A glass of wine every night?

This is how it is different, @MrsPeregrine

https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/causes-of-cancer/alcohol-and-cancer

Do you want it or do you need it?

One a night very easily turns into a bottle a night

And so is eating chocolate or crisps every day. How is this any different?

I'm very sorry to hear about your son passing.

I don't personally agree about "taking the edge off" but I respect whatever suits your lifestyle.

I still stand by my earlier comments that all the people talking about "European lifestyle" only focus on the alcohol intake, and completely ignore the unprocessed food culture, and the higher aerobic exercise. I still stand by that.

I'm arranging my son's funeral and my one small glass a day as an aperitif has just gone up to two small glasses a day. Not apologising. Sometimes you need to take the edge off the day.

Yeah loads of us have @roseyposey , why the patronising reply?

Have you ever been to southern Europe AND factored in all the other parts of he lifestyle BESIDES the alcohol, such as

• better weather means more people walk between places
• A stronger food culture means people are more likely to cook from scratch and take time to eat
• A healthier attitude to alcohol means people drink one or two glasses every so often, but don't "finish the bottle" like the Mumsnet "I must have my reward at the end of the day" types.

All of this leads to less calorie intake, more exercise, and less binging.

I don't think people in the UK can just sit there on their sofas opining about "Europe" all the time, while drinking far more in shorter spaces of time, eating way more processed food, and not bothering to exercise as much.

The mental gymnastics people do on this site to justify what they do in their lives is fascinating.

Of course one glass of wine a day is perfectly normal.

The fact that plenty of people don’t have one glass of wine a day doesn’t mean it’s not normal. It is very normal. Just as only having one glass a week is also normal. ‘Normal’ doesn’t mean ‘universal’. It means within a range of normality for the population in general.

OP, Mumsnet has some very weird and rigid ideas about alcohol and these threads always attract people who think anyone who has more than a single glass on an alternate Fridays is one step away from drinking cooking sherry from the bottle on a park bench.

You not need to beat yourself up over drinking one glass of wine a day.

Have you ever been to southern Europe?

Is it though? Or is that just the accepted thought, rather than the reality? Do your European friends or relatives ALL have a daily glass of wine in their families, on a normal week night? Every day? Even now? Or is this a vastly outdated concept?

In my experience, your assertion has nothing to do with reality these days.

well, that IS just a habit, if it's not as part of your evening meal/to complement the food. I would think you'd end up going to bed a bit dehydrated, and that it would affect the quality of your sleep.

I used to be like OP, I always did just like a glass of wine with my food of a night and could easily leave the rest in the bottle. But as I went through perimenopause, I think my body definitely found it harder to process, as that one glass started to make me feel worse and worse, so that now I sometimes don't even feel like any, even if DH has bought a bottle and opened it for himself. We don't usually order a bottle in a restaurant if it's just the 2 of us as I'm happy with just a large glass drunk slowly and he is happy to stick to beer rather than order wine by the glass.

I never ever would have imagined us being like this if you'd asked me 10 years ago! I just assumed that older women who didn't drink much had always not drunk much. Now I think that a lot of them literally just don't have the urge to drink any alcohol once their hormones start changing.

id bet good money some posters taking issue with this are overweight, or sitting on their sofas. And actually running a bigger risk, whilst preaching to the op.

Oh yeah thanks for that @Tulipsandaffodils . I have stated many times on other threads that I am an amateur sportsperson who has been running all my life.

Why do people do this on Mumsnet though?

Try and discredit the person posting, by claiming they are not in a position to post themselves due to their own issues?

I am not holier than thou, but I am sick of seeing people post things such as "size 14 is small", or "you can drink a couple of glasses a day and you'll be fine" , just because the goalposts have moved for you.

Well it’s better to be informed and then you can decide if you think it’s a good idea which is what the op was asking. Many people are unaware of the link - I myself found this information enlightening. This thread is about alcohol, not obesity, inactivity, poor diet, etc.

I have a G&T every evening at 6:30pm, I am not an alcoholic, I just enjoy a glass to end my working day and start my evening. So no, @grizeldagreen you are not on a slippery slope.

Alcohol increase the risk of cancer.

The majority of people on here will shout me down in denial, and spout completely spurious sources to claim otherwise, but it does.

The reality is, a lot of people on Mumsnet love "the wine" and consider it a kind of necessary part of modern day living, a daily "treat" because of everything they have had to put up with that day, or however they perceive their lives.

Absolutely fine.

What would the French do?!

I tend to have a glass of white or rose on a Thurs, Friday and Saturday. But I'm thinking of switching it out for red for the health benefits.

A glass of wine a night is perfectly normal, and also extremely civilised. Cheers.

Yes, but so is being sedentary, being fat, eating upf’s so many things cause cancer.

id bet good money some posters taking issue with this are overweight, or sitting on their sofas. And actually running a bigger risk, whilst preaching to the op.

Not every night. Weekends, special meals, when friends are over - but not every night with the evening meal

You might want to have a read of this: https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/causes-of-cancer/alcohol-and-cancer/how-does-alcohol-cause-cancer

eye opening.

I think this is actually the recommended weekly allowance in America, one glass a day? I always thought we should have one or 2 nights off, but I guess the liver doesn’t need a break from only processing one glass?

My worry would be (for myself) that it’s a slippery slope, and one glass wouldn’t be enough. But I’d imagine it’s fine if you are more disciplined than that

It's only ok if you live in a warm family orientated Country where we look in envy at the healthy Mediterranean diet. In cold Britain where we hate children and never have family meals it's an indication you are an alcoholic. So either move to Italy or bin the wine, the choice is yours.

They must have no taste.

I wouldn't drink French wine as a gift, it's like paint stripper. 🙄

Oh dear! 😆My mum and dad always had a small sherry before dinner every night for decades. Occasionally they'd ring the changes with a small Baileys.

They enjoyed it and rarely drank wine unless it was an occasion, birthday, Christmas etc.

They seemed to thrive on it.

Wouldn't bother me overly. Glass of wine with food. I don't generally do it in the week because I feel better if I haven't had any alcohol and I'm also rather inclined to have a large glass and then sit on the sofa and contemplate another once I've had one and I'm trying to lose a stone. But I don't think you are on some slippery unhealthy slope.

I have a small glass of red most nights. I think it's fine, but sometimes I do feel bad about it. Occasionally I'd have more and have a couple of large glasses if I'm out or entertaining at home, but then I won't have my daily small glass of wine the next day, as I feel like I don't need it as I had "too much" the night before. It's the kids related stress for me mainly, just a small glass of wine takes the edge off and relaxes me. When I don't have this stress, like when the kids are away, I don't need it at all. I don't drink at all if I'm on my own, so I'm not too worried about being addicted to alcohol.