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To ask the worst thing you've ever done in anger?

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:25

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

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DazzlingCuckoos · 21/02/2025 11:20

I did something vaguely similar OP but without the hacking!

I was tasked with looking after a colleague's emails while he was away on holiday so had access to his inbox. Found the email address of a woman he was seeing.

A few soap opera style facts you should know.

  • she was married, so was having an affair with my colleague
  • I was officially single, but was also having an affair with my colleague and I knew about her.

So, yes, she was having an affair but so was he having an affair with me. How very Jeremy Kyle!

I was desperate at the time for my fling to pick me over this other woman so set up a fake email address in her name and sent her an email declaring I knew she was cheating on her husband! She did reply back a couple of times, never denied or admitted it and was more annoyed about the fact that I was hiding behind a fake name.

I have no idea what I thought was going to happen and wondered whether she would ever tell my colleague that she'd received it.

If she did, he definitely didn't suspect me because when he got home from holiday things carried on as normal.

Eventually I saw sense and things drifted with my colleague. She then finally divorced her husband and a couple of years later officially got together with my colleague. They've been together ever since.

This all happened over 20 years ago now and I've never confessed to anyone that I'd ever had a thing with him, nor that I'd emailed her.

I was 20 at the time and had just come out of a horrendous relationship so maturity and sense were not my strong suit at the time!

We occasionally work together now and they both came to my wedding!

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 21/02/2025 11:16

PoltergeistsStartLowKey · 21/02/2025 06:50

I had an abusive ex.

There was a public footpath next to his house that one of the neighbours used to use to walk his dog. He would let his dog shit on the gravel outside exes house and just leave it and this made ex totally livid as he had to shovel it up and dispose of it.

One day he went out and exploded at said neighbour and the neighbour stopped using that route so.....after ex was spectacularly rude and shouting at me over nothing one dark evening to the point my bowels were affected, I went outside and shit on the gravel.

When he saw the heap the following morning that he assumed was dog shit, he went purple.

I went happy.

Except he may then have gone and taken it out on the wrong person

Velmy · 21/02/2025 11:13

In my early 20s I had a massive row with my then partner the day before my birthday. Silly, petty nonsense but we were both very headstrong and wouldn't back down.

He went out to work his evening shift and the arguing continued over text. He called me on his lunch hour at about 10pm and we had another row over the phone, which ended with him hanging up and turning his phone off.

I was absolutely FUMIN, and in a moment of pure, unadulterated, immature rage, I committed the most heinous offence...

...I ripped all the wrapping paper off my birthday presents 😝

This wouldn't have been so bad if they weren't the most thoughtful set of prezzies I'd every received in my life up to that point.

I had to stay up until he got home at 3am and apologies...and he still made me breakfast in bed the next day 😅

Oh to be kids again!

RaveToTheGrave1 · 21/02/2025 11:07

My mammy is the queen of revenge though she did the absolute nuttiest things to my abusive father (think the worst abuse you can) once they got divorced and he threw all her belongings in a skip, years of abuse to all of us and she just snapped

Scratched up all his vinyl records, dvds, etc
Bleach in all the shampoo, shower gel, absolutely everything
Toilet cleaned with toothbrush
All his limited edition pictures up on the walls covered in marker pens
She tried to stab him at one point, entirely justified

PassOnThat · 21/02/2025 11:04

Tell my child that I hated them and wished they'd never been born.

They were asleep and it wasn't true even when I said it, but I sought help soon after that.

Givemestrength1000 · 21/02/2025 11:01

Gettingbysomehow · 21/02/2025 03:36

Lost it finally after 8 years of DV towards me and fucked up my exH in the courts. I went on a mission. 40 years later he's still a broken man and has never had another relationship.
A good example of fuck around and find out.

What did you do?

Areolaborealis · 21/02/2025 10:47

When I was in the thick of contamination type OCD, I used to take a pack of sensitive baby wipes wherever I went, except, inside the pack I had replaced the contents with strong disinfectant wipes in an effort to satisfy my need to disinfect things without drawing undue attention to myself.

So, I began a brief relationship with someone who also suffered from mental health issues; namely health anxiety and hypochondria. On one occasion he felt 'flushed' and requested the use of a face wipe. Too embarrassed to tell the truth, I obliged and he took the wipe and used it on his face and eyes. Within a few minutes his face started going red, and he reported that his eyes were stinging and his skin was burning. He was convinced that this apparent overreaction to the baby wipe was evidence that he had some undiagnosed immune disorder and he became quite worried about it. The worst thing was that I couldn't bring myself to tell him the truth so I just played along agreeing that there must be something unusual going on.

I haven't seen him in years but I imagine him telling anyone who'll listen about his hypersensitive skin condition.

LurcherMumma · 21/02/2025 10:46

@GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut 🤣this is not so much rage as it is truly letting the intrusive thoughts win.

LurcherMumma · 21/02/2025 10:45

Showerflowers · 21/02/2025 08:37

I was on a bus heavily pregnant and with my toddler son. A man got on and was being very loud and inappropriate. Swearing, smoking and chucking bits of rolled up paper at people. Playing loud music on his phone.

