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Trans men are women according to Gender Critical Movement

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ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

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Meceme · 22/02/2025 13:33

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:30

I do actually. Agreed they look odd but I wouldn’t be sure.

And thats in a still photo. Add in movement and voice and its really easy to tell. You might initially read them as "odd" and it might warrent a second glance to be sure but (baring overt and deleberate aggressive behaviour, drugs etc) you are unlikely to feel threatened because you instinctively pick up the female vibe.

SinnerBoy · 22/02/2025 13:31

Helleofabore · Today 08:24

While this is going to be a great thread to discuss the actual harms to those female people who have a transgender identity if they are treated as if their philosophical belief that they are male was material reality, I suspect your posts are actually more about leveraging those female people to validate male people with transgender identities.

Damned good post in general, as usual, Helle I think it dovetails with middle aged men insisting that little children are trans and should be fed puberty blockers and other mistreatments. As many have said, they have tried to use that to advance their position that people know and always have, from the earliest age.

Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 13:31

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:15

I don’t really get the obsession with toilets. Anyone can walk into a toilet , it’s not like there are bouncers outside checking everyone’s sex. It’s ridiculous people saying that trans men are welcome to use the women’s toilet. I don’t think I would necessarily know someone was a trans man by looking at them. I’d just be very confused by them being in the toilet.

I don’t agree with trans women using female changing rooms like in the nhs nurse case or participating in women’s sports. But some of the comments about toilets are nonsensical.

Comments about toilets are not 'nonsensical' despite what you think. They really are not and you telling women that they are writing nonsense when they are stating their boundaries.

You have a point about a female who has taken testosterone entering a female single sex space though as there will be some female people confused by their presence. ie. Those female people who cannot read the body cues that remain untouched by testosterone.

What we know from discussing this with female people who have taken testosterone is that they are fully aware that their presence may cause other female people distress. So they, even now, will find alternative solutions for their needs. They go far out of their way to do this and they plan ahead.

While theoretically, those female people taking testosterone should still be welcome to use the female single sex spaces, it may not work for all other female people. There is an acknowledgment that those female people have taken the decision to modify their appearance through testosterone treatments.

If male people had respected the needs of female people from the outset and not forced access for some male people into female single sex spaces, it might have been a different outcome by now for those female people. However, those male people did force access.

The point though is that no laws would be workable to exclude those female people who take testosterone from female single sex spaces. While there can be laws to exclude all male people above the age of needing a female parent or carer to be with them from single sex spaces. One can be legalised, but excluding female people from female single sex spaces is not really a possibility in any case.

ditalini · 22/02/2025 13:30

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:22

On the contrary you sound confused. I doubt women who look like men would be “welcome” in the women’s toilets or changing rooms despite what people are saying .

You're right. A transman who actually passes will get questioned in women's spaces which is perfectly normal and how it should be for safeguarding purposes. They will have known this when they chose to take testosterone.

However, the majority either do not take drugs or aren't very convincing in the flesh (they tend to make very tiny men since the y chromosome is largely responsible for final male height).

Anyway, up to them. It doesn't mean that we can't have rules that allow access based on sex, just that a tiny minority might have to explain or use third spaces.

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:30

Nameychangington · 22/02/2025 13:27

Do you have difficulty correctly sexing the people in this photo? Humans are really good at knowing each others' sex. Every transman I've met (and I've met more than you'd think) was under 5'3 and at most passed as a slight teenage lad. Women don't look like men, and vice versa, except in carefully posted and filtered photos.

I do actually. Agreed they look odd but I wouldn’t be sure.

Meceme · 22/02/2025 13:29

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:22

On the contrary you sound confused. I doubt women who look like men would be “welcome” in the women’s toilets or changing rooms despite what people are saying .

They would be more welcome than men who think they look like women.
Masculine "butch" presenting women have always existed and societally the wearing of "male" stereotypical clothing by women has been accepted so its nothing really new. Having grown up with female socialisation they are much, much less likely to pose a threat to other women than men (whether wearing a dress or not).
Crime statistics bear this out.

Nameychangington · 22/02/2025 13:27

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:22

On the contrary you sound confused. I doubt women who look like men would be “welcome” in the women’s toilets or changing rooms despite what people are saying .

Do you have difficulty correctly sexing the people in this photo? Humans are really good at knowing each others' sex. Every transman I've met (and I've met more than you'd think) was under 5'3 and at most passed as a slight teenage lad. Women don't look like men, and vice versa, except in carefully posted and filtered photos.

Trans men are women according to Gender Critical Movement
Thelnebriati · 22/02/2025 13:27

So what's stopping you all campaigning for a third gender neutral option? If activists had done that from the outset, there wouldn't be this issue regarding single sex facilities now.

