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Kids eat free discrimination

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BigBaoBun · 21/02/2025 13:50

Some restaurants offer a kids eat free/ kids eat for £1 offer during the half term but this is usually (not always) when one adult buys a main meal the restaurant allows one free kids meal. I have noticed a lot of parents with multiple children complaining that certain restaurants are being unfair as they only get one free kids meal. Particularly single parents saying it's discrimination against them. One woman was complaining that she has 3 kids and it isn't fair because only one can eat free and the restaurant should be giving them all a free meal. Aibu to think that this isn't discrimination and you can't expect all kids to eat for free?

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Rosebud12345 · 21/02/2025 16:22

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 21/02/2025 15:38

Agree and sometimes the husband drops dead and even though you have remained independent of him and have a good job financially you end up screwed.

People are so judgemental aren’t they x

BigBaoBun · 21/02/2025 16:18

MrsSunshine2b · 21/02/2025 16:13

I've also seen this and it's ridiculous.

Restaurants and cafes aren't trying to end world hunger, they are trying to make money and the "kids eat free" deal is intended to encourage families to eat there. They aren't going to make any money if people turn up with their 7 kids and pay for one meal.

Exactly. I can imagine people taking out their kids and all their mates and expecting them to all be free, ive even seen people complaining that the kids menu stops at 12 and their 16 year old is still a kid 🙄

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HelenHywater · 21/02/2025 16:16

Lavenderflower · 21/02/2025 16:00

Discrimination is a legal term. It easier to buy and prepare your own food. Lots of family make packed lunches.

It isn't just a legal term at all. And in the example I gave, the pricing does discriminate against single parents. And given that everything costs much more as a single parent (because you only have one salary, or even if you have two, it is funding two homes), and the job market is also tougher for a single parent, then a child's meal becomes even more unaffordable for a single parent. I do think that a restaurant in this case, or a soft play company, or an attraction, could introduce a pricing structure which does not disadvantage the children of single parents.

But yes, they could just have a packed lunch Hmm

MrsSunshine2b · 21/02/2025 16:13

I've also seen this and it's ridiculous.

Restaurants and cafes aren't trying to end world hunger, they are trying to make money and the "kids eat free" deal is intended to encourage families to eat there. They aren't going to make any money if people turn up with their 7 kids and pay for one meal.

ERthree · 21/02/2025 16:12

CherryVanillaPie · 21/02/2025 15:35

People don't always know in advance the dad is going to disappear or die when they have kids.

That i know, i became a single mum.

Miaowzabella · 21/02/2025 16:09

Last time I checked, eating out was neither cost-free nor compulsory.

Lavenderflower · 21/02/2025 16:00

Discrimination is a legal term. It easier to buy and prepare your own food. Lots of family make packed lunches.

HelenHywater · 21/02/2025 16:00

Well it isn't fair on single parents if you have 2 children.

Single parent, 2 kids would (if a full price meal costs £5 ) cost that parent £11 - so £3.66 a person - that single parent would only get one kids meal.

Two parents 2 kids would cost £12. so £3 a person. The couple parents get 2 kids meals.

So it does discriminate against single parents particularly since they generally are coping on one income.

Completelyjo · 21/02/2025 15:50

salemcooper · 21/02/2025 15:37

I took the toddler out for her free meal (I got one too obviously) and did notice a lot of single parent families with multiple children and did wonder whether this would be a problem. My meal was £7 so that made it £3.50 for each of our meals technically. I overheard one lady with 4 kids paying £26! Now I understand that's great value for 5 of you but still.. £26 just to get one free meal...

Having 4 kids costs more than 2. Shocker.

StripyHorse · 21/02/2025 15:47

MargaretThursday · 21/02/2025 14:10

It's not discrimination, but I do think the "Kids eat free/cheap this half term" notices put out as though it's going to mean children whose parents can't afford to eat can now be fed should be genuinely children eating free (or very cheap) with no strings attached.

I printed one off for someone who was struggling, and then read through them, and all barring one would have cost more to feed their children (even if it had been all children with one adult) than just getting stuff from the supermarket.