I just snapped. Probably lack of sleep or hormones. But I just got up, snatched his phone, and posted it out the bus window as we whizzed along.

Honestly it shocks me more pregnant/postnatal women don't fully snap. We put up with so much as it is then add in sleep deprivation and hormones.
We need to teach men and boys to be scared of us tbh.

RaveToTheGrave1 · 21/02/2025 10:32

Whilst in the throes of pnd I had a full on screaming meltdown in the back garden, in summer so all the windows were open, throwing stuff around, the whole deal. Must have sounded absolutely insane 😅

ClaredeBear · 21/02/2025 10:31

Redspottyfrog · 21/02/2025 04:07

Fed up of my SIL constantly going on about our garden and how we are lazy not to keep on top of the weeds. It was constant and she even told other people.

We have horse tail weed and at the time I was recovering from a big operation and my DH was literary running himself ragged looking after the kids and me while on his teaching NQT year so the garden got neglected.

SIL does not work as she once married to a very rich bloke and took half of everything when they divorced. She is also the biggest snobby, selfish cow ever.

the last straw was her making a comment about how long it was taking me to recover (had a full hysterectomy) and I needed to sort the garden

when I was feeling better a grabbed some Horse Tail making sure I had some bits with spores on and very discreetly pushed it into the soil in the garden in may different places (spreads like wildfire) . 18 months on she has had to employ a gardener to keep on top of it all. (Massive garden now full of horse Tail). this has distressed her greatly as she is as tight as a ducks backside dispite being loaded)

She lives in a big detached with no other houses near so it won’t spread to other peoples gardens. Have not told DH i did this but he has made a few comments about her having to employ a gardener and how lazy she is being. (As payback) She just goes red and changes the conversation.

also before any posters say I did something illegal is jaspanise knot weed you can be prosecuted for deliberately spreading not horse tail.

i was feeling a little guilty until six months ago her mum (my mil) asked SIL if she could poss borrow money to have a operation privately as it was effecting her quality of life quite badly and she had got to the point where she was in constant pain and practically immobile. SIL refused saying she would have to wait for the NHS. MIL has practically raised Sils 2 kids as she can’t be bothered, they spend 4 out of 7 days with MIL.

We lent MIL the money which is most of our savings but we could not bare to see her in this much pain. SIL then goes mad that MiL is having the operation earlier then planned as she needs the childcare!!!!!

Now I am wondering where I can get some Japanese knot weed. (Kidding)

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That's a lot of revenge! I say this as someone who is paranoid about bringing horse tail home from my allotment!

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 21/02/2025 10:26

I splashed a lady in the swimming pool. 30 odd years ago and I still think of it!

I was about 8, and she was swimming head up breast stroke with her hair in the tightest bun I'd ever seen, but she'd used a comb to fan out the tail above the bun and used hairspray (?) to make it stand up in vertical spikes like a peacock tail.

I was completely perplexed about why someone would do their hair so intricately and then go swimming! Once I'd noticed it, I couldn't stop looking at it as she went past again and again. Then I had the thought 'what if someone splashed her?!' then 'what if I splash her?!' So I did. I jumped in after she'd gone past and splashed the back of her head by 'accident'.

Instantly felt guilty, and still think about it now!

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/02/2025 10:17

When my first proper boyfriend left me while I was on holiday aged 19 I was devastated and took months to come to terms with it and years to get over it: it was like a bereavement in many ways.

One night after I had seen him out in town with his new girlfriend I walked home and picked up and upended, one by one, about seven or eight bins and threw them in the street. They were the old-fashioned tin bins not wheely bins and they were empty and made a huge racket, waking up the residents of several houses and rolling around on the main road prompting a bloke to come out and shout at me and threaten to call the police.

It was quite satisfying at the time even though probably not the best way to cope with it.

Upthebridges · 21/02/2025 10:16

Around 20 years ago, now DH had started a job as the new boy at a warehouse, and was being subjected to a lot of 'workplace banter' (read bullying), mainly from one manager. He was really making his life hell. Me and now dh were walking together one day, and he pointed out said managers car to me as we walked down a street, saying 'oh he must live around here'. We joked about keying his car, but left it as that, a joke.
Around a week later, I was walking home with a friend from the pub going down the same route. The managers behaviour at work that week had gotten even worse, and low and behold I saw his car again. A few drinks deep, I decided to make good on our joke from the last week.
I didn't mention anything to my boyfriend, but come Monday, when the manager was fuming about someone keying his car, he worked it out for himself. He still says that's the moment he knew he was going to marry me 😂
That Manager was awful to a few of the others DH worked with as well, and DH is still friendly with some now. Around 10 years ago, I admitted my act of rage to them one night we were all at the pub, and have been hailed a hero by them ever since! Wouldn't get away with it now in the days of doorbell cameras!

