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Trans men are women according to Gender Critical Movement

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ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

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heathspeedwell · 22/02/2025 17:45

The average transman is 5 foot 2". They can be even shorter if they had the misfortune to take puberty blockers.

Women who identify as men can look a lot like men in carefully posed photos, but in real life they have a female gait which is the most obvious way to instantly spot that they are women. Then there's the small hands and feet, wide hips, narrow shoulders, lack of male nuchal crest...

I know a few transmen in real life and they all look female. It's heart breaking that they have given up so much in pursuit of something that they will never have. There should be far more discussion at gender clinics about the fact that so many transmen end up incontinent because of the effects of taking so much testosterone. Sadly, what toilet they choose to use is the least of their problems.

HipTightOnions · 22/02/2025 17:44

Please can you explain to me what gender is?
If you want me to think it is a real thing then can you please define it for me?

Oh yes please, we'd all love to know!

Or if that's too tricky, what are the key differences between man and woman gender? Or just one?

Mightymoog · 22/02/2025 17:43

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:39

It's not that rare.

my 18 to son is only 5 foot tall but definitely looks male.
Dressed in a skirt he would look like a hort male in a skirt

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:39

Neurodiversitydoctor · 22/02/2025 17:35

Some one with XX chromosones of 6ft 4 ? Really that is vanishingly rare.

It's not that rare.

lifeturnsonadime · 22/02/2025 17:38

Booboobagins · 22/02/2025 15:58

They can transition to another gender in law. Therefore whether you're saying gender is or isn't a real thing is a moot point.

If you have nothing constructive to say that helps people who want to change their gender, then perhaps best to say nothing.

Please can you explain to me what gender is?

If you want me to think it is a real thing then can you please define it for me?

Helleofabore · 22/02/2025 17:38

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 15:40

@Helleofabore i wasn’t censuring anyone either. I agree with most of your points to be honest. I just don’t feel as passionate about toilets and they are always used as an example.

So telling a group that their opinions are nonsensical is not censuring. Telling posters their questions are stupid is 'not censuring anyone'?

And posting laughing reactions on posts that are not funny is 'not censuring anyone'?

Good to know where your boundaries on censuring sit. Thanks for letting me know.

BreatheAndFocus · 22/02/2025 17:38

OfNoOne · 22/02/2025 17:29

... is scientifically incorrect.

You missed out laughable, nonsensical and ridiculous!
It’s like TRA bingo! Clownfish! 😂 Have we had the Scientific American article yet? 🤣

Fimofriend · 22/02/2025 17:35

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 15:40

@Helleofabore i wasn’t censuring anyone either. I agree with most of your points to be honest. I just don’t feel as passionate about toilets and they are always used as an example.

So it isn't important to you and therefore you don't care that it is important to other people? How charming!

Neurodiversitydoctor · 22/02/2025 17:35

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 13:45

I met a trans teenager who was 6 ft 4 and looked exactly like a teenage boy. It’s fine to think they would be welcome in theory. In practice and in reality they wouldn’t.

Some one with XX chromosones of 6ft 4 ? Really that is vanishingly rare.

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:30

BaMamma · 22/02/2025 17:28

Not if the TRAs have anything to do with it!

They can try and stop me. But I'm a middle aged woman with no fucks left to give and they'll have a fucking job 😃

OfNoOne · 22/02/2025 17:29

user1471523931 · 22/02/2025 16:06

This

... is scientifically incorrect.

BaMamma · 22/02/2025 17:28

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:20

But there is. You , I , anyone can challenge a man entering a women's toilets.

Not if the TRAs have anything to do with it!

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 22/02/2025 17:25

SinnerBoy · 22/02/2025 16:59

Something was niggling me at the back of my mind and I've just realised what it was. In heraldry, a wyvern is a kind of snake. I wonder what sort of person would choose pink snake as a username?

It's a euphemism for something, alright.

Ooh good spot!!

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 17:20

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 14:47

In my opinion we are all going around in circles about it. There is just no way of policing who goes into a toilet unfortunately.

But there is. You , I , anyone can challenge a man entering a women's toilets.

Cornflakes123 · 22/02/2025 17:14

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/02/2025 17:02

yeh so if you don’t agree with this “group of posters” you are immediately shunned and made to feel like your opinion doesn’t count. I stand by what I said and I’m entitled to my opinion just like the “group”

And anyone is entitled to call out irrational and hypocritical posts you make too 🤷‍♀️ whether it's one person or many.

In your opinion it’s irrational that doesn’t make your opinion fact. I don’t agree that all trans men look like women. Or they are all 5ft nothing. Sorry.

dementedpixie · 22/02/2025 17:10

Rosie8880 · 22/02/2025 12:41

Oh for goodness sake, the doctors don't just choose a sex for a baby with a dsd! They do genetic testing to find out if they are male or female. And they will be male or female with a disorder of sexual development not a hybrid with bits and pieces of both sexes!

IButtleSir · 22/02/2025 17:03

BreatheAndFocus · 22/02/2025 15:55

Buck Angel, yes. Buck has that gnarled look and is older. But Jamie Raines still looks female to me despite their height. Everything about their face and mannerisms and way of talking screams female at me. I imagine it would be even more so in real life.

However, most transmen are clearly female. The facial hair would mean a second glance, but it would be pretty obvious once you properly looked.