That's something I have noticed too. Although it is probably great for parents who want to treat their children but the budget is tight. About 6 or 7 years ago this was me - so a free meal would have made the odd treat easier.

I do agree it isn't discrimination though.

Viviennemary · 21/02/2025 15:45

Of course its not discrimination. One adult eating =1free child.

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 21/02/2025 15:44

BigBaoBun · 21/02/2025 15:03

Ive commented on the post so I'm not outing myself? If you don't believe it then that's fine. Others have said they've experienced it so..

Earlier it was multiple "adds" for multiple restaurants. So you commented on all of them?

BigBaoBun · 21/02/2025 15:41

salemcooper · 21/02/2025 15:37

I took the toddler out for her free meal (I got one too obviously) and did notice a lot of single parent families with multiple children and did wonder whether this would be a problem. My meal was £7 so that made it £3.50 for each of our meals technically. I overheard one lady with 4 kids paying £26! Now I understand that's great value for 5 of you but still.. £26 just to get one free meal...

£26 for 5 people in a restaurant is an absolute bargain! Having more than one child is always going to be more expensive?

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Kendodd · 21/02/2025 15:41

Of course it's not discrimination.
But, I had a full buffet breakfast at a chain pub/restaurant a couple of years ago. It was pay for one adult (about £9) and two kids under 16 can eat free. I took two kids, they were 14 and 15. We ate an absolute mountain . I was embarrassed by how cheap it was when I came to pay.

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 21/02/2025 15:39

Snorlaxo · 21/02/2025 14:49

Of course it’s not.
I’ve seen someone try and claim the child’s meal for an adult which the shop is fair to deny.

The way some people's entitlement works, I could believe them reckoning that kids' meals are free, they only have a small appetite and can only manage a child's portion, therefore the two of them (adults eating alone) should therefore be completely free.

And if they later discovered that they do have a bigger appetite, simply come back in later and do it all again.

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 21/02/2025 15:38

Rosebud12345 · 21/02/2025 14:05

Just a polite reminder that some people who have children, or multiple children situation does change. My friend was absolutely fine going about life with 2 kids until her DP left her suddenly for someone else, would you tell her she shouldn’t be having 2 if she now struggles to get by sometimes?

Agree and sometimes the husband drops dead and even though you have remained independent of him and have a good job financially you end up screwed.

salemcooper · 21/02/2025 15:37

I took the toddler out for her free meal (I got one too obviously) and did notice a lot of single parent families with multiple children and did wonder whether this would be a problem. My meal was £7 so that made it £3.50 for each of our meals technically. I overheard one lady with 4 kids paying £26! Now I understand that's great value for 5 of you but still.. £26 just to get one free meal...

CherryVanillaPie · 21/02/2025 15:35

ERthree · 21/02/2025 15:07

Maybe that mother of 3 could do what i did, radical but it worked, my husband and fed our children, we bought the ingredients, i cooked from scratch. I had my first when i was 18 and by the time i was 23 i had 3 children that the state didn't pay for and i didn't need to rely on a cafe feeding my children for free. Can't pay to feed and house them then don't have them.

People don't always know in advance the dad is going to disappear or die when they have kids.

yourmaw · 21/02/2025 15:34

ERthree · 21/02/2025 15:07

Maybe that mother of 3 could do what i did, radical but it worked, my husband and fed our children, we bought the ingredients, i cooked from scratch. I had my first when i was 18 and by the time i was 23 i had 3 children that the state didn't pay for and i didn't need to rely on a cafe feeding my children for free. Can't pay to feed and house them then don't have them.

