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To think this is unfair

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chickenlicken3 · 21/02/2025 13:39

DD17 goes to her dad's every other weekend. She's always shared a room with her younger step sibling.

They have recently had a change round of rooms which means DD no longer has a bed and will now be sleeping on the sofa bed in the living room. When questioning the decision, DD was told they weren't expecting her to still be visiting at nearly 18.

DD now no longer wants to go every other weekend (or sleep over at all) as her Dad and step mum are early risers, and you have to walk through the living room in order to get to the kitchen. She also has other step siblings including in the house that return home late at night.

AIBU in thinking this room swap could have been put on hold until she goes to university in September, or is it ok because she's nearly an adult? Would be interested to hear other people's opinions!

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jimbort · 21/02/2025 13:44

This is horrible and speaks volumes about how much they want here there. Shame on them for doing that to a teenage girl. Glad she has someone who cares in you

Moonnstars · 21/02/2025 13:44

That sounds very unkind. If they had planned on this they could have at least spoken to her about the bedroom arrangements.
I also think it sounds like they don't plan on seeing her when she is an adult?! Do they suddenly think once children turn 18 they conjure up their own living arrangements?
Even if she is planning on uni there are the holidays.
I am not surprised she doesn't want to go if this is how she is being treated.

HermioneWeasley · 21/02/2025 13:43

It’s so unkind, it’s like they want her to feel unwelcome and stop her visiting.

MuddyPawsIndoors · 21/02/2025 13:42

How old is the younger step sibling she's always shared with?

PragmaticIsh · 21/02/2025 13:41

Well it does signal to her that she's not really welcome, it's hardly a nice thing to do to her!