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Is this acceptable of a charity?

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pennypop3 · 20/02/2025 11:18

I started working in the events team of a medium sized charity about 5-6 months ago. Lots of weekend and evening work but nothing like this so far so I'm just gauging opinions.

Next week we have an all day event. It will require me leaving home at about 5am and driving 1.5 hours to the venue. I'll be working all day and probably not getting home until 10pm. Also driving home. I'm sure there will be opportunities to have a break during the day but no fixed break times as such so if I'm needed I will be working through the day.

In my previous job at another charity we would have been offered an overnight stay at such an event as they were aware it's a long day and that it's a relatively long drive home after a full day of work. This hasn't been mentioned. When I raised the question with management they were surprised and I got the feeling it's looked down upon as it's seen to be taking money away from the event. They basically suggested if I want to stay I have to arrange and pay for it myself.

Is this ok? It's a small team and we all have to pitch in. I get that and would never usually complain. But the attitude of management has rubbed me up the wrong way.

OP posts:
ssd · 20/02/2025 11:32

Thats a very long day for you op, i would expect a hotel room to be provided, driving home exhausted isnt very safe.

Fencehedge · 20/02/2025 11:30

name1234noidea · 20/02/2025 11:26

@Fencehedge a working day of 5am to 10pm is acceptable to you? Confused

She said its a 1.5hr journey, so will be working maximum 6.30am to 8.30pm with breaks.

Similar to an NHS long day, plus it's a one-off rather than a pattern of shifts.

For a small team charity, OP hasn't read the room, being new. And what can she realistically do about it, apart from leave?

pennypop3 · 20/02/2025 11:30

There will be opportunities to sit down but I won't get an hour off to eat in peace or whatever. It's a full on schedule.

I don't want to cause trouble I just think it's a bit inconsiderate of management. They don't seem to care at all.

OP posts:
olympicsrock · 20/02/2025 11:29

ForRealCat · 20/02/2025 11:22

No its not acceptable. There is no way you should be required to drive after such a long day. It sounds negligent to me. I don't know what you can do about it now without flagging yourself as a troublemaker though? I probably would have asked quietly 1-2-1 and kept what I had asked for to myself, so they could provide accommodation just for me, rather than the whole team

Saying it is negligent is going a bit far. Loads of health care workers do a 12 hour shift and drive 90 mins home. I agree it’s a long day though and OP will need a break

name1234noidea · 20/02/2025 11:26

@Fencehedge a working day of 5am to 10pm is acceptable to you? Confused

ForRealCat · 20/02/2025 11:26

Fencehedge · 20/02/2025 11:23

What's the issue? You will get breaks.

That's a normal commute for a lot of people so it's unreasonable to expect the charity to pay for a hotel, just so you don't have to get up early.

But that commute would be for a 9-5 (ish day), not a 6:30-10pm day. Its not an appropriate drive after a 15hour shift

Fencehedge · 20/02/2025 11:23

What's the issue? You will get breaks.

That's a normal commute for a lot of people so it's unreasonable to expect the charity to pay for a hotel, just so you don't have to get up early.

Poppins21 · 20/02/2025 11:23

I was in charity management and if we had a day that long I would have offered accommodation either the day before or after the event. Just because they are a charity doesn’t mean they are exempt from HR.

olympicsrock · 20/02/2025 11:22

It’s a VERY long day for you to work without a break. Not sure that an overnight stay is needed but they need to make sure you have cover during the day and a lunch break.
Could you travel by train and get taxis ?

ForRealCat · 20/02/2025 11:22

No its not acceptable. There is no way you should be required to drive after such a long day. It sounds negligent to me. I don't know what you can do about it now without flagging yourself as a troublemaker though? I probably would have asked quietly 1-2-1 and kept what I had asked for to myself, so they could provide accommodation just for me, rather than the whole team

Barleysugar86 · 20/02/2025 11:21

What are your reasons for wanting it- just to make you more comfortable or are you worried you'll be unsafe to drive?

10pm isn't a crazy time to be getting home, although I appreciate that is a very early start.

XWKD · 20/02/2025 11:20

The fact that it's a charity doesn't mean they can treat staff like shit. You're staff -not a wealthy benefactor.

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