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Dishwater123 · 2025-02-20T22:25:26+00:00

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it. When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it. What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

LIJ · 22/02/2025 23:20

He was a keeper!!😂😂

LIJ · 22/02/2025 23:19

Really! Maybe that’s where she got the ideas from. I must ask her. She also went on to take an overdose of paracetamol, but didn’t realise she needed to take alcohol with it. Ended up in hospital with a buggered liver!

Motherofatruck · 22/02/2025 22:30

I was 17 when my dear nan passed. The day of her funeral I ended up having a few drinks at the wake. My boyfriend at the time had been pestering me wanting to see me and when I eventually got home he was loitering outside my house. I was already annoyed that he’d not given me space to grieve. When he started having a moan that I’d not been answering his messages I saw red and started screaming obscenities at him. I must have looked unhinged as he swiftly hopped on his bike and pedalled like mad to get away from me. I still cringe at the memory of me chasing him down the road screaming. I was desperate to catch him so I could shove him off his bike. Luckily I didn’t manage to catch him 🫣

Newname71 · 22/02/2025 22:17

Didimum · 21/02/2025 07:06

I pushed my partner during an argument. That was 12yrs ago.

I punched an ex straight in the mouth splitting both his lips.
He had hold of me by the front of my dress and pushed me backwards over a wall shouting in my face. I clenched my fist and he said go on I fucking dare you…..

MrsNorton · 22/02/2025 22:10

He owed me a significant sum of money and it was clear wasn't going to repay it. I poured antifreeze over his pride and joy (car)

4kids1dog1hubby · 22/02/2025 22:03

Worst thing I've ever done is a bit of a long story... although is it or am I just trying to justify the worst thing I've done?! Ok here the shortest version I can possibly manage... with my ex 5 years, had fertility issues, he said that was fate I couldn't have them because he didn't want them and no one who wanted kids would want me so we were the perfect match?! Astonishingly got pregnant after 3 years of no protection( had that very month emotionally checked out because I found out he was cheating), he dumped me the day I told him I was pregnant because I wouldn't get an abortion, sent him all appointments date through pregnancy, he didn't turn up to any or turned up late, 20 week scan turned up late with his mother who ripped the scan photos I paid for from my hands, divided them in half and said "this is our half" we were ushered to an private room because she made such a scene where she told me he had said I lied about fertility issues to "trick him" into getting me pregnant! Still tried to do the right thing, called him when I went into labour to attend the birth (when I said "I can't do this" during transition he said "to late to take it back now" and tried to bring him mum in during the birth, my midwife actually had to kick her out). Was pinning all my hopes and dreams on him holding our baby and his whole world changing, the classic ... you don't know love til you hold your baby for the first time mantra the people spout all the time! He held our baby while I was on a operating table being stitched from front to back and HE started complaining that HE was in too much pain and his back hurt too much to hold the baby anymore and asking someone else to take "IT"!!!! He Left the hospital, Promised to pick me up on discharge, no showed, had to phone my mother 6 hours later because he hadn't turned up!! Then at 2 am, exactly 48 hours after birth outside my mums house, with zero sleep for even longer, struggling to breastfeed and knowing full well he'd held our baby so his whole world should have changed right? He stood there and said to my face .... "I still don't know if I want IT"............

I saw seven levels of red and then nothing. I don't remember all of it, I definitely know I bit him as hard as I fcking could and hit him more than once, screamed til I lost my voice (for 3 days) and my mum had to pull me off him, sometimes when I think back on it it scares me because I don't know when I would have stopped if my mum hadn't pulled me off.

that was 16 years ago and he's still playing the "she mentally ill and violent" card all these years later. I felt horrifically guilty at the time, but I've had a lot of help and therapy since, and learnt about reactive abuse. I'd never acted like that before or since, it was out of character and I was postpartum. It doesn't make it ok but he is still abusing me to this day through our child, family courts, social services, withholding child maintenance, he's even falsely accused me of sexually molesting our child to try and get the upper hand, so I don't feel guilty about it anymore, but it is and probably always will be the worst thing I've done and although I have told my husband the truth about it... I have never admitted it professionally because so few people truly understand coercive control and reactive abuse.

