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Should I report my cousin's benefit fraud?

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GreatAmberSnake · 20/02/2025 09:35

Hi everyone - I'm having a bit of a moral dilemma and looking to get everyone's opinions.

My M34 cousin doesn't work, he claims PIP. I'm not that familiar with how it works but he says he's on the highest level available, and there's even talk of him getting given a car. He openly boasts at every opportunity about the extreme exaggerations and outright lies he put on his PIP application, and calls me and other members of the family idiots for working when we could just get our money from PIP like he does.

If they investigated him they would easily find that some of his lies don't add up. I believe he genuinely does have depression and anxiety, but he has no physical issues. He said he put things like his partner needs to dress him in the morning (he split from his partner a couple of years ago), needs to wear velcro shoes as he can't tie laces etc. A home visit would show up some of his lies, and a call to the school (he's a weekend Dad but sometimes picks up/drops off his sons) or the Police (he's been arrested for drug offences a couple of times) would be further proof.

The main thing stopping me from reporting him is his depression. He has attempted suicide on at least one occasion, and I fear that a potential prison sentence for fraud could send him into a spiral. Even if no-one found out it was me, I really don't want that on my conscience.

If he didn't boast all the time I would just ignore it, it's not like it affects me directly, but it just winds me up every time he goes on about. Grrrr!! I do try to minimise contact with him but sometimes it's easier said than done. If he gets this car I think he'll become even more unbearable 😡

Help! What would you do?

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Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 23:32

Boomer55 · 20/02/2025 18:08

Some claimants in certain areas still haven’t been mass migrated over. 🤷‍♀️

No middle 50s, could have been switched over, I don’t know, they moved away.

Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 23:27

Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 23:00

Yep I too can’t abide spiteful people either. That’s the other persons business!
But I get mad when another friend aged 80ish, has breast cancer, lung cancer, riddled with rheumatoid arthritis & turned down for attendance allowance, her hands are so knarled, & frozen solid because they are too scared to put the gas fire on, this I find unfair- that they are too scared to appeal incase they are knocked back again.

Oh btw they told me about their medical history,
I had someone in the family who had bipolar (now dead) but has soon as they were better from their episode they would come off DLA. Maybe went back on it when another episode occurred a few yrs later.
Some people are comfortable being on benefits, some people are embarrassed by being on benefits. Each to their own.

Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 23:16

LakieLady · 20/02/2025 17:04

That's amazing. Are they close to pension age?

I thought everyone on DLA had been switched to PIP now, except for those nearing pension age whose claims will end soon anyway.

I work in welfare rights, and haven't done a DLA to PIP migration for literally years, at least 5 years. I must ask the rest of my team if they've done any.

Oh quite possibly switched over by now. I don’t understand the difference between DLA or pip. Anyway was a few years ago that they moved away, never said bye- so took that to being no longer on speaking terms.
is Attendance allowance something you go on after DLA or PIPS? A friend who 80 odd was turned down for AA.. she suffers breast cancer, lung cancer/ rheumatoid arthritis, COPD? Two knee replacements, 2 hip replacements & other ailments but was knocked back.
Her hands were frozen solid with the cold as she’s too scared to put the gas fire on.
is it worth her appealing?

Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 23:00

Teanbiscuits33 · 20/02/2025 16:49

So, you know everything about their medical history, do you? Interesting since most people don’t broadcast it to all and sundry. I knew someone who told someone else a load of lies to wind them up. They knew they were a spiteful busybody and lo and behold, a few weeks later they got a letter to say they’d been reported. I can’t bear nosy, spiteful twats as much, if not more, than I dislike fraudsters. Maybe learn to keep your beak out of other people’s business. ‘You know of’ someone, your wording tells me you don’t know them all that well.

Yep I too can’t abide spiteful people either. That’s the other persons business!
But I get mad when another friend aged 80ish, has breast cancer, lung cancer, riddled with rheumatoid arthritis & turned down for attendance allowance, her hands are so knarled, & frozen solid because they are too scared to put the gas fire on, this I find unfair- that they are too scared to appeal incase they are knocked back again.

x2boys · 20/02/2025 21:18

XenoBitch · 20/02/2025 20:48

No one does that.
The bar to access CMHT is set very high. No one with mild cases of anxiety/depression gets much in the way of help apart from their GP. The CPNs, psychiatrists are also not stupid, and can spot a faker. I was under them for years, and at times expressed a concern that I was faking but not realising it. I was told they do not have people who fake symptoms on their caseload. I also did not fake my way into hospital and under section.

This thread is terrible, and as always is full of people who think that anyone claiming benefits for MH reasons is taking the piss and making it up for money.... because that is what the press is trying to get you to think now. That those of us on benefits for MH reasons are the reason the country is in a financial black hole. They always know someone who claims loads and goes on multiple holiday etc. Honestly, I am considering making up a Benefits Bingo card, as these threads are so predictable.

Well quite I used to be a mental health nurse
And we just didn't have staff or the resources ti deal with less urgent cases
And if someone trying to fake mental illness they would find it exhausting trying to keep up the act
Some people seern to think mental illness only covers anxiety and depression
And don't realise there is a huge spectrum including severe and enduring mental illness.

