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WFH- partner came over unannounced

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Inchacha · 21/02/2025 14:56

I mainly WFH. I was in a video call meeting earlier when DP arrived at my house unannounced (we don’t live together). He was unwell yesterday and I know he is really worried about his health, I made my excuses from my call for a few mins whilst I said hello to and made him a cup of tea, checked how he was feeling and apologised that I couldn’t take more time out of my meeting (sometimes when he pops over unannounced I might be able to grab 15 mins but not always). I rejoined my call.

DP then interrupted me after 20 mins or so by coming into my office, made stupid noises and laughed when I muted my call and asked him to keep it down. I was really embarrassed. He left but 20 mins later came back and said he was going and it was clear he was pretty cross that I hadn’t made more effort to fuss round him.

I understand that he is scared about his health and wanted more support than I gave him. But AIBU to think that I shouldn’t have just dropped everything? I know that when I call him in a minute he’ll say something along the lines of “as your partner I should take priority over work” or something like that and it will be the start of a reason to be cross with me.

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Overtheatlantic · 21/02/2025 15:02

That’s narcissistic behaviour

Timeforabiscuit · 21/02/2025 15:01

That is the most completely childish and disrespectful thing I've read in a while.

Absolutely not on interrupting your work, invading your personal space and all because he can't be an adult!

Please read him the riot act and state exactly why this is not ok and must not be repeated - in my book it would be a dumpable offence just for the disrespect signalling a huge mismatch.

MidnightPatrol · 21/02/2025 15:01

Odd.

Why is he so worried about his health?

suburberphobe · 21/02/2025 15:01

“as your partner I should take priority over work”

He sounds like a big baby.

I'd be dumping him for that remark alone.

MrsTerryPratchett · 21/02/2025 15:00

Why would you call? Change the locks and wait to see if he gives you a heartfelt apology.

FFS boundaries.

Glorybox2025 · 21/02/2025 15:00

Is this really the relationship you want to be in??

CatsLikeBoxes · 21/02/2025 15:00

Unless there is some kind of emergency with his health, like he needs to go to hospital, it's ridiculous of him to think he takes priority over work during working hours.

Changingplace · 21/02/2025 14:59

I would be absolutely livid! Why on earth couldn’t he have called/texted and checked if it was a good time?

Why are you worrying about him being cross with you? He’s a complete idiot!

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 21/02/2025 14:58

Don’t let him in next time, he clearly doesn’t respect you for interrupting you at work, I would be furious

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