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:22

ditalini · 22/02/2025 13:19

How odd. Why would you be bothered about a transman using the toilet when you know anyone could just walk in (because of the lack of bouncers doing genital checks)?

Surely you just assume every space you use is mixed sex because you can't possibly tell by looking?

You sound confused.

On the contrary you sound confused. I doubt women who look like men would be “welcome” in the women’s toilets or changing rooms despite what people are saying .

ditalini · 22/02/2025 13:19

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:15

I don’t really get the obsession with toilets. Anyone can walk into a toilet , it’s not like there are bouncers outside checking everyone’s sex. It’s ridiculous people saying that trans men are welcome to use the women’s toilet. I don’t think I would necessarily know someone was a trans man by looking at them. I’d just be very confused by them being in the toilet.

I don’t agree with trans women using female changing rooms like in the nhs nurse case or participating in women’s sports. But some of the comments about toilets are nonsensical.

How odd. Why would you be bothered about a transman using the toilet when you know anyone could just walk in (because of the lack of bouncers doing genital checks)?

Surely you just assume every space you use is mixed sex because you can't possibly tell by looking?

You sound confused.

RaveToTheGrave1 · 22/02/2025 13:18

I don't really care, I don't want some random man in the bathroom with me, invading spaces made for me and pretending his struggle is mine lol.

Nameychangington · 22/02/2025 13:16

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:41

Here's an article about how the earth is flat

https://theflatearthsociety.org/home/index.php

So now by posting that have I proved the earth is flat?

Maybe stop spamming propaganda and engage in the discussion.

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:15

I don’t really get the obsession with toilets. Anyone can walk into a toilet , it’s not like there are bouncers outside checking everyone’s sex. It’s ridiculous people saying that trans men are welcome to use the women’s toilet. I don’t think I would necessarily know someone was a trans man by looking at them. I’d just be very confused by them being in the toilet.

I don’t agree with trans women using female changing rooms like in the nhs nurse case or participating in women’s sports. But some of the comments about toilets are nonsensical.

Scammersarescum · 22/02/2025 13:13

ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 03:08

It is having one's lived experience denied that is responsible for the psychological trauma. It is bring gaslighted about the most fundamental aspect of one's being. Everytime the wrong pronoun is used, everytime a gender designation appears on an identity document that conflicts with an individuals innate experience of themself, everytime the individual has to walk into a changing room, public toilet, or hospital ward that conflicts with their innate experience of themself, every time they are referred to by a given name that conflicts with their innate experience of their self, a transgender person is being gaslit and emotionally abused.

Gender identity refers to how an individual experiences their "I". Nobody else but the individual him/ herself has access to a person's "I'. This "I" which we all have is the most fundamental experience of who "I" am. Absolutely nobody else can tell us how we should experience our sense of "I' because it is a subject and falls outside the domain of objective inquiry.

The almost universal criteria used historically to identify the biological sex of an individual at birth is the presence or lack of a penis. Presence of penis = boy, lack of penis =girl. The designation of the sex of an individual on their birth certificate reflects the categorisation of the individual's sex according to this criteria.

If the biological sex of an individual cannot be changed then the results of using the same test to determine the sex of the individual at birth would remain unchanged no matter at what point the criteria was applied during an individual's life. If the same criteria is applied to a post op transgender woman her lack of a penis would mean that her biological sex would be determined to be female not male. Since the Gender Critical Movement's ideology declares that sex is binary - there is no spectrum- an individual without a penis and outer female genitals is by default designated female. A post op transgender woman is categorised as female therefore using the same criteria that categorised her as male at birth.

It is this simple basic logic that was responsible for the term transsexual being coined - so yes, an individual can change their biological sex and a post op transgender woman is therefore a biological woman.

If a man loses his penis in an accident does he become a woman? No he doesn't, so stop being so daft.

Women who believe sex is immutable can be from anywhere on the political spectrum. They're not part of a movement, they just believe in science and fact.

Trump has jumped upon multiple political issues which clearly mean nothing to him but can garner him votes. This is just one of them.

So what exactly do you want OP? In all of your wordy diatribe your main goal seems to be to minimise the suffering of women who have been raped by transwomen. Apparently that is less important than the feels of men appropriating womanhood? Are you asking people to agree with you that we should ignore the trampling of women's rights and safety?

Would you feel the same if a white person insisted on identifying as black or an able bodied person disabled?

I don't care how small the number, when a man can sexually assault a child in a Morrison"s bathroom he should never have been in because he says his name is now Katie something is very wrong and to be fair that's only the tip of the iceberg. There's plenty of other cases, including rapes in women's prisons.

I'm a centrist, an absolute centrist and a floating voter. I believe Trump is an absolute cunt, a monster without conscience and very possibly under Putin's control. I also know that people simply cannot change sex and that those who feel they are need support and ththery.the two are not mutually exclusive.

