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When a relative bites your child

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Roberta2020 · 20/02/2025 15:27

I don't want to delve into details, because I am still angry about it.
Let's just say that a relative on my husband's side bit my child to teach them 'how it feels when you bite your brother'.
I was raised to be respectful of elders, so obviously I said nothing and consoled my screaming child, but since then I have felt unable to leave my child alone around that relative.
The relative in question, after saying 'I did it for his own good', changed their tune and started saying they did not do it in front of my husband. My child is adamant he was bitten.
I trust my child. I am not willing to leave him alone with that relative again.
Am I being unreasonable? Am I being too much? Should I give them the benefit of doubt?

OP posts:
GabriellaMontez · 20/02/2025 15:45

Someone hurt you child on purpose and you didn't say anything...

That's worrying. You are your child's protector.

Your concerns about 'respect' are misplaced.

ImDoneOnceAndForAll · 20/02/2025 15:44

So… You were raised
‘Being Respectful of elders’

Your child was raised
’Thinking it was ok for an adult to assault them’

Good job

Member869894 · 20/02/2025 15:43

Are there bite marks? Was blood drawn?? That's very different from closing your teeth around an arm and biting gently to show how it can hurt. If it was the latter I really couldn't get worked up about this

needapokerface · 20/02/2025 15:40

My daughter bit me on the fleshy part of my boob when she was about 2, a full set of teeth marks were visible for hours and I bit her on her arm not as hard as she bit me but enough to know it hurts.

It was the 1st and last time she ever bit anyone.

Old school is sometimes the best way, as they have no idea how much it hurts till they experience it.

QueenAstrid · 20/02/2025 15:40

FedupMum2024 · 20/02/2025 15:37

What have you done to curb your child's biting habits?

Missing the point much? OP assuming you won’t go to the police I would never see this relative again and let them know why.

FedupMum2024 · 20/02/2025 15:37

What have you done to curb your child's biting habits?

Dinosweetpea · 20/02/2025 15:37

You said nothing??? What is wrong with you?!

Organisedwannabe · 20/02/2025 15:36

Was this recently? Does the child still have bite marks? Then I would go to the police.

Boredonafridaynight · 20/02/2025 15:33

That's basically assult... I would not have my child near that relative again

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