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Should I report my cousin's benefit fraud?

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GreatAmberSnake · 20/02/2025 09:35

Hi everyone - I'm having a bit of a moral dilemma and looking to get everyone's opinions.

My M34 cousin doesn't work, he claims PIP. I'm not that familiar with how it works but he says he's on the highest level available, and there's even talk of him getting given a car. He openly boasts at every opportunity about the extreme exaggerations and outright lies he put on his PIP application, and calls me and other members of the family idiots for working when we could just get our money from PIP like he does.

If they investigated him they would easily find that some of his lies don't add up. I believe he genuinely does have depression and anxiety, but he has no physical issues. He said he put things like his partner needs to dress him in the morning (he split from his partner a couple of years ago), needs to wear velcro shoes as he can't tie laces etc. A home visit would show up some of his lies, and a call to the school (he's a weekend Dad but sometimes picks up/drops off his sons) or the Police (he's been arrested for drug offences a couple of times) would be further proof.

The main thing stopping me from reporting him is his depression. He has attempted suicide on at least one occasion, and I fear that a potential prison sentence for fraud could send him into a spiral. Even if no-one found out it was me, I really don't want that on my conscience.

If he didn't boast all the time I would just ignore it, it's not like it affects me directly, but it just winds me up every time he goes on about. Grrrr!! I do try to minimise contact with him but sometimes it's easier said than done. If he gets this car I think he'll become even more unbearable 😡

Help! What would you do?

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Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 22:42

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:40

You said there should be no PIP for people with MH issues. So what are they meant to live on? Fresh air?

Mental health is not mental conditions - mental health might be comorbid but it’s not generally the reason that people were institutionalised.

Wildflowers99 · 24/02/2025 22:41

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:40

You said there should be no PIP for people with MH issues. So what are they meant to live on? Fresh air?

The UC most of them will be claiming?

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 22:41

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:40

You said there should be no PIP for people with MH issues. So what are they meant to live on? Fresh air?

I didn’t say that actually

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:40

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 22:37

Obviously no one is talking about people who are actually very unwell or incapacitated 🙄

You said there should be no PIP for people with MH issues. So what are they meant to live on? Fresh air?

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 22:39

chaosmaker · 24/02/2025 22:36

@Flipflop223 the tax laws need rewriting to stop tax being dodged. The rich do not pay as much tax as the rest of us do proportionately to the income they get. That is a fact.

Ok if you want to have this argument - who are you defining as the ‘rich’. How much money do they have to have to fall into this category? Are you defining it on income or wealth (net assets)?

I don’t think you have any data on this at all but I’m interested to see what you come up with to support this assertion

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:39

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:44

But just because you’re in a wheelchair, doesn’t mean you can’t be economically productive? WFH is a thing. Accommodations are a thing.

Someone with disabilities would have to get a job to start with. Employers say they are disability friendly, when in reality it is little more than a tick box exercise.
Employers will always go for the most reliable people, and someone who has a chronic illness might struggle to meet that criteria as they will need time off for appointments and periods of being too unwell to work.
Also, WFH is not suitable for everyone. A friend of mine with MS (who uses a wheelchair) has has to leave her WFH job and go on benefits as she can no longer see her computer screen properly.

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 22:37

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:33

The last one closed in 2010.
My great grandfather died in one in the 80s.
There was a shift to Care in the Community. Those people may no longer be in asylums, but they are too ill to work.... or they are in prison.

Obviously no one is talking about people who are actually very unwell or incapacitated 🙄

chaosmaker · 24/02/2025 22:36

@Flipflop223 the tax laws need rewriting to stop tax being dodged. The rich do not pay as much tax as the rest of us do proportionately to the income they get. That is a fact.

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 22:33

Wildflowers99 · 24/02/2025 21:33

Rubbish. There were no asylums post 1980s, huge gap between then and the rise in PIP claims. All this ‘literally everyone was locked up in an institution’ has to stop, it’s a weird myth that has been parroted for a while now.