I'm sure plenty of women feel the same.

Waitingfordoggo · 22/02/2025 13:12

'Presence of penis = boy, lack of penis =girl'

Good grief, Nursey is that you?

('A boy without a winkle is a girl')

Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 13:09

OfNoOne · 22/02/2025 13:04

@Rosie8880 what you're posting isn't science, it's marketing.

It could be described as political activism even more than marketing.

HaveYouActuallyDoneAnyWashingThisWeekMum · 22/02/2025 13:09

OfNoOne · 22/02/2025 13:04

@Rosie8880 what you're posting isn't science, it's marketing.

It’s also totally loopy.

Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 13:08

Teapot13 · 22/02/2025 12:33

Most people responding to OP are gender-critical feminists.

Trump is not a gender-critical feminist. He’s a plain, old-fashioned sexist.

Even though I agree with so many things in his executive order—like the focus on sex as opposed to gender, safety of women’s spaces—let me tell you, it gave me no pleasure to read the order. Which I have to interpret and enforce at work—I wasn’t just reading it out of interest.

Most women on here have no animosity towards trans people. We just want our safety and dignity to get equal consideration. Trump does not care about the safety or dignity of women—he just wants to pick on trans people.

The executive order and general anti-trans sentiment is not attributable to gender-critical feminism—no one’s cares about or listens to us! It’s attributable to how crazy trans ideology is to regular people.

Wouldn't it have been wonderful if it was the Democratic Party supporting all this?

Instead, we ended up with EO from Biden in that first day, week, month that were damaging to female people. And we ended up with a fetishist suitcase stealer advisor, a male military medic who was celebrated as being the first female of that rank and a newly minted 'girl' asked to the White House to meet Biden and celebrated. Oh... and a male who exposed their breasts on the lawn (or did I misremember that one?)

As it is, the EOs that Trump put through really only Federally put the US in the vicinity of where the UK is now. It is not controversial at all what Trump has done. Sadly, Trump will be Trump and the Democratic Party failed to convince voters to re-elect them.

OfNoOne · 22/02/2025 13:04

@Rosie8880 what you're posting isn't science, it's marketing.

Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 13:02

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:41

Please Rosie, stop posting this article that is based in ideological thinking and is not supporting what you seem to think it is supporting.

Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 12:59

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:24

thanks for your response. It’s interesting isn’t it, when understand that there are not just two biological genders both in humans and in nature, and the variety that exists. The view I have is that whether one falls into a majority or a minority - we exist as we are. And, following this we should be allowed to exist, peacefully with same dignity, acceptance as those in minorities and majorities.

"when understand that there are not just two biological genders both in humans"

There are only two sexes in humans. And either a gazillion genders as everyone experiences this differently or no genders and we understand that there are a gazillion personalities.

This is not an interesting thought experiment because of the way that extreme activists have leveraged these theories to attempt to support their philosophical belief.

There is no biological basis for a gender identity. And there is only two sexes because the existence of people with differences of sex development do not, in any way, make sex not binary.

Still just two sexes and every person can be categorised with modern medical testing as being either male or female. Please don't use people's differences in sex development in thought experiments about gender.

ditalini · 22/02/2025 12:55

Thanks for your responses Rosie888! They're neither accurate nor useful, but they are responses.

I genuinely believe that this sort of pseudoscience peaks more lurkers than anything else.

borntobequiet · 22/02/2025 12:53

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:24

thanks for your response. It’s interesting isn’t it, when understand that there are not just two biological genders both in humans and in nature, and the variety that exists. The view I have is that whether one falls into a majority or a minority - we exist as we are. And, following this we should be allowed to exist, peacefully with same dignity, acceptance as those in minorities and majorities.

This is nonsense.

SeethingHarpie · 22/02/2025 12:51

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:39

Hi thanks for the reponse. Please do have a read of intersex in this link too. What is interesting is when understand that there are more than two, male/ female biological genders in humans , this helps understand better how for example, gender isn’t always binary. It is more diverse. What I am also interested in is how we as society treat everyone, including minorities.

www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/gender-identity/sex-gender-identity/whats-intersex

FFS

There are no “biological genders”! There exists biological SEX, as a scientific fact, and PERSONALITY which is “gender” for some people. These are NOT the same things.

Stop using the word “intersex” - it doesn’t mean there are more than 2 sexes, and more importantly people with DSDs (Disorders of Sexual Development) DO NOT WANT their conditions to be called “intersex” nor for DSDs to be used in transgender arguments.

I am not sure if you actually read other posts, but they are not agreeing with you in any way, shape or form. What you are writing is nonsensical - please stop and actually consider that even your “evidence” does not support your arguments!

WillIEverBeOk · 22/02/2025 12:48

@Rosie8880 Please educate yourself: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10265381/
Intersex does not violate the sex binary.

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