Devianinc · 22/02/2025 22:00

maternitylleave102 · 21/02/2025 01:37

I had my ex put in jail for serious sexual assault. I later retracted my statement as I didn't believe it was rape. Don't get me wrong I didn't want it but I didn't say no or insist. I just lay there and cried.

He was remanded after beating me up months later and I handed the police my diary so the charge was added on. They read it in there. It destroyed my kids and my life. I haven't spoken to him in 9 years now.

Better than being seriously maimed or even killed by him. I would bet it’s been hard for and I feel for you but you did the right thing for yourself and your children.

Poppymeldrum · 22/02/2025 21:59

Moons ago my ex was shagging my best friend and they bwat me up,smashed my house up,told my dc that id wanted to abort them (lies) and then ran off together,just after I'd had his baby

They started a hate campaign against me,just because they could and tried to make my life hell

He sent a message via his mother,that I had to pack up all his stuff and send it on (at my own expense) or he'd go to the police,saying I was withholding his stuff and was stealing it

I packed up all his stuff with care-all neatly washed and packed nicely

And asked my brother to take it round to their house-and to be all nice to their faces

He wanted petrol money (fair enough) so I 'forgot' to pack exs brand new (id paid for it) xbox and all the new games (again,that I'd paid for) and handed it to bro with the words 'whatever you get for it,that's your petrol money'

He sold the lot to his mate for about 10% of what I'd paid for it all-he was happy,friend was very happy and ex was fuming

He lived for that bloody xbox and had fuck all other hobbies so was a bit stuck as he didn't have a job and had no money to buy another one-and bestie certainly didn't have any spare cash to spend on another-she lived hand to mouth with her mother

He never paid a penny for our child-all my own fault for not giving him his xbox back but I'm past caring

The the affair ended about 6 weeks later

So glad it was worth it

Tiredmuchly43 · 22/02/2025 21:53

It was a long time ago, you are not the person you are now. I would have done the same (ready for the mums net brigade, and I don't care) , as you say she personally insulted you, total bitch I'm my opinion. Needed to be taken down a peg or two. I'd laugh about it now. Life is way too short to worry about thing 20 years ago. As another poster said, the girl should have thought up a better password 🙄 Good for you I say 😉 👍🏻

IAmTheLittleThings · 22/02/2025 21:46

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2002/dec/22/ethicalliving
These threads remind me of this lady.

After some of the responses to peoples 'wrongdoings ' I will keep my own council.
It is extremely difficult to explain one's heightened emotional state after the event, certainly not enough to convince a judge and jury anyway......

Keepingthingsinteresting · 22/02/2025 21:42

Newfoundzestforlife · 22/02/2025 08:04

You had him lifted against your car door by his throat...? The rules of gravity don't even allow that to make sense. Not to mention a woman lifting a man off the floor....

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My mum did it to a teenager half a foot taller than her when she saw him try to push me into oncoming traffic, so…

Deboragh · 22/02/2025 21:27

LIJ · 22/02/2025 20:26

I wouldn’t have that level of restraint! All the clothes would be cut up.
My friend gave away all her cheating husbands extensive, very expensive wine collection. She went around and left if on people’s doorsteps. Then she completely trashed his cherished collection of records that he had been collecting for 35 years, since he was 15. Then she cut up his clothes, suits, everything!! That’s before she jumped up and down on the bonnet and roof and smashed all the windows, mirrors and doors on his nearly new Range Rover. Thereafter followed a divorce that was held in the Courts of Justice in London 3 times over a 9 year period before it was finalised because they couldn’t reach a financial settlement. Funnily enough, they don’t talk to each other now??!!