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The last one closed in 2010.
My great grandfather died in one in the 80s.
There was a shift to Care in the Community. Those people may no longer be in asylums, but they are too ill to work.... or they are in prison.

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 22:08

Cattery · 24/02/2025 22:00

Benefit “dodgers”? Well I’m one. I suggest you research how much tax avoidance there is by huge corporations. Hope that’s boring enough for you.

Edited

I know a lot about it already. I don’t need to research it. Tax avoidance is a process that individuals and entities can legally, legally I point out, undertake to reduce their tax liabilities. Let me give you some examples of things you might do - save into an ISA, make a pension contribution, undertake work via a Ltd co versus as a sole trader. Totally legitimate. Nothing at all wrong with that. Corporates do the same.

What IS the problem in the country is the entitled work shy who can absolutely work and be economically independent, but choose not to for various reasons. They are no different to the tax evading individuals and corporate entities.

x2boys · 24/02/2025 22:01

Wildflowers99 · 24/02/2025 21:33

Rubbish. There were no asylums post 1980s, huge gap between then and the rise in PIP claims. All this ‘literally everyone was locked up in an institution’ has to stop, it’s a weird myth that has been parroted for a while now.

Edited

Well that's not true I started my mental health nurse training in 1993 and they were still in the process of closing down the asylums a lot of the long stay patients were moved to local long stay wards I know this as I worked on one in 2004 ,or other long stay care in the community homes even in the 90,s some patients in acute wards were kept on them far longer than they should have been I worked with a few consultants psychiatrists who imo abused the mental act .

Cattery · 24/02/2025 22:00

Benefit “dodgers”? Well I’m one. I suggest you research how much tax avoidance there is by huge corporations. Hope that’s boring enough for you.

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:54

Cattery · 24/02/2025 21:47

Yeh let’s pick on the least fortunate in society, lazy bastards. Funny how it’s ok for big corporations to tax dodge. If they paid what they are meant to we wouldn’t be in the mess we are. The benefits bill is minuscule in comparison to the shortfall of unpaid tax

Here we go again. Corporates generally stay within the law. The rich pay a lot of tax. Benefit dodgers are equally culpable. Soooo bored of this stupid argument. Just educate yourself please

Cattery · 24/02/2025 21:47

Yeh let’s pick on the least fortunate in society, lazy bastards. Funny how it’s ok for big corporations to tax dodge. If they paid what they are meant to we wouldn’t be in the mess we are. The benefits bill is minuscule in comparison to the shortfall of unpaid tax

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:44

Cattery · 24/02/2025 21:42

Me? No. I’m not in receipt of any benefit of any sort. What an odd assertion to make

But just because you’re in a wheelchair, doesn’t mean you can’t be economically productive? WFH is a thing. Accommodations are a thing.

Cattery · 24/02/2025 21:42

Horserider5678 · 24/02/2025 18:43

It’s about time they took mental
health out of PIP! I’ve a friend with multiple medical conditions and even being a wheelchair user she had to go to tribunal! This is a potential fraud which as a tax payer I resent, perhaps you’re so defensive because you’re claiming fraudulently?

Me? No. I’m not in receipt of any benefit of any sort. What an odd assertion to make

Wildflowers99 · 24/02/2025 21:33

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 21:24

No, they did not get up and work in the past. They were shut away in asylums.

Rubbish. There were no asylums post 1980s, huge gap between then and the rise in PIP claims. All this ‘literally everyone was locked up in an institution’ has to stop, it’s a weird myth that has been parroted for a while now.

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:30

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 21:24

No, they did not get up and work in the past. They were shut away in asylums.

Nonsense. That’s historically inaccurate. The number of people..you know what, I can’t be bothered. I’d have to teach you historical and economic research and that would take a long, long while and I can’t be bothered.

Have you ever spoken to the last generation and the one before that?