XenoBitch · 20/02/2025 20:48

0ohLarLar · 20/02/2025 20:01

Edited
It's not that simple as it would be all patient says they want proper evidence
So if someone is claiming for mental health issues, do they see a CPN
Have they been seen by the crisis team
In patient admission, etc.

But someone determined enough can access all this based on self reported symptoms. There's no clinical test that can disprove what a patient describes as a crippling level of anxiety or depression - if you make enough noise for long enough, you'll wind up with a record of doctors appointments, CPN visits. How bad you think your mental health is is also terribly subjective.

No one does that.
The bar to access CMHT is set very high. No one with mild cases of anxiety/depression gets much in the way of help apart from their GP. The CPNs, psychiatrists are also not stupid, and can spot a faker. I was under them for years, and at times expressed a concern that I was faking but not realising it. I was told they do not have people who fake symptoms on their caseload. I also did not fake my way into hospital and under section.

This thread is terrible, and as always is full of people who think that anyone claiming benefits for MH reasons is taking the piss and making it up for money.... because that is what the press is trying to get you to think now. That those of us on benefits for MH reasons are the reason the country is in a financial black hole. They always know someone who claims loads and goes on multiple holiday etc. Honestly, I am considering making up a Benefits Bingo card, as these threads are so predictable.

0ohLarLar · 20/02/2025 20:01

Edited
It's not that simple as it would be all patient says they want proper evidence
So if someone is claiming for mental health issues, do they see a CPN
Have they been seen by the crisis team
In patient admission, etc.

But someone determined enough can access all this based on self reported symptoms. There's no clinical test that can disprove what a patient describes as a crippling level of anxiety or depression - if you make enough noise for long enough, you'll wind up with a record of doctors appointments, CPN visits. How bad you think your mental health is is also terribly subjective.

Boomer55 · 20/02/2025 18:08

LakieLady · 20/02/2025 17:04

That's amazing. Are they close to pension age?

I thought everyone on DLA had been switched to PIP now, except for those nearing pension age whose claims will end soon anyway.

I work in welfare rights, and haven't done a DLA to PIP migration for literally years, at least 5 years. I must ask the rest of my team if they've done any.

Some claimants in certain areas still haven’t been mass migrated over. 🤷‍♀️

Boomer55 · 20/02/2025 18:04

Praying4Peace · 20/02/2025 16:36

Hi, the person is not my friend. Estimated age, early 50s.
DLA for approx 20 years and the car is provided for her insurance and tax free. Is allowed a new one every 3 years

He leases it and has to give it back at the end. He can then choose another car. If you have to pay a deposit, depending on cost, you don’t get that back either.🙄

scanni · 20/02/2025 17:58

@ByAquaBee

So many confused opinions on here. If he had a previous suicide attempt then he would qualify on the basis of him being at future risk of serious harm from the distress caused by certain activities

That's not how it works either. Have you read the PIP criteria? Do you know suicidal people can and do recover, they wouldn't always necessarily qualify for PIP.

Itiswhysofew · 20/02/2025 17:52

It's up to the PIP people to establish who's entitled or isn't. If they get it wrong, that's on them.

I couldn't be arsed actually dealing with them.

Treeinthesky · 20/02/2025 17:46

Not fraud. Requires all evidence to back up his claim

Tumbleweed44 · 20/02/2025 17:38

PIP is going to be changing soon.

Personally, I would leave him be.

He sounds suicidal and ill.

Feelingstrange2 · 20/02/2025 17:36

StringsandPercussion · 20/02/2025 17:21

Your brother needs an appointee, who could then apply on his behalf. He shouldn't miss out because he is unable to apply.

I know. He's even scared of using an appointee as he is sure that the system will still need to speak to him and he cannot face it. This is the issue when dealing with extreme mental health issues. I suggest things, and found a charity to help him as i understand he might not want me knowing eveything, but you can see him shutting down and I can't push as I know he's been suicidal with everything he has to endure, including pain and a cocktail of prescription drugs.

Most of his physical and almost all his MH issues have come following life threatening sepsis and 7 days in ICU in an induced coma 5 years ago.

I know some people.will say "you can't help some people" but it's difficult to watch whilst knowing he isn't able to think like we do. It's sad a system designed to help cannot identify these people and give them an easier ride as his doctor and nurse practitioners have mentioned them supporting him making a claim too. There will me more than enough evidence if only we could get to that point with him.

I'll try again.

Zebedee999 · 20/02/2025 17:24

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 20/02/2025 09:44

As someone who does actually need help and had to jump (if I could jump!) through hoops to get it, people claiming for PIP by lying turns my stomach.
Sadly there are more social media pages now telling people how to claim by lying.
My claim was done in person, as was my tribunal appeal which was awful.
Take no notice of the bragging or that it’s great and why would suckers work? Lots of people who get PIP at different levels work.
His mental health may be ‘at risk’ if you report him, but he shouldn’t be getting funded for physical care which he is able to do himself. It’s disgraceful.

You're right. The fraudsters are what makes it harder for people such as yourself to claim and are also why there are repeated crackdowns that cause people like you stress.

