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To ask the worst thing you've ever done in anger?

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:25

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

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LIJ · 22/02/2025 20:13

Has it ever been suggested that you may be neurodiverse? Sounds just like me. I’m 69 and just been diagnosed, even although I’ve know it since I was three!

myles2608 · 22/02/2025 20:12

Glad my son's father died.it sounds awful but the best choice he ever made.

Dancingatthepinkponyclub · 22/02/2025 20:07

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

Wow this is bad.. her not you!

UnctuousUnicorns · 22/02/2025 20:06

ChildOfTheRevolution · 22/02/2025 10:49

  1. Teenage boy, not man. Skinny, not especially tall. I was much bigger.
  2. I’d pushed him into the car and l slid him up the side of it. I don’t expect he was actually in the air, but certainly stretched and in his tiptoes at that point.

My mum had something similar every time she walked past my brother's school on the way to the shops. A lad, in his early to mid teens, used to walk behind her making insulting comments and sniggering to himself. Every day.

Like you, she at first tried ignoring it. Then one day she exploded. She grabbed the little shit by his collar, put her face right up close to his, so that she was virtually spitting in his face, and snarled in utter fury,
"ONE MORE FUCKING SNIDEY LITTLE WORD OUT OF YOU, AND I WILL FUCKING BURST YOU!"

Mum freely admits that she must have looked like some raging, demented loon. The lad was fucking terrified, garbled some apology, and scuttled off when he was let go.

Of course, he never bothered my mum again after that.

PS my mum is 4' 11", but when she's angry, she's bloody scary. 😅

Dancingatthepinkponyclub · 22/02/2025 20:02

Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:25

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

I think this is great 😂

YourWorthyBee · 22/02/2025 20:01

Worst thing ever? Talked my husband into taking me to a swinger's club. Several times. He didn't like it but went along with it because he loved me. One of the guys who was on me was so handsome that we got together and now my ex hubby is on his own, very lonely and sad. I feel a bit bad but so what. That's my worst thing.

Deboragh · 22/02/2025 19:56

Biffbaff · 22/02/2025 00:58

He was obviously wrong for cheating but burning his diaries was so so mean!

Lol, yea, that's sort of the point of the thread.

Didimum · 22/02/2025 19:52

Deboragh · 22/02/2025 18:25

Onto the couch! Under a bus!? Out of bed? Off a cliff? Cmon, context is everything. What happened?

Haha. Under a bus - what a drip feed! No, I have no idea what we were arguing about. We were in the bathroom. I think he was cleaning the bath and sitting on the edge of it. And during the argument I shoved his shoulders. He was incredibly upset with me!

Drylogsonly · 22/02/2025 19:30

Obvs I say no, but Incan still remember the seething anger - he’s lucky I didn’t kill him!
I’m godparent to his kid now…

Drylogsonly · 22/02/2025 19:29

my BFF/frenemy/boynextdoor deliberately broke my brand new Evel Knevel ( we were 8) that I got for Xmas by stomping on it because he couldn’t work it properly then tried to escape on his bike .As he rode off I threw a pogo stick through his back wheel and he crashed and busted his nose and his new bike.
40 years later there’s still a family debate about whether it was too much…

HappyHen17 · 22/02/2025 19:17

When my Dad pissed me off/screamed at me as an older child/teen, I’d spit in his coffee or clean under the rim of the loo with his toothbrush! We have a great relationship now and he never got unwell so that’s a relief!

Pelsall116 · 22/02/2025 19:12

Revenge against cheating ex - left me for OW; he had left his precious record collection in the loft which I sold at a car boot sale and denied all knowledge of when he came back to get his stuff..............

changedusernameforthis1 · 22/02/2025 19:09

I think I got all my anger out in my teens as I can't think of anything I've done in anger as an adult, aside from swearing and slamming doors etc.

When I was 17 I had a friend come visit and I had a huge crush on her. She was 18 and living with her boyfriend at the time. She'd brought alcohol with her and after drinking pretty much all of it, we ended up sharing a kiss and then going to bed together.

The next day she was very indifferent about it all, told me it meant nothing and that it was silly drunkeness.
I was hurt, angry, and heartbroken - and ripped up her return train ticket back home.

Obviously she found out, we ended up getting into a massive argument and didn't speak after that day.
I did contact her a few weeks later to apologise but she didn't want to hear it. Not surprisingly!

Sminty2 · 22/02/2025 19:07

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

I think you were incredibly restrained! I would have been distraught. That’s such a self centred thing for her to do.

Mercurylines · 22/02/2025 19:06

some of these are hilarious 😂

I lived with a boyfriend at uni and my grandfather who I was very close with got sick and died during my mid year exams (very intense and competitive course and most important year grades wise). I just packed up and drove back to my dads in a hurry to see my grandfather in hospital and stay until he passed away and then help my dad with funeral arrangements. I then drove back home to re pack and collect books (I still had to study because the uni wouldn’t reschedule some of my exams) and when I got back he was at work and I found our wet stinking washing still sitting in the washing machine since a week ago that he hadn’t bothered to hang out or do anything around the house. I absolutely lost it, threw the washing on to his side of the bed, took the game out of his PlayStation, snapped it, chucked it on top of the washing and left until after he’d come home from work.

We broke up not long after that.

Greendiamondbee · 22/02/2025 18:45

When we'd first moved into our house we had an old oven with a glass door. During an argument I slammed it too hard and it shattered all over the kitchen.

Deboragh · 22/02/2025 18:25

Didimum · 21/02/2025 07:06

I pushed my partner during an argument. That was 12yrs ago.

Onto the couch! Under a bus!? Out of bed? Off a cliff? Cmon, context is everything. What happened?

TiredAH · 22/02/2025 18:25

SH not long ago😢

Biscuitjockey · 22/02/2025 18:08

Love it, hope you scrubbed under the rim. I wiped myself on an ex’s facecloth after peeing haha

Redty10 · 22/02/2025 18:06

When divorcing my first husband who was being an arse as was his then bunny boiler girlfriend i had need to use the loo when collecting my son one day. Unfortunately the temptation to dip both of their toothbrushes into the loo was too much to resist. I still feel bad about it now especially as he has since apologised for his behaviour whilst with said bunny boiler.

cait967 · 22/02/2025 18:03

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 22/02/2025 15:02

So what...

Would you say that if someone posted your photo and number. Revenge porn is horrible and this is the same thing

Pinkproseccolady · 22/02/2025 18:01

I threw a glass at my ex which luckily missed but it did smash and became embedded in the kitchen unit door!! Divorce soon followed and have never felt that level of anger in the subsequent 30 years 👍👍

Snakebite61 · 22/02/2025 17:57

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

She deserved it.

Biscuitjockey · 22/02/2025 17:55

I put a brick through a cheaters van window. Felt great actually haha

masterblaster · 22/02/2025 17:41

Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:51

She probably had it coming...

I once ran through a field of wheat.