14:02

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 23/02/2025 13:43

Without becoming the 'genital inspectors' genderists accuse us of being there is no way to tell if a particular trans identified person has had full 'reassignment' surgery or not so even if people want to make a case for post-op males to access women only spaces it really is unworkable. Even if there was a system in place that somehow allowed post op men in but no others (some sort of fanny operated scanner?) it doesn't prevent women from being 'triggered' by the presence of someone with male biological advantage in an intimate female space. Male voice, male gait, male build may all remain regardless of surgery and can be terrifying to some women. As ever it comes back to why is it OK to traumatise some women so as not to upset a tiny minority of men?

Indeed.

There are so many issues.

And, of course, the lazy 'you can't police it so why bother'.

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 23/02/2025 13:43

Helleofabore · 23/02/2025 13:14

I agree that people extend sympathy to one and not the other.

It is remarkable though to see the lengths that people will go to on the basis of that sympathy. Yet, when they are asked directly what the difference is, they cannot articulate it so it seems.

The reality is clear to me that there should be absolutely no requirement for any male person to go through a brutal surgery (or female person to go through an even more brutal surgery) to in any way 'earn' the right of access to somewhere that they should be excluded, even if that is just by social contract. Yet, this position that if they have 'shown commitment to their identity' they should be accepted, puts these people into the position of feeling that they have to do this to be accepted.

It is noticeable that when people are asked to state the difference between the two groups of male people who have had the exact same surgery, they don't seem to be able to give a plausible answer.

Without becoming the 'genital inspectors' genderists accuse us of being there is no way to tell if a particular trans identified person has had full 'reassignment' surgery or not so even if people want to make a case for post-op males to access women only spaces it really is unworkable. Even if there was a system in place that somehow allowed post op men in but no others (some sort of fanny operated scanner?) it doesn't prevent women from being 'triggered' by the presence of someone with male biological advantage in an intimate female space. Male voice, male gait, male build may all remain regardless of surgery and can be terrifying to some women. As ever it comes back to why is it OK to traumatise some women so as not to upset a tiny minority of men?

Helleofabore · 23/02/2025 13:26

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 23/02/2025 13:10

*dapsnotplimsolls · Today 12:47

I think there are still far too many people who don't realise that the percentage of TW who've had their penis removed is minuscule.*

There was a study completed (I wish I could refind the study) where chemical castration was routinely used with male offenders who were guilty of sexual violence.

The results showed that, although those male offenders could no longer rape, they comitted even more sexual offences, and caused even more physical damage (through using their hands and other objects to penetrate their victims mostly female), than those sex offenders who were not chemically castrated.

Showing 1. It's not just about sex, but also power and 2. The sexual violence was expressed in a different way.

I remember reading that study.

There is an over reliance on people thinking that the risk is about use of the penis and that removing testes will also decrease that 'risk'. But then you have to consider also that male people need to have a certain minimum of testosterone to stay physically healthy long term. And we know that testosterone reduction doesn't reduce the physical advantages that those male people have.

Just their grip strength and punch power remains so much higher and barely skims the maximum grip strength of female people if I remember correctly. Meaning that they can keep holding onto someone whereas a female person has less chance of keeping hold of someone they are attacking. And a female person's punch is not going to have the same power to overpower a victim.

Plus, lots of people like to ignore that particular castration paraphilia that some male people have. I mean, they are trying to normalise that paraphilia along with all the others. To some male people, being castrated is a sexual fetish.

Kittygolightlyy · 23/02/2025 13:21

TheKeatingFive · 23/02/2025 12:40

The thing is, posters like the one in question are almost always coming from a place of unacknowledged privilege.

They can't see any of that happening to them. They can't conceive of themselves in prison.

They may not be so immune to rape/domestic abuse/hospitalisation, but they imagine they'd be able to access alternative provision (though money or connections) if it happened to them.

They know nothing about competitive sport.

They simply do not care about these women - who are the ones suffering due to this ideology. In fact, their predicament may not have even crossed their privileged minds.

So they go out to bat for the men instead 🙄

Yes. Also. When a woman calls herself a ‘cisgender woman’, it is clear there are biases afoot.

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 23/02/2025 13:20

NeedToChangeName · 23/02/2025 13:10

Perhaps NHS should record (1) biological sex, (2) acquired / legal sex if GRC in place and (3) preferred gender

That way, they would know how someone wishes to be addressed, and what treatment to offer

Otherwise, seems risky if they might eg not invite transman for smear tests, on basis GP records show that person to be a man / male

And also, for those rare transwomen who do have genital surgery, the prostate is rarely removed (as it can lead to incontinence).

Therefore, a transwoman currently with F on their NHS record, may be at significant risk, if their need for prostate examinations and PSA testing is ignored.

As an aside, compare this to the evidence that at least 95% of transmen will end up incontinent after wrong sex hormones (testosterone).