I hate myself for still commenting on this... as it goes @BigBaoBun -i havent read anyone outright call you a liar ,youve repeated-but no examples provided ..and at @ERthree -you upon your throne so high..?!...all manner of variables could lead to a single adult(mum) trying to feed herself and 3 kids (as much\as cheaply)as possible. hope to goodness none of the self righteous ever actaully come stuck with kids in tow.judgement and wrath at no extra cost,all day

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 21/02/2025 15:32

yourmaw · 21/02/2025 15:01

OK .so given mostly is advertised as "kids eat free" theres room for confusion,til get to the part bout each child meal with one adult. Its surely at food outlets discretion if ok to go mum n 3 tots....not like one adult and 52seater coachload.
The target is the full paying adult
i can well see...? This is getting kinda bizarre with nugget responses!Having worked in catering...initially franchises where this type deal comes up- your making a fuss over peanuts. entitled or not.
whoever called the probably made up to fill a dull moment mum of three a bint.....is awful. she might be perfectly lovely n just a bit peckish...."my friends dh ran off n left her /she struggles......honestly!!!
"ive seen loadsa people complaining"? did ye -aye?
As it goes our local authority bacs pays parent(s )the free school meal entitlement amount for each day schools off. Whilst its clearly a bums on seats ploy to encourage custom- it remains fact- some kids go the full holidays without having one decent meal. pick your battles

I agree that it's a bit misleading to say "Kids eat free!" in big letters - but the parents can't just ignore the smaller print that says one kid with one paying adult.

Ultimately, they're probably targeting the adults who resent having to pay for their kids as well (or just can't afford to), or who think they won't appreciate it at their age, so it's a waste and not worth paying for them - removing their 'excuse' for not coming in.

I agree that insults are not very nice, and that some people will see this as their big chance that they otherwise couldn't possibly enjoy; but that doesn't mean that there won't be entitled people who can well afford to pay, but who just like to play their CF face and deliberately misinterpret the offer to try to shame the place into giving in.

DaphneduMaureen · 21/02/2025 15:27

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 21/02/2025 15:08

OK, maybe 'abuse' was too strong; but it's obvious that the intention is for the adult to have a 'normal' full meal. You don't normally get more value free than you've actually paid for.

Even if they are obscenely rich - and is it only the massive chains that run promotions? - they're still not going to stick around for long for little or no profit.

If you object to their quality/service/profits, you're much better refusing to go there at all; not just regularly patronising them but trying to rinse as much out of then as you can each time. That's a bit like the people who criticise Amazon for avoiding their taxes, yet still happily ordering stuff from them because it's cheaper!

It’s costing these retailers pennies to give children some chips, chicken nuggets and beans, which comes out of the pounds they make in profits on an adult meal. I’m still not sure why you’re worried about adults not having a proper meal, when it’s up to the retailer to set a threshold? Who cares?

I’ve personally never eaten in a supermarket cafe, but we know this is not fine dining. People going to these places for free meals are not doing so because they want to abuse the offer.

scotstars · 21/02/2025 15:22

Othermentions · 21/02/2025 14:47

And this was a friend?

you didn’t feel comfortable enough to
mention to her?

did you just split the bill 50/50?

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Oioisavaloy27 · 21/02/2025 15:22

She could always chose to go elsewhere to eat it's a business not a charity. If she can't afford to eat out then she shouldn't.

RawBloomers · 21/02/2025 15:21

Even if it could be framed as discrimination against single parents (which it can't) - being a single parent isn't a protected characteristic so businesses are entitled to discriminate against them if they wish. Businesses engage in discrimination all the time. In this case, offering the free meals just to kids is (lawful) discrimination on the basis of age and they're discriminating against those who can't afford them. Only a very limited set of things are unlawful to discriminate against.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 21/02/2025 15:21

BigBaoBun · 21/02/2025 15:03

Thank you! Seems a few posters are trying to call me a liar so glad it's not just me that has seen it. I was honestly shocked by a lot of the comments

There are a lot of posters that claim people are lying across multiple threads. I think it’s because they find the topic uncomfortable so it makes more sense to assume it’s nonsense than it does to use critical thinking skills.

My favourite recent SM post was a link to a petition demanding that kids have access to 10 days off school each year to go on holiday. Blaming schools ( as though schools are responsible for legislation) and not one of them pondering that lots of parents taking children out of school in term time might just push prices up for everyone 🤦🏻‍♀️ Holidays are a UN right you know! (They’re not).

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