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 21:27

Horserider5678 · 24/02/2025 18:43

It’s about time they took mental
health out of PIP! I’ve a friend with multiple medical conditions and even being a wheelchair user she had to go to tribunal! This is a potential fraud which as a tax payer I resent, perhaps you’re so defensive because you’re claiming fraudulently?

People who on are PIP are entitled to it. MH is no different. I am not talking about mild anxiety/depression. I am on about things at the severe end... the stuff no one wants to talk about and never gets mentioned in all the MH awareness stuff out there.

XenoBitch · 24/02/2025 21:24

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:10

People just had to get up and work in the past. No work, no food. They didn’t get to say they can’t work because they are dealing with trauma. No wonder the older generation laughs at us.

No, they did not get up and work in the past. They were shut away in asylums.

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:18

GreatAmberSnake · 20/02/2025 10:53

Thank you everyone, I didn't expect this many replies.

Interesting to see the mix of people saying it's virtually impossible to make a false/exaggerated claim, and others saying it's very easy.

To those calling me out saying the story isn't true or things don't add up - it is completely true, but I'm not particularly close to my cousin (to be honest I can't stand him, which is probably obvious from my post) so I only know what he's chosen to share. Which is just the bits he feels are worth boasting about. I have no idea what proof he had to give.

I have no doubt that he has depression and other mental health issues so I'm sure he qualifies for some PIP, but I'm confident he shouldn't be getting the level he gets now.

I've got a pretty mixed range of responses, but I'm leaning towards keeping my nose out. I'll just need to practice my "smile politely, pretend I'm not seething inside" face for next time I see him 😂

No! Don’t do that. Why?! Would you stand by and watch if he told you he was a pick pocket? Taking other people’s things that they had worked hard for? What about if he accessed people’s properties and stole from them? Would that be enough if he was bragging about that? What about if he said he was stealing from the elderly but not hurting them.

He’s committing theft - it’s no different to any of those scenarios. It’s not a victimless crime - it takes money away from people who really need it. People with MND. People with debilitating conditions who CANNOT work.

he isn’t in that category is he and is providing false testimony so he’s a thief. And you’re happy to stand by and watch and not report him. You’re equally culpable.

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:10

XenoBitch · 21/02/2025 21:19

I hope not. I know many people who claim PIP for MH reasons. They use it to fund things like private therapy.

People just had to get up and work in the past. No work, no food. They didn’t get to say they can’t work because they are dealing with trauma. No wonder the older generation laughs at us.

Julen7 · 24/02/2025 21:06

sarah419 · 24/02/2025 20:32

what do YOU gain out of it?!!! its either the money goes to him or to some MP’s steak lunch expense or gas bill. i don’t know your cousin but i would much rather my taxes go to him than making the rich richer.

It doesn’t work like that

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:04

K90 · 23/02/2025 12:09

DO NOT REPORT HIM !!! He almost certainly will do prison time. He has children. Do you want that on your conscience. Sounds like you don’t like him much but think about your wider family. Stay out of it , not your business

Good. He deserves it completely!!

Flipflop223 · 24/02/2025 21:02

sarah419 · 24/02/2025 20:32

what do YOU gain out of it?!!! its either the money goes to him or to some MP’s steak lunch expense or gas bill. i don’t know your cousin but i would much rather my taxes go to him than making the rich richer.

I’m so sick of this argument. The rich get richer.

its always said by people who contribute next to nothing in tax. The vast majority of the ‘rich’ contribute tens and hundreds of thousand in tax you know. Literally. Whereas the people on £10k or £20k contribute beans. Even on £30k or £40k income levels, if you have 2 children, you’ve already consumed more tax than you have paid. These people are being subsidised by other people who earn more.

But yet they whinge about the rich not payingn their taxes when it’s them that are being heavily subsidised. It’s just lack of education of course but they don’t get it and spout this nonsense to make themselves feel better.

Of course benefit frauds should be jailed. They are cheats.

She gets justice! It’s the right thing to do