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Pretty sure I saw all that in a film, especially the leaving the wine on doorsteps bit!!

littlemisspigg · 22/02/2025 21:24

Garlicworth · 21/02/2025 05:38

Snogged a bloke in front of my husband. The marriage was toxic, he'd been treating me like shit all day and was pretending to be asleep on a sofa. He was watching but didn't say anything - and never mentioned it later, either. We divorced a few months afterwards.

I actually wish I'd retaliated more in life! The view from the moral high ground ain't that great. The kind of people who fuck you over don't see you as rising above it, they see you as a sucker.

True that, completely agree....that's my quote of the day- The View From The Moral High Ground....loved it ☺️

TaterTots68 · 22/02/2025 20:52

Obviously it wasn't done in anger, but it does piss me off when she tries to get somewhere she shouldn't

TaterTots68 · 22/02/2025 20:50

Earlier on I accidentally shut my cat's head in a door - I was closing it as she decided she had to run into the room (that she's now allowed into!). She's absolutely fine (and has hopefully learnt a lesson for all of five minutes), but I felt awful 🙈😂

Poppymeldrum · 22/02/2025 20:46

myles2608 · 22/02/2025 20:12

Glad my son's father died.it sounds awful but the best choice he ever made.

When I found out dds biological father had died,I cheered then blocked his dickhead brother (who felt the need to message me-if he hadn't,I would never have found out)

Then I rang everyone I knew and told them

Then went out and had a few drinks and got very drunk (which isn't me,I very rarely drink)

best news I'd ever heard

Dickhead brother tried to contact me a few years later and I took great pleasure in telling him to do one and if he ever contacted me again,I'd phone the police and have him slung in jail for harassment (thick sod he is,he took me seriously-like hell the police would have got involved) then I blocked his second fb page and moved on with my life

UnctuousUnicorns · 22/02/2025 20:32

Geesgirl · 21/02/2025 22:34

Years ago my ex husband fucked me over in court. When I got home I dug out his flashlight fanny thing m, drove to his work and launched it at him across his office.

This one in particular has cracked me up! 😅

LIJ · 22/02/2025 20:26

I wouldn’t have that level of restraint! All the clothes would be cut up.
My friend gave away all her cheating husbands extensive, very expensive wine collection. She went around and left if on people’s doorsteps. Then she completely trashed his cherished collection of records that he had been collecting for 35 years, since he was 15. Then she cut up his clothes, suits, everything!! That’s before she jumped up and down on the bonnet and roof and smashed all the windows, mirrors and doors on his nearly new Range Rover. Thereafter followed a divorce that was held in the Courts of Justice in London 3 times over a 9 year period before it was finalised because they couldn’t reach a financial settlement. Funnily enough, they don’t talk to each other now??!!

UnctuousUnicorns · 22/02/2025 20:23

Drylogsonly · 22/02/2025 20:15

That’s not bad at all - that kid was a littlest who had it coming.
A man once touched - I mean ‘touched’ - me on the Tube and unfortunately for him I did martial arts, all women, and part of that was yelling - shouting- vocalising when we moved. LOUDLY. Very empowering.
Anyways, this douche bag touches me so I yell at the top of my lungs’ Get your FUCKING hands off me!’
I thought he was going to have a heart attack. Never seen anyone get off the carriage as fast as he did.

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👏 If only every creep got the same treatment! 😡

UnctuousUnicorns · 22/02/2025 20:20

"That’s not bad at all - that kid was a littlest who had it coming"

Oh, absolutely, my mum didn't regret it one bit, was rather chuffed and proud as she told me! 😅 Wee gobshite got his comeuppance. 🙂

staceyflack · 22/02/2025 20:17

I threw the entire contents of a fridge, including glass bottles & jars against a kitchen wall after my then boyfriend told me how much "fkg form" the girl he'd been slow dancing with that night had. 🤮 I was 16, him 20. One of the worst nights of my life. I stamped around the floor during my outburst and cut my feet to shreds. I was a very emotional girl. Much more stable now, at 55! 😅

Drylogsonly · 22/02/2025 20:17

Oh and I shoved him hard in the chest. Left that bit out so he flew backwards too. Then ran off like the creepy sucky weasel he was.