That's interesting- I genuinely don't think I'd realise Jamie Raines is female if I didn't already know. Same for Aaron Kimberly.

I'd certainly feel uncomfortable if they walked into a changing room while I was naked, just as I would if a transwoman (most of whom don't pass at all) did.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 22/02/2025 17:02

yeh so if you don’t agree with this “group of posters” you are immediately shunned and made to feel like your opinion doesn’t count. I stand by what I said and I’m entitled to my opinion just like the “group”

And anyone is entitled to call out irrational and hypocritical posts you make too 🤷‍♀️ whether it's one person or many.

SinnerBoy · 22/02/2025 16:59

Something was niggling me at the back of my mind and I've just realised what it was. In heraldry, a wyvern is a kind of snake. I wonder what sort of person would choose pink snake as a username?

It's a euphemism for something, alright.

IButtleSir · 22/02/2025 16:57

Meceme · 22/02/2025 16:01

I would imagine that in the very rare case of a transman passing so well that they were indistinguishable from biological men they would be sensitive enough to the worries of women (female lived experience before transition) not to use female single sex spaces. Perhaps gender neutral spaces would be more appropriate here.

Yes, I think gender neutral spaces (as much as I hate the word gender) are definitely useful for transmen.

Mightymoog · 22/02/2025 16:50

In the case transpeople, I support them to wear whatever they like, use whatever name they please, love whichever consenting adult they are attracted to and basically live life without fear or persecution.
Where my support ends is the denial of reality which impinges on others rights to clear language, safety, dignity and privacy

Yep, that's the crux of it for all sane people.
Wear what you want, I don't care
Shag whoever you want- I don't care as long as it's legal
Call yourself by whatever pronoun you want- I don't care but I won't also be butchering the English language so i won't return the pronoun
Pretend you are whatever you want- I don't care as long as I don't have any men in my changing rooms, toiletrs, prisons etc.

Oh, and I have just as much a right to an opinion as anyone else, and if i think you're nuts then that's my perogative and if that hurts your feelings, again, i don't care

MuckSavage · 22/02/2025 16:47

ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

This is Mumsnet - not TRAnet.

Meceme · 22/02/2025 16:43

ThisPinkWyvern · 22/02/2025 02:04

Under Trump's transgender policy, which echoes the ideology of the Gender Critical Movement, trans women are men and trans men are women. This view denies and rejects as worthless and baseless the lived experience of millions of men and women in the US who identify as trans. As a result of having their lived experience of themself ignored and denied by law, millions of trans men as well as trans women are now experiencing deep psychological trauma and living in abject fear and terror in the US. Many are trying to leave the country because they are so terrified.

The almost total silence of the Gender Critical Movement and it's supporters about the effect that it's ideology has had on those hundreds of thousand of women who self identify as men is deafening.It's whole argument about banning trans women from female public toilets and other ' women only spaces' is based on the argument that denying trans women the right to access these spaces is needed to protect the safety of women and girls. Given the fear, terror and trauma that hundreds of thousands of women( trans men) are now experiencing in the US, as a result of the government putting into practise Gender Critical Movement ideology, the sense of safety and well-being of hundreds of thousands of women has been devastated. This makes the infinitesimally small number of cases where women have been or ever would be assaulted by a trans woman in a women only space pale into insignificance by comparison.

In short, the Gender Critical Movement is directly responsible for harming the well being of hundreds of thousands of WOMEN according to it's own ideology.The damage done by implementing it's ideology makes a sickening mockery of it's claim that it's ideology protects the safety of women and girls.

When the number of men( trans women) in the US who are now living in fear and terror in the US is taken into account as well, the Gender Critical Movement and all those who support it are directly responsible for terrorising millions of people. It is impossible to claim that we are supporting women's rights and protecting the safety of women if we support the Gender Critical Movement.

What a load of bollocks.
Trans people know their biological sex. I don't personally believe in the concept of gender but don't care if others do.
Trans people might not be happy about it and believe they should have been born the other sex but lots of people have dysphoric feelings. We don't necessarily go along with them.
In the case transpeople, I support them to wear whatever they like, use whatever name they please, love whichever consenting adult they are attracted to and basically live life without fear or persecution.
Where my support ends is the denial of reality which impinges on others rights to clear language, safety, dignity and privacy.

ILikeDungs · 22/02/2025 16:34

Sorry to get involved in this when there has been so much back and forth already (I have been out), and I don't want Cornflakes to feel singled out at all but--

There is just no way of policing who goes into a toilet unfortunately.

So do we give up then? Because some people do things that are antisocial/ inappropriate/ unlawful and their actions are seemingly uncontrollable do we throw our hands up and say all right then, Go For It?

Most women do not want a man in her toilet. That is a boundary that should not be crossed even if you are not fussed. Women (transmen) nae bither.

Some may feel men in the toilets are fine. And by men I mean men or transwomen, who are also men. Some do feel that way but are not so keen to see them in women's changing rooms. As soon as you (general you) say, "ok, I'll give you the freedom of women's toilets but Grrrr! stay out of the changing rooms" the men will definitely be content and not bother women any more, right? Only remember when some women said "let's give them the word woman, who cares we still have 'female'." With Dr Upton and others, that didn't end well.

niadainud · 22/02/2025 16:33

It's not really a matter of being "according to" anybody. Trans-women are men, period. (Or rather no period, because they're men. See above.)