I've known people who played football at weekends on disability benefit as it was then openly bragging about the fools going to work whilst they stay at home. such types just make everything harder for you.

StringsandPercussion · 20/02/2025 17:21

Feelingstrange2 · 20/02/2025 13:04

Gosh my brother can't face claiming PIP as his mental health is so.poor. his physical health is also dreadful and there's no way he can work. He tried applying for volunteering roles and they found reasons to turn him down - which I fully understand. He is an absolute shoe in for PIP but is scared of the process. Due to his suicidal thoughts I only get so far in recommending he applies and I can see it may well push him over the edge.

I can't believe the system is so dreadful that people like this get it whereas those genuinely in need but cannot face the process lose out.

Your brother needs an appointee, who could then apply on his behalf. He shouldn't miss out because he is unable to apply.

AnonymousBleep · 20/02/2025 17:15

You should report him but I probably wouldn't. Not if he's been suicidal in the past. He sounds like a pain in the arse but I'd leave it and just avoid him.

ByAquaBee · 20/02/2025 17:08

So many confused opinions on here. If he had a previous suicide attempt then he would qualify on the basis of him being at future risk of serious harm from the distress caused by certain activities. The thing with mental health conditions is that they can fluctuate - so he might go through times of being (relatively) well then go through an episode again. The reality is you don't know exactly what evidence he submitted to get granted PIP and since the bar is very high I would leave him alone.

People love to perpetuate the bogeyman of fraudulent disability claims which mostly just has the effect of stigmatising disabled people. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but people can lie and deceive in all areas of life to claim advantages.

PandoraSox · 20/02/2025 17:07

LakieLady · 20/02/2025 17:04

That's amazing. Are they close to pension age?

I thought everyone on DLA had been switched to PIP now, except for those nearing pension age whose claims will end soon anyway.

I work in welfare rights, and haven't done a DLA to PIP migration for literally years, at least 5 years. I must ask the rest of my team if they've done any.

Edited as got posters mixed up!

PandoraSox · 20/02/2025 17:04

Miley1967 · 20/02/2025 16:55

Sorry hasn't linked properly, will look again.
Sorry it was an independent consultation . My mistake. It did have some interesting proposals though.

Edited

I found it. They have actually made a statement about the consultation as there has been confusion about it

"Statement from the Commission on Social Security - 20th February 2025

There has been some misleading media coverage about our project's work so we want to be very transparent that we are an independent project that has been working since 2018 to put together alternative proposals for the social security system, shaped by people who have experience using it. We have no link to the government or the DWP.

We are extremely upset and concerned that this misleading coverage has added to people’s concerns about the future of PIP. Everyone involved in this project has experience of the social security system and we know very well the harm and distress it can cause.

We are also aware of the increase in inaccurate articles and headlines over the past few years which only add to the fear, confusion and distress around social security. The last thing we would ever want is for our work to become part of that and it has been very alarming to see how our consultation has been misrepresented and created further concern.

LakieLady · 20/02/2025 17:04

Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 11:20

I know of someone who’s get the old DLA for bi-polar but they haven’t had an episode for 20 yrs but still claim it. I think it’s disgusting! Full time teacher too. ( I no longer speak to them because I told them so)

That's amazing. Are they close to pension age?

I thought everyone on DLA had been switched to PIP now, except for those nearing pension age whose claims will end soon anyway.

I work in welfare rights, and haven't done a DLA to PIP migration for literally years, at least 5 years. I must ask the rest of my team if they've done any.

Miley1967 · 20/02/2025 16:55

Miley1967 · 20/02/2025 16:54

Sorry hasn't linked properly, will look again.
Sorry it was an independent consultation . My mistake. It did have some interesting proposals though.

Miley1967 · 20/02/2025 16:54

PandoraSox · 20/02/2025 16:52

I thought the consultation hadn't opened yet? How can the gvt consult when the green paper (i.e. the consultation paper) hasn't been published yet?

Could you share a link please? Thanks.

Edited

Sorry it's not the government consultation but this is the link.
https://survey.alchemer.eu/s3/90797431/Public-Consultation-Proposal-for-an-additional-costs-disability-payment-P

PandoraSox · 20/02/2025 16:52

Miley1967 · 20/02/2025 16:51

There is talk of it being replaced soon. There is a green paper being issues in the spring and there are consultation forms which people can complete to express their thoughts on the new proposals. I completed one yesterday. the proposals have lots of focus on a better system, less re-assessments for long term conditions that are not going to get better, advocacy etc.

Edited

I thought the consultation hadn't opened yet? How can the gvt consult when the green paper (i.e. the consultation paper) hasn't been published yet?

Could you share a link please? Thanks.

Miley1967 · 20/02/2025 16:51

Viviennemary · 20/02/2025 16:49

I wish they would abolish PIP and replace it with something else. Far too many folk jumping on the bandwagon and genuine folk being refused.

There is talk of it being replaced soon. There is a green paper being issues in the spring and there are consultation forms which people can complete to express their thoughts on the new proposals. I completed one yesterday. the proposals have lots of focus on a better system, less re-assessments for long term conditions that are not going to get better, advocacy etc.

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