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To ask what the strangest thing you did online as a teenager was?

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Username73638 · 20/02/2025 20:31

I’ll go first… when I was about 12 or 13 (mid-00s) I signed up to a UK mum/baby forum - I can’t remember what it was called but it was a bit like Mumsnet but way, way smaller, everyone knew everyone - and created a whole fake life and made a load of ‘friends’ on there who were presumably women in their 20s-40s. This was when the internet was a very different place and everyone had their kids’ names and DOBs on ‘tickers’ I think they were called in their signatures. There was minimal anonymity. I had a fake husband and a couple of fake kids with names and back stories and then ‘got pregnant’ and tracked a whole pregnancy and birth. All of my online ‘friends’ were really excited to hear the birth announcement and helped me pick the baby’s name. I made up a fake birth story. There was actually an in-person meet up with all the kids that I was invited along to but obviously I couldn’t go, I pretended that one of my kids was sick.

I still remember some of the names of the women and their kids and think about how old the kids would be now (in their 20s!)

Anyway after 1-2 years, can’t remember exactly how long, a group of them realised I was fake and ‘confronted’ me online. I didn’t confess but deleted my account and never went back.

I had a difficult home life and I think I wanted to imagine the happy family I might have when I grew up. It was a bit of an obsession though and I spent so many hours on there, basically every afternoon and evening after school. I’ve never done anything similar since, my catfishing days were over after that!

Did anyone else do anything similar online as a teenager, pretending to be anyone else or something?

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SnapdragonToadflax · 20/02/2025 21:17

If nothing else, this thread just shows you can't believe anything on the internet!

It didn't exist when I was a teenager, thank fucking god.

GrandTheftWalrus · 20/02/2025 21:16

We only got internet in my house when I was 18. So 2002. First thing I done was look at rotten.com.

I also used baby centre from the minute I was ttc with my ex until the day after I had my 1st with my now dh. It was weird. I'd went on meet ups etc and I'm still in fb contact with them and they supported me through my divorce etc and cheered me on when getting together with dh and overjoyed when I announced I was pregnant. Posted my birth announcement and for some reason never went back on it!

Londonrach1 · 20/02/2025 21:16

Online didn't exist when I was a teenager. So glad it didn't...do miss the old dial up....drrr drr eeee drrr drr ..

Niknakcake · 20/02/2025 21:15

Username73638 · 20/02/2025 20:31

I’ll go first… when I was about 12 or 13 (mid-00s) I signed up to a UK mum/baby forum - I can’t remember what it was called but it was a bit like Mumsnet but way, way smaller, everyone knew everyone - and created a whole fake life and made a load of ‘friends’ on there who were presumably women in their 20s-40s. This was when the internet was a very different place and everyone had their kids’ names and DOBs on ‘tickers’ I think they were called in their signatures. There was minimal anonymity. I had a fake husband and a couple of fake kids with names and back stories and then ‘got pregnant’ and tracked a whole pregnancy and birth. All of my online ‘friends’ were really excited to hear the birth announcement and helped me pick the baby’s name. I made up a fake birth story. There was actually an in-person meet up with all the kids that I was invited along to but obviously I couldn’t go, I pretended that one of my kids was sick.

I still remember some of the names of the women and their kids and think about how old the kids would be now (in their 20s!)

Anyway after 1-2 years, can’t remember exactly how long, a group of them realised I was fake and ‘confronted’ me online. I didn’t confess but deleted my account and never went back.

I had a difficult home life and I think I wanted to imagine the happy family I might have when I grew up. It was a bit of an obsession though and I spent so many hours on there, basically every afternoon and evening after school. I’ve never done anything similar since, my catfishing days were over after that!

Did anyone else do anything similar online as a teenager, pretending to be anyone else or something?

Babyworld?

ShrimpBoil · 20/02/2025 21:14

Username73638 · 20/02/2025 21:02

No I don’t think it was baby centre. I think it might not exist any more, I’ve just had a little search online and can’t find it. If I saw the name I’d know it straight away.

Handbag.com?

SneakyLilNameChange · 20/02/2025 21:12

I was groomed online age 13/14 or so. Added on MySpace by a ‘friend of a friend’ who looking back was clearly a paedophile. Never met him thank GOD but exposed breasts and was encouraged to masturbate on video cam (there’s was off obviously.)

Ive never told anyone that ever and haven’t thought about it for years. But yeah…not good.

RejoiceandSing · 20/02/2025 21:08

I started reading mn in my mid-teens, didn't make up a fake persona though(or have an account for ages - I'm a much more normal age for it now!). Probably a bit odd for a teenager, but it did teach me a lot, especially about relationships and what's generally considered acceptable, sexual health stuff, different opinions on how to bring up children.

