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For my 6 and 11 year old to watch a film at the cinema without me

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Littlebittiredoflife · 20/02/2025 08:30

They want to watch dogman and I don't think I can face it. If it was just the 11 year old, I'm thinking this would absolutely be ok. But with the six year old I'm unsure as he might get a bit scared and there's the worry that popcorn is quite a chokeable snack. Both of them just likely to sit and watch the film though. And I'd be next door watching something that doesn't want to make me gouge my eyes out.

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Miaowzabella · 20/02/2025 11:41

No. Take them and go somewhere else in your own head during the film. Or pay a babysitter to take them.

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 20/02/2025 11:40

I do really disagree with pp that this is a part of parenting and I need to suck it up. I don't think my children would be harmed if I only ever took them to see kids films that I had some interest in seeing as well. In fact I don't think there'd be any detriment to them not going to the cinema at all until they were old enough to go by themselves.

Well no, they won't be harmed but it's pretty mean and selfish of you.
Do you apply this attitude to your partner too?

Littlebittiredoflife · 20/02/2025 11:33

whatonearthisgoingonnow · 20/02/2025 11:19

I didn't realise people were still going to the cinema when you can watch it at home for cheaper and actually hear what's being said/pause it if you need to/ignore it if you don't want to watch it.

Have you thought about doing that and doing something away from a screen with them for the activity/bonding/leaving the house part?

Edited

Yes we've done library, park, farm park and swimming this week. I don't especially feel it's a bonding activity like the ones where you actually do stuff together. If it's a film I was vaguely interested in then it'd be a couple of hours as downtime to relax with snacks and not have to to be so engaged with them as the other activities. Hence why I didn't feel they'd need me there for that reason. But plenty of other reasons why they would need me there.

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verycloakanddaggers · 20/02/2025 11:33

Littlebittiredoflife · 20/02/2025 08:44

In my fleeting thought about whether this was a possibility I thought perhaps I could tell them where I am- and also tell the staff too- not so they could babysit but if my child came to look for me. As I am saying that I realise it wouldn't really be a good idea to tell them they are unsupervised.

What you're suggesting just isn't ok.

You have a 6yo - you have to accompany them.

I don't understand the problem, it's just a film, you can rest your eyes. I can't think of a film suitable for kids that I couldn't sit through.

QuartzIlikeit · 20/02/2025 11:32

I went with my 6 year old last week and had a lovely little snooze whilst sat next to her. She thought it was the best film shes ever seen. There is no way Id ever let her go into the cinema alone - you are crazy to even consider it.

KilkennyCats · 20/02/2025 11:32

Littlebittiredoflife · 20/02/2025 08:42

No I wouldn't but I would go out in the garden or out the front to the car, so I'd be a similar distance away. It's a small cinema with maximum 3 screens. Not a city centre/out of town multiplex.

Your home isn’t full of complete strangers, it’s hardly comparable.

dottydodah · 20/02/2025 11:28

Westfacing I agree. No DGC yet(I'm waiting) ! I have sat through so many children s films its unreal ! have snoozed off a few times .Hope for those still in this position ,it does improve. my DC is older now. I am looking forward to Bob Dylan movie ,at our local cinema just hubby and me.Also B.Jones movie courtesy of my good friends birthday present (last September ) the following week(incidentally £9.00 at our cinema per seat ,£18.00 in Odean per seat although Recliner ) OP I would not let DC go alone.

Mary28 · 20/02/2025 11:28

My DH just brings his kindle and turns the light down and reads.
I don't mind them too much, kids movies at least are not too long.
Went to an animated spiderman one a while ago that nearly killed me though.

Goldbar · 20/02/2025 11:21

Take an eye mask and some ear plugs and then just have a kip.

whatonearthisgoingonnow · 20/02/2025 11:19

I didn't realise people were still going to the cinema when you can watch it at home for cheaper and actually hear what's being said/pause it if you need to/ignore it if you don't want to watch it.

Have you thought about doing that and doing something away from a screen with them for the activity/bonding/leaving the house part?

Sandandsea123 · 20/02/2025 11:17

Just have a nap 😂 no way the 6 year old should be left with 11 year old. At least if you’re there but napping you’re there if needed

Bbq1 · 20/02/2025 11:15

Tobermory · 20/02/2025 08:49

When you see a post on Mumsnet and can’t queue believe what you’re reading. This is one of those!
who would think this was ok?
Being a parent requires you to be selfless and put your children first. This is one of those occasions. No! No, you can’t send your 11 and 6year olds into the cinema unaccompanied because you don’t want to be inconvenienced.
Yes, you do have to parent and suck it up for the 2 hours the film is on
Because to do otherwise, it’s risky.
Because it might be unsafe.
Because they might be scared.
Because they might want their mum.
Because it’s the right thing to do.

