WFH- partner came over unannounced

You need to fuck him right off before he gets you sacked.

Which he'd be delighted by, as he'd then get you serving his needs all of the time.

Has he made any stupid comments about you fancying one of the participants yet? If you don't dump him, just give it time.

Does he work? If so, does his notion that “as your partner I should take priority over work” work both ways round?

My DH might take priority over my work if he needed taking to the hospital. Not to fuss around with tea and sympathy at an inappropriate time.

I think this is really weird. Unless he was at crisis point or seriously about to drop down dead I don't know why he felt it was ok to interrupt your meeting, especially when you went to speak to him and then he came back in making silly noises. This sounds really immature and also that he doesn't respect you and your job. Would he care if someone in your meeting flagged this up and it led to some kind of meeting with a manager about your working environment? Or you were told you have to work in an office as clearly you don't have private space to work effectively at home?
Would he have acted this way if you were in a workplace rather than at home, turning up in the office expecting sympathy?

How long have you been with him? Did he just let himself in?
I am not sure I would be keen to keep him.

Unless he is really seriously ill, in which case he should go to A&E, there is no justification for him turning up unannounced, interrupting your work calls and meetings, and then sulking if he doesn't get the attention that he is expecting.

I would be furious with him. He embarassed you in front of your colleagues.

Your children would take priority over work, but not a partner who you don't even live with. If he was well enough to get up, dressed and come to your home, he wasn't really that poorly.

I have held a hard line for the 27 years of my professional life that if a man fucks with my career in any way he can go get fucked.

Sorry but id be dumping him for that utter lack of respect for my time and space. What an entitled twat!

I can't believe you interrupted a work call for him.

I suppose maybe that made him believe that it wasn't that important a call, but I'd be annoyed if I was the person you were supposed to be talking to, and furious at him for interrupting again and making stupid noises. He's made you look like a complete twat.

I'd be getting my key back at the VERY least.

He's a prick.

Dump him.

What on earth do you see in this man child OP?

If you make him tea and apologize for not spending more time with him it implies like you've done something wrong? Why would you be ringing him now? Are you not annoyed at him? Let him ring you.

Utterly ridiculous behaviour from him, I would not be in a relationship with someone who had so little respect for me or my work.

You’re both unreasonable!

Does he work?

I don’t understand why he would act like this if he does work, as presumably he understands how that works - you give your time to work; work pay you for their (exclusive) use of periods of your time.

Sorry, unless there is something life threatening going on, which is not in your op, he’s a fool. A fully grown, unattractive idiot.

Why did you let him in? Or does he have keys?

My 4 year old niece knows to keep the noise down and not be stupid when daddy’s on a work call. But your DP doesn’t?

He sounds really irritating and childish. Ick.

I made my excuses from my call for a few mins whilst I said hello to and made him a cup of tea, checked how he was feeling and apologised that I couldn’t take more time out of my meeting

You did what??

I voted YABU for this alone. You were at work and inconvenienced someone else for this nonsense?

Tell him to grow the fuck up and lock the door so he can't get in next time.

I wouldn't be taking 15 minutes out of a meeting to make someone a cup of tea, let alone someone who just let themselves into my house knowing I was working. I WFH everyday, and I would only leave a meeting for a real emergency.

In what other ways is he controlling? Because that’s what’s happening here. He’s trying to control you. Bin him off.

He sounds like a prick. He wouldn’t turn up if you worked in a an office so he shouldn’t turn up when you’re working from home.

What an embarrassment of a man. Do you seriously want to keep dating such an entitled man?

Your home is your workplace during your working hours, not a drop in centre. He wouldn't drop into your office and interrupt you in the middle of the working day if you were office based.

The reaction you're anticipating from him isn't okay! He shouldn't be trying to make you feel guilty for not pandering to his inappropriate behaviour.

He sounds like a right knobber tbh.

Why would you make him a cup of tea? That’s rewarding him for being inconsiderate.

He sounds awful

You shouldn't have interrupted your meeting in the first place. He sounds like a liability.