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To think that now is the time for powerful voices to speak up…

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Alifemoreordinary123 · 20/02/2025 20:14

I’m not highly educated or hugely politically savvy. But like many people, I’m horrified by Trump and Musk’s approach, propaganda and ideology. It’s increasingly possibly they will take the world to a very dark place. I keep thinking, surely there are enough counter powers - people with power and influence, leaders from business, media, the arts, politics across the Western world to try and counter some of their rhetoric. I’m not naive to the immense power they hold, but surely reason, sense, logic and hope will win over?

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neverthelastone · 20/02/2025 23:25

And from the hated Guardian:

www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/oct/25/trump-sexual-misconduct-allegations-timeline

Whimsicalgrape · 20/02/2025 23:24

madamweb · 20/02/2025 23:21

I know, definitely one of the most astonishing attempts to defend trump

In @rabbitwoman defence she is right, there is a nuance between the first sentence and the second. They aren't saying the same thing entirely.

Still a bloody disgusting thing to come out with though 😒

ilovesooty · 20/02/2025 23:23

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 22:13

I said trump seems 'a little more dignified' than he was before and I gave a reason. And you didn't read what I said and went straight to telling me I was an idiot and hadn't seen his speeches and all the crazy things he has said.....

And I think that proves my point.

David Lammy called me a dinosaur, hoarding rights. Keir starmer told me I shouldn't say only women have a cervix. I get safeguarding training on how to spot FGM, forced marriages, how to spot CSA, but heaven forbid anyone should even mention grooming gangs.

Should I vote for them anyway? Despite the contempt they have for me?

Is there something wrong about the safeguarding training you mention?

Llttledrummergirl · 20/02/2025 23:23

Yay, we have our buy 2 get one free offer again. It must be blame the left for the actions of the right day today. What will tomorrow bring? Trump the messiah? Musk the miraculous? Putin the perfect?

Tune in for the next episode brought by our next 3 narrators.

Anyone who thinks Trump is dignified is in cloud cuckoo land.

59thStreetBridgeSong · 20/02/2025 23:23

madamweb · 20/02/2025 23:21

I know, definitely one of the most astonishing attempts to defend trump

I don’t see the difference between the remarks. I’m relieved this country isn’t being led by someone talking about grabbing women by the pussy.

Whimsicalgrape · 20/02/2025 23:22

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:19

'How do you feel about Andrew Tate?'

He is vile. But he is nowhere near political power and never should be.

So you find it abhorrent that Trump has asked Romanian authorities to lift restrictions? Or is that okay?

neverthelastone · 20/02/2025 23:22

Now, I think my post upthread was censored because I mentioned Trump sexual abuse allegations (I think so, anyway); so here’s a link for you. Check out Wikipedia, a range of news sources, whatever. But are you going to dismiss all these, as Trump does, as “lawfare”? Or, might we reasonably surmise that if you accrue this number of sexual harassment allegations and are also captured multiple times on film talking in similar terms, that possibly you are not a bastion of chivalry? (Remember those lovely videos of Trump making fun of disabled people, too. That also really makes me think he’s just a great guy!)

https://abcnews.go.com/amp/Politics/list-trumps-accusers-allegations-sexual-misconduct/story?id=51956410

ThenUm · 20/02/2025 23:22

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:14

The exact phrasing escapes me.

But there is a difference between 'if you are rich you can just grab women by the pussy' and 'there are some women who will just let you grab em by the pussy if you are rich.'

If I had had a vote in the last US election I may have compiled a more comprehensive list of reasons for debates such as this but I didn't. I know many many Americans did, and a man who was roundly vilified, branded a misogynist pschycopath, a racist, a clown, won outright. Despite everything.

He was seen as better than the alternative. There are lessons to be learnt from that.

Thank you for the interesting conversation. I have learnt and absorbed even more than before. I am just as confident now that the right person is in charge for the foreseeable future as I was a few hours ago.

I am only one person on a forum, I am anonymous and open minded, I am intelligent and engaged and have responsibities in real life. So, food for thought for you guts, maybe? Or not. Sleep well, notwithstanding xxx

"I don't even wait. And when you're a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. ... Grab 'em by the pussy. You can do anything."[1]

I think it’s pretty clear. ‘I don’t even wait’.

madamweb · 20/02/2025 23:21

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:19

'How do you feel about Andrew Tate?'

He is vile. But he is nowhere near political power and never should be.

I dont see anything different between Andrew Tate, Musk (who controls Trump) and Trump. They all have a shared set of values.

madamweb · 20/02/2025 23:21

BIossomtoes · 20/02/2025 23:20

But there is a difference between 'if you are rich you can just grab women by the pussy' and 'there are some women who will just let you grab em by the pussy if you are rich.'