What type of parent sends their child into the cinema alone, "because I don't want to see the film"? I took my ds, now 19 to many, many films over the years, starting with Up when he was about 3! It was something I loved to do. We've enjoyed many films together over the years. I don't think I really disliked any but enjoyed most and loved some and if the film gave dc pleasure it was lovely to see. That's what is about, spending time with your dc, sharing an experience and making them happy. In fact, dh and I love "kids" films and are sorry we don't have a valid reason to go and see then anymore! Ds and I now go and see 80s films at out local independent and we very occasionally still go as a family.
Plus, no cinema will allow a parent to sit their with their phone lighting up throughout a showing.

Gonewiththesun · 20/02/2025 11:04

username2373 · 20/02/2025 10:57

Went with dc to watch DogMan yesterday. There were two mums in the front seats that spent the whole time on their phones. They were light up like projectors and quite distracting.
The film was cute and engaging but they'll never know that. Just like they'll never know many other things they missed in their children's world while staring at their little screens like zombies.

I didn't like the film at all, but agree with the phone issue.
We went to see 'Purple Pencil' a while ago, and there were two Mums sitting in front of us with 3 dcs between them. They kept cackling so loud at everything. Then we realised they were drunk, and drinking in the cinema at lunchtime. 🤔 When they left they were taking selfies next to the display boards outside.

Diningtableornot · 20/02/2025 11:00

They'd probably be fine on their own, but might not be, which is why you either have to go yourself or pay for someone to go with them who is old enough to take responsibility. Do you know any sixteen year olds who would appreciate a free ticket?

username2373 · 20/02/2025 10:57

Went with dc to watch DogMan yesterday. There were two mums in the front seats that spent the whole time on their phones. They were light up like projectors and quite distracting.
The film was cute and engaging but they'll never know that. Just like they'll never know many other things they missed in their children's world while staring at their little screens like zombies.

Tagyoureit · 20/02/2025 10:57

TheignT · 20/02/2025 10:47

I thought the Power Rangers film I sat through 20 odd years ago was the shittiest film ever. I find it hard to imagine anything worse.

Ah power rangers was cheesy! Dogman was just utter crap!

Aug12 · 20/02/2025 10:56

I wouldn’t. Especially when you’ve said your 6yr old may get scared and there is potential choke hazard etc it’s too young I’m afraid

Tiswa · 20/02/2025 10:55

Cinemas simply won’t allow it - most will have rules that at least under 8 need accompanied during the day and under 10 in the evenings

which is why 11 year old can and your 6 year old cant!

Mightymoog · 20/02/2025 10:53

femfemlicious · 20/02/2025 08:35

You can sit at the back and watch something else on your phone😁

please don't do this. Having that glow from a 'phone is incredibly rude and irritating

Floatlikeafeather2 · 20/02/2025 10:48

Do you know that they would be allowed in on their own, even? Rules about unaccompanied children vary from cinema to cinema and from a quick Google I see that the threshold is 12 at the lowest in most places.

TheignT · 20/02/2025 10:47

Tagyoureit · 20/02/2025 10:46

It's the shittiest film I've ever watched but unfortunately that's part of being a parent!!

My 11 and 5 year old wanted to watch it so I suffered through it on Monday afternoon! Even my 11yo said it was crap!

I thought the Power Rangers film I sat through 20 odd years ago was the shittiest film ever. I find it hard to imagine anything worse.

Redscrunchie · 20/02/2025 10:47

DH took dd at the weekend and had a nice nap - dd was most disgruntled at his snoring 😂 I was so relieved when he said he'd take her - she's the youngest of four and I'm afraid ive seen enough crap kiddy films to last a lifetime.

But yes op, unless you have a dp you can send as a sacrificial lamb you'll have to go.

Tagyoureit · 20/02/2025 10:46

It's the shittiest film I've ever watched but unfortunately that's part of being a parent!!

My 11 and 5 year old wanted to watch it so I suffered through it on Monday afternoon! Even my 11yo said it was crap!

Mama2many73 · 20/02/2025 10:45

We sat through some shite when our son was younger! Pokemon on holiday (1990s) was atrocious. He loved it and talked about it continuously for a week or so.
Yeah you're gonna have to suck it up, have a nap!

Floatlikeafeather2 · 20/02/2025 10:44

FrenchandSaunders · 20/02/2025 09:59

I've never heard of a kid chocking to death on popcorn in the cinema.

That's because they usually have an adult with them to perform the Heimlich manoeuvre. 😊

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