Becauseisaidsookay · 20/02/2025 21:05

It was only just starting to come in when I was a teen. I remember only one friend having the dial up thingy and having no real clue what it was. One day our group of friends went online and we were supposedly talking online to some surfer guy I think. I remember us all pretending we were one girl/woman and making her up from the best bits of ourselves 😂 Eg..my brunette hair, friends figure, other friends eye colour, so stupid, but it was fun.
I also remember getting my first mobile phone at around 19, an Erikson flip phone (I think!) it took ages to type out a message and didn’t do much else. I remember a guy (or said he was) messaging me by accident and we got texting and I made up lies about how I was an air stewardess 🤷🏻‍♀️really I was just a bored student

DutchTeenyPixie · 20/02/2025 21:05

I remember the one and it did have the child’s gender and DOB in the signature. I’ll come back to the thread if I remember the name!

Username73638 · 20/02/2025 21:02

Ilovegoldies · 20/02/2025 20:40

Baby centre? I caught a troll out there who faked a premature birth.

No I don’t think it was baby centre. I think it might not exist any more, I’ve just had a little search online and can’t find it. If I saw the name I’d know it straight away.

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RuthW · 20/02/2025 21:01

Togglebullets · 20/02/2025 20:35

Baby greenhouse? I wonder if I was catfished by you if so.

Like a previous poster I'm too old to answer your actual question but it's interesting to read why people do stuff like that.

Hopefully your life is a bit happier now

I remember someone like that. Can't remember if it was BGH or UK Parents.

MayaPinion · 20/02/2025 20:57

Sorry, that had nothing to do with the internet, it it’s still cringe 😬 😂

ThatWordDoesNotMeanWhatYouThinkItMeans · 20/02/2025 20:56

Nothing, thank God. The internet didn't exist when I was a teenager.

MayaPinion · 20/02/2025 20:55

When I was 16 my mum and dad went away for a few days leaving me in charge of my 14 year old sister and her 14 year old friend from school who was staying with us for a few days. Because my mum wasn’t there to drink 60 cups of milky tea a day we had a surplus of milk so we wrote a note to cancel a few days, popped it in a milk bottle, and put it in the porch.

Instead of writing ‘No milk today’ we wrote what we thought was an hilarious poem, the jist of what I can’t remember. The milkman’s son found it and gave it to his mother who then thought the milkman was having an affair with my mother. The whole milk family arrived on our doorstep looking for my mum and we had to explain to them all (and my parents) that we’d written it for fun. I’m 55 now and I’m still mortified when I think of it 😳

Y2ker · 20/02/2025 20:54

Oh op, this is an interesting thread. Good to hear that things feel better for you now. I don't actually think creating a fantasy world is so unusual and the Internet certainly facilitates it.

As a student in the dawn of the Internet forums I met some fantastic people online on a music forum. Some had very interesting backgrounds. I met many of them in real life too and it was a nice thing. Thankfully none were nutters..
Reflecting now through I'd be wary if my teenager did the same.

flipflop76 · 20/02/2025 20:54

Online didn't exist when I was a teenager!

RampantIvy · 20/02/2025 20:53

I think we have disappointed the OP who is very young compared to the rest of us Grin

I remember dial a disc and the speaking clock.

Phone calls used to be a lot cheaper after 6pm and at weekends as long as they were kept under an hour, and my friends and I used to spend hours on the phone to each other. I would ring a friend and after 59 minutes she would ring me back.

UndermyShoeJoe · 20/02/2025 20:53

From the sounds of it baby and bump.

Used to sit in chatrooms taking the piss out of the grumpy mod. She would ban me, I’d log out change ip and be back in winding her up something Cronic. We did actually become threads but boy did I kick her ass in those chat rooms.

CootchyCoo · 20/02/2025 20:50

This was 2003-6

CootchyCoo · 20/02/2025 20:48

So much! Chatted with grown adults (allegedly) from across the world at 13, met up with one at 15 and dozens of them from 16, travelling hours by train having lied to my parents about where I was.

Moved hundreds of miles away at 16.

I had very negligent parents. I remember being pushed for photos and nudes from 13 from random AOL chatrooms.

Wendolino · 20/02/2025 20:44

No Internet in my day, but my friends and I used to phone random numbers and pretend we wanted to speak to a name we made up. Don't ask me why, but it seemed hilarious at age 12/13!

Createausername1970 · 20/02/2025 20:44

I used to listen to my radio under the bedclothes, Radio Caroline or Radio Luxembourg.

boxofbuttons · 20/02/2025 20:43

I regularly pretended to be a 30-something woman getting divorced in various Yahoo chat rooms, I've NO idea why lmao

Lakel · 20/02/2025 20:43

I attempted a chat room in the mid 90s, no idea which one or how I found it. I was completely bamboozled. Just a rapid fire conversation, or maybe many conversations all happening at once, and the page refreshed with each comment posted so no chance to read back or follow what the hell was going on. I don’t think I even plucked up the courage to post anything, or if I did it got instantly lost and no one replied to me anyway.

I found this place in 2007 and have been stuck here ever since 😂

Username73638 · 20/02/2025 20:42

readingmakesmehappy · 20/02/2025 20:39

I am very glad that dial up internet meant I did not use it much when I was a teenager. I plan to keep my kids off it as long and as much as possible.

I’m pretty sure I was on dial up when this started! It was certainly on our family computer, not a laptop or anything.

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