There’s no difference whatsoever. It’s disgusting misogyny regardless.

I know, definitely one of the most astonishing attempts to defend trump

BIossomtoes · 20/02/2025 23:20

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:19

'How do you feel about Andrew Tate?'

He is vile. But he is nowhere near political power and never should be.

Trump thinks he should.

BIossomtoes · 20/02/2025 23:20

But there is a difference between 'if you are rich you can just grab women by the pussy' and 'there are some women who will just let you grab em by the pussy if you are rich.'

There’s no difference whatsoever. It’s disgusting misogyny regardless.

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:19

'How do you feel about Andrew Tate?'

He is vile. But he is nowhere near political power and never should be.

madamweb · 20/02/2025 23:18

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:14

The exact phrasing escapes me.

But there is a difference between 'if you are rich you can just grab women by the pussy' and 'there are some women who will just let you grab em by the pussy if you are rich.'

If I had had a vote in the last US election I may have compiled a more comprehensive list of reasons for debates such as this but I didn't. I know many many Americans did, and a man who was roundly vilified, branded a misogynist pschycopath, a racist, a clown, won outright. Despite everything.

He was seen as better than the alternative. There are lessons to be learnt from that.

Thank you for the interesting conversation. I have learnt and absorbed even more than before. I am just as confident now that the right person is in charge for the foreseeable future as I was a few hours ago.

I am only one person on a forum, I am anonymous and open minded, I am intelligent and engaged and have responsibities in real life. So, food for thought for you guts, maybe? Or not. Sleep well, notwithstanding xxx

Lots of people were manipulated into voting for Hitler too. They took thought they were making logical and rational decisions. Maybe they took focused on some narrow point he was making that they agreed with rather than sitting back and seeing the bigger picture.

Your suggestion that one of those phrases regarding pussy grabbing would be fine and not the other is somewhat astonishing

59thStreetBridgeSong · 20/02/2025 23:18

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 22:13

I said trump seems 'a little more dignified' than he was before and I gave a reason. And you didn't read what I said and went straight to telling me I was an idiot and hadn't seen his speeches and all the crazy things he has said.....

And I think that proves my point.

David Lammy called me a dinosaur, hoarding rights. Keir starmer told me I shouldn't say only women have a cervix. I get safeguarding training on how to spot FGM, forced marriages, how to spot CSA, but heaven forbid anyone should even mention grooming gangs.

Should I vote for them anyway? Despite the contempt they have for me?

Trump is about as dignified as a three year old who has been left unsupervised around the fake tan.

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:14

The exact phrasing escapes me.

But there is a difference between 'if you are rich you can just grab women by the pussy' and 'there are some women who will just let you grab em by the pussy if you are rich.'

If I had had a vote in the last US election I may have compiled a more comprehensive list of reasons for debates such as this but I didn't. I know many many Americans did, and a man who was roundly vilified, branded a misogynist pschycopath, a racist, a clown, won outright. Despite everything.

He was seen as better than the alternative. There are lessons to be learnt from that.

Thank you for the interesting conversation. I have learnt and absorbed even more than before. I am just as confident now that the right person is in charge for the foreseeable future as I was a few hours ago.

I am only one person on a forum, I am anonymous and open minded, I am intelligent and engaged and have responsibities in real life. So, food for thought for you guts, maybe? Or not. Sleep well, notwithstanding xxx

Whimsicalgrape · 20/02/2025 23:13

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:02

'I think you are being very myopic. The tide was starting to turn on that issue anyway. Aligning yourself with nasty misogynists is an alarmingly naive choice.'

The public are making their feelings clear by voting a certain way. By not supporting certain causes, by withdrawing their spending from Budweiser, gyms, Disney films.... but big stats with huge platforms?

And I don't think kamala Harris was changing her mind.

And why am I the myopic one? Hillary Clinton wanted to make Bill Clinton the first gentleman. Feminist hero?

I was as disgusted as anyone by the 'grab em by the pussy' quote. But I did some more nuanced thinking, I listened to the full conversation, and have come to the conclusion that Trump was misrepresented. What are you going to do about that? Insist I am wrong. Do it. I am fine with that. Support who you like, belive what you like. I have no interest in trying to persuade you.

What about 'I did not have sexual relations with that woman!' less course, perhaps, equally vile. And yes, the Clintons also visited epstein island.

So you know what? I am going to hold my nose, align with whoever will listen for now, brace myself for the consequences and see how I feel at the next election.

If you want people like me to vote alongside people like you, stop treating me like an idiot.

I'm not too keen on men taking women's spaces in sports, business, changing rooms etc. either and I believe there absolutely should have been more reasonable measures taken (third spaces etc. I too, wasn't listened to on these issues. Not by anyone person in particular, except for a few friends.

