You guys have been amazing, my friends views are always “one sided” so I look to you for advice.
Long story short
Ex and I spilt last year, briefly got back together but he cheated again
He now has a new gf met in oct/nov madly in love, she’s met my son (2 months in) he’s calling her “mum” (this has now been corrrected)
Ex still tells me he loves me, tries it with me all the time and has been sending sexual messages which I’ve ignored
Last week she went through his phone found messages he sent to me, his phone is now broke so I can’t reach him but he was supposed to collect son on Wednesday from nursery, he told me he couldn’t as he had no money to get here, his mum then told me he had gone to meet gf.
He was supposed to collect son again tonight from nursery for an overnight stay at his mums he didn’t turn up, no call nothing - his mum doesn’t know where he is.
He has been bad in the past with letting my son down, says one thing and does the opposite and I can’t help but think because of her findings she may have a influence of him being around me/son
I previously wanted to take this to court a year or so back as he was really bad with letting us down and I was at the end of my tether with him.
He hasn’t paid for his son since 6th December- claiming benefits when working and not declaring income, child maintenance won’t touch him until he’s off benefits (fraud he is taking over 3k a month from work and benefits at least) he’s a bricklayer so earns well rent minimal (he lied to get a council flat)
AIBU for asking him to go court for access now and get some structure in our lives. My plans are always cancelled due to him not doing what we agreed.
ive tried medation he’s not enagaing