LIJ · 22/02/2025 20:16

PaintDecisions · 21/02/2025 09:28

Ref the Dogs Trust one - I have zero remorse about this.

My neighbour is a real piece of work. Her father bought her the home for her and her two kids because she kept getting evicted from her rentals due to her behaviour. He renovated it before she moved in, and within 2 months she had trashed every surface, every carpet, soaked the whole house by running over the bath for several hours (and claiming it was a water leak), and it's regularly filled with dog and cat piss and poo.

The elder kid was taken by SS 2yrs ago after we had to call 999 because she was battering him in the street. She used to stick him out the back door for hours (aged 7 with cerebral palsy and SEN) when she couldn't cope with him, which I only found out about afterwards from another neighbour who had been making SS reports for months. She apparently signed him over voluntarily in the end. He's not allowed to see her without a chaperone and comes about twice a year with his foster mum.

The younger child is still there - we're all waiting for that poor kid to be the next victim.

Anyway, nutty neighbour has some medical issues and she is regularly in hospital for extended stays. Kid goes to elderly grandparents but the dog stays in the house with a dog walker popping in once a day. That's it. RSPCA don't care as it's "adequate". The house gets saturated between visits and every time she comes home she has to pay for a deep clean of the place before SS and carers come round again...

Then we found out during her last hospital stay that she had now got a new dog which was too nervous to be walked and was stuck in the living room, terrified of the dog walker and had never left the house. A rescued Balkans street dog she was fostering. It took me a couple of days to track down the organisation she got it from and tell them what was happening. Long story short, it took three weeks but the dog was taken off her and she's no longer allowed to foster.

Unfortunately she's now added a new cat into the mix even though one died emaciated (I suspect untreated kidney disease) recently and the other is practically bald (never seen a vet).

I am watching that woman like a hawk. Her elderly dad is absolutely exhausted and I really feel for him - he's given her everything he can and she ruins or wastes it all.

So in anger, I got someone's dog taken away and contributed to their kid being taken into care. No regrets.

Well done you!!

Drylogsonly · 22/02/2025 20:15

UnctuousUnicorns · 22/02/2025 20:06

My mum had something similar every time she walked past my brother's school on the way to the shops. A lad, in his early to mid teens, used to walk behind her making insulting comments and sniggering to himself. Every day.

Like you, she at first tried ignoring it. Then one day she exploded. She grabbed the little shit by his collar, put her face right up close to his, so that she was virtually spitting in his face, and snarled in utter fury,
"ONE MORE FUCKING SNIDEY LITTLE WORD OUT OF YOU, AND I WILL FUCKING BURST YOU!"

Mum freely admits that she must have looked like some raging, demented loon. The lad was fucking terrified, garbled some apology, and scuttled off when he was let go.

Of course, he never bothered my mum again after that.

PS my mum is 4' 11", but when she's angry, she's bloody scary. 😅

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That’s not bad at all - that kid was a littlest who had it coming.
A man once touched - I mean ‘touched’ - me on the Tube and unfortunately for him I did martial arts, all women, and part of that was yelling - shouting- vocalising when we moved. LOUDLY. Very empowering.
Anyways, this douche bag touches me so I yell at the top of my lungs’ Get your FUCKING hands off me!’
I thought he was going to have a heart attack. Never seen anyone get off the carriage as fast as he did.

Dancingatthepinkponyclub · 22/02/2025 20:14

My first ever boyfriend who I was with for a long time out of habit.. was a dick. Cheated on me a lot and drank too much and acted like a cock. One night he was out of it in bed next to me, I was snotty crying as we had argued before and so I blew my nose in my hand and rubbed it all over his face! He did on one occasion also piss the bed with me in it… young love eh!