But there's no way I can align myself with a rapist on any count no matter how mental culture wars has become. I cannot justify embracing people like Trump, Musk, Putin, Farage et al. Just because they sound "refreshing" or whatever. Beneath it all it is dark and sordid.

How do you feel about Andrew Tate?

ThenUm · 20/02/2025 23:12

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 20/02/2025 23:11

@Alifemoreordinary123 ,
”I’m not highly educated or hugely politically savvy. ”
You don’t say. 🙄

Rude.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 20/02/2025 23:11

@Alifemoreordinary123 ,
”I’m not highly educated or hugely politically savvy. ”
You don’t say. 🙄

59thStreetBridgeSong · 20/02/2025 23:10

Andwhoisasking · 20/02/2025 21:58

Did I say they were? No. It’s not my fault you don’t understand the nuances of history.

Where did you get your information on the nuances of history?

59thStreetBridgeSong · 20/02/2025 23:08

madamweb · 20/02/2025 22:44

So has mine!

I’ve had extensive training on grooming gangs.

BIossomtoes · 20/02/2025 23:04

How can “Grab ‘em by the pussy” be misrepresentation? It’s pretty fucking unambiguous.

Hancox432 · 20/02/2025 23:03

neverthelastone · 20/02/2025 22:57

You don’t realise that it was Trump’s election in 2016 that emboldened Russian aggression and renewed incursions into European air and naval space, plus his statements on NATO?

You don’t remember the Trump family links to Russia in his first term?

Trump has been enabling Russian expansion all along.

Perhaps. But if we hadn't half heartedly condemned Russia in 2014 maybe he would have had second thoughts about doing it again.

The reason Putin has gone in again on Ukraine is he knew that we wouldn't stand up to him once again.

rabbitwoman · 20/02/2025 23:02

'I think you are being very myopic. The tide was starting to turn on that issue anyway. Aligning yourself with nasty misogynists is an alarmingly naive choice.'

The public are making their feelings clear by voting a certain way. By not supporting certain causes, by withdrawing their spending from Budweiser, gyms, Disney films.... but big stats with huge platforms?

And I don't think kamala Harris was changing her mind.

And why am I the myopic one? Hillary Clinton wanted to make Bill Clinton the first gentleman. Feminist hero?

I was as disgusted as anyone by the 'grab em by the pussy' quote. But I did some more nuanced thinking, I listened to the full conversation, and have come to the conclusion that Trump was misrepresented. What are you going to do about that? Insist I am wrong. Do it. I am fine with that. Support who you like, belive what you like. I have no interest in trying to persuade you.

What about 'I did not have sexual relations with that woman!' less course, perhaps, equally vile. And yes, the Clintons also visited epstein island.

So you know what? I am going to hold my nose, align with whoever will listen for now, brace myself for the consequences and see how I feel at the next election.

If you want people like me to vote alongside people like you, stop treating me like an idiot.

neverthelastone · 20/02/2025 22:57

Hancox432 · 20/02/2025 22:53

I'm not Trump fan and some of the things he's come out with this week are just odd and stupid. However looking objectively at the Ukraine war. Prior to Trump, there was no end in sight for it. Just a pointless war of attrition that was going one of 2 ways. Ukraine losses get too much and Russia pushes forward. Or red lines eventually get crossed and NATO joins the war. Not sure about most, but I don't fancy any of those 2 options as they both inevitably lead to a wider conflict with Russia.

Europe has needed to pull it's finger out for ages now regarding defence, leaders have been saying this for ages and yes it's a bit unorthodox the way it's come about but it needed to happen.

People in this and other threads are correct in saying that without US support no one else will step up because the fact is they can't afford to. Trump knows this so knows Europe will inevitably agree to any of the ceasefire terms ( hence why leaders haven't come about and said they reject the American peace terms or potential terms with Russia)

Appeasing Putin is dangerous by Trump, but Europe were sleepy in 2014 when we should have dealt with this properly. Yes it's the US that are acting foolish now but we shouldn't have let it get to this stage 10 years ago.

Trump only has America interests at heart. This was not news to anyone and people that are shocked that any of this is happened were naive as this is exactly what most expected and even Trump said he was going to do.

3 positives will come out of this though.

The fighting will stop (hopefully long term)

UK will once again move closer to the EU

EU will buck up it's ideas and sort it's defence out.

Where our future relationship lies with the US is anyone's guess. I'd think it will be come just that a relationship as opposed to a "special relationship"

You don’t realise that it was Trump’s election in 2016 that emboldened Russian aggression and renewed incursions into European air and naval space, plus his statements on NATO?

You don’t remember the Trump family links to Russia in his first term?

Trump has been enabling Russian expansion all along.