MandyFriend · 21/02/2025 10:15

My daughters, then aged about 7 and 10, were being particularly vile at breakfast one morning. I threw the butter knife down in frustration and it bounced up and hit one of my daughters on the arm. It was a very blunt, butter knife and no injuries happened other than a grease spot on her school cardigan. Fast forward 20 years and people are often treated with the story about how I threw a knife at my children! My daughter is a primary school teacher but really could work as a stand up comedian the way she can spin a yarn and has everyone hooting with laughter at my expense 😂

Notsosure1 · 21/02/2025 10:08

IButtleSir · 21/02/2025 08:07

To all of you saying what the OP did wasn't that bad: think of what a horrible shock that would have been for the dad and gran of the woman who the OP hacked. They had done nothing wrong and yet were sent explicit messages sent to their daughter/granddaughter.

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I thought it was sent BY daughter/grandaughter

ThatAgileLimeCat · 21/02/2025 10:05

I was around 20 and close friends with a work colleague, who was in a serious relationship with another colleague.

I had huge crush on another colleague. Friend was heavily flirting with my crush on a work night out.
So, in some weird attempt at revenge, when her partner started coming onto me I had sex with him in the pub toilets.

Never told a soul. It was over 20 years ago and I still feel horrible about it even though
they split up later on due to them both cheating on each other.

Tropicalturnip · 21/02/2025 09:59

CurtainsCurtain · 21/02/2025 00:45

If someone had cancelled my hard-earned holiday because they didn’t want me to enjoy it without them, she’d have been lucky to escape with shouting. I think you were pretty restrained.

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Wow. I'd have punched her in the face!! 😂 Or at least plotted some serious revenge for HER next hard earned holiday.

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YourHappyJadeEagle · 21/02/2025 09:50

Titasaducksarse · 21/02/2025 08:17

On exiting a situation with a person I'd had sex with but had treated me badly I got their toothbrush and used it to clean their toilet.

I’d forgotten until I read this I did the same with ex husband’s toothbrush.
And cut his ties in half.

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Namechangefordaughterevasion · 21/02/2025 09:43

When I was young all our music was on vinyl records which were notoriously fragile - if you scratched one even a tiny bit the music would jump and skip. When my sister pissed me off I would deliberately gouge huge scratches in her favourite records thereby rendering them completely unplayable.

Imbusytodaysorry · 21/02/2025 09:42

Showerflowers · 21/02/2025 08:37

I was on a bus heavily pregnant and with my toddler son. A man got on and was being very loud and inappropriate. Swearing, smoking and chucking bits of rolled up paper at people. Playing loud music on his phone.

I just snapped. Probably lack of sleep or hormones. But I just got up, snatched his phone, and posted it out the bus window as we whizzed along.

Right you win…..
What happened next. ?

Projectme · 21/02/2025 09:38

PaintDecisions · 21/02/2025 09:28

Ref the Dogs Trust one - I have zero remorse about this.

My neighbour is a real piece of work. Her father bought her the home for her and her two kids because she kept getting evicted from her rentals due to her behaviour. He renovated it before she moved in, and within 2 months she had trashed every surface, every carpet, soaked the whole house by running over the bath for several hours (and claiming it was a water leak), and it's regularly filled with dog and cat piss and poo.

The elder kid was taken by SS 2yrs ago after we had to call 999 because she was battering him in the street. She used to stick him out the back door for hours (aged 7 with cerebral palsy and SEN) when she couldn't cope with him, which I only found out about afterwards from another neighbour who had been making SS reports for months. She apparently signed him over voluntarily in the end. He's not allowed to see her without a chaperone and comes about twice a year with his foster mum.

The younger child is still there - we're all waiting for that poor kid to be the next victim.

Anyway, nutty neighbour has some medical issues and she is regularly in hospital for extended stays. Kid goes to elderly grandparents but the dog stays in the house with a dog walker popping in once a day. That's it. RSPCA don't care as it's "adequate". The house gets saturated between visits and every time she comes home she has to pay for a deep clean of the place before SS and carers come round again...

Then we found out during her last hospital stay that she had now got a new dog which was too nervous to be walked and was stuck in the living room, terrified of the dog walker and had never left the house. A rescued Balkans street dog she was fostering. It took me a couple of days to track down the organisation she got it from and tell them what was happening. Long story short, it took three weeks but the dog was taken off her and she's no longer allowed to foster.

Unfortunately she's now added a new cat into the mix even though one died emaciated (I suspect untreated kidney disease) recently and the other is practically bald (never seen a vet).

I am watching that woman like a hawk. Her elderly dad is absolutely exhausted and I really feel for him - he's given her everything he can and she ruins or wastes it all.

So in anger, I got someone's dog taken away and contributed to their kid being taken into care. No regrets.

what an awful situation for you to witness. Those poor poor children and animals.

It put me in mind of that boy who died from the abuse from the step-father (i think) by being left outside for hours and hours in the freezing cold and dunking his head into freezing water. Social Services were involved with that one. Feel sick just thinking about it so well done to you for making sure at least 1 poor child gets to have a decent chance at life.