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To dump him for wearing glasses?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 19/02/2025 23:41

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

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LaughingCat · 20/02/2025 00:12

Oh my Lord - you even marked it as lighthearted, OP and MN took it super seriously 😂

My take? You get to take the glasses off and witness the transformation to peak hotness each time - a transformation few others get to see. Hot in itself, right? 😍

I once got the ick from a limp handshake. He was lovely, funny, gorgeous but shook hands like a wet rag. Couldn’t take it. So weird what hits you! (Happily married to a firm handshaker for 13 years now).

Washinghanginginthesun · 20/02/2025 00:11

YANBU - anyone is entitled to dump anyone for any reason however petty. I hope he finds someone who is not as petty.

ElsaLion · 20/02/2025 00:10

Please OP, dump him. Doing so will enable him to find a woman who genuinely loves and appreciates him for who he is, rather than a superficial idol.

I would love to see the reactions to this post if it was a man posting about a woman!

BishBashBoshClick · 20/02/2025 00:10

cheseandme · 20/02/2025 00:03

Can only hope this is a fake post!! If not,please relieve this guy of a shallow mind!

Having seen a few other bonkers comments from this poster recently, I reckon she really does feel justified in slagging him off for not having 20/20 vision.

No33 · 20/02/2025 00:07

I'm going to book mark this thread to show people when the 'if a woman posts' crap.

Comments passed the vibe check.

Yes dump him, he deserves better.

Left · 20/02/2025 00:07

I feel I need to see an example of 90s bank manager style before I judge.

CraneBeak · 20/02/2025 00:07

Unfortunately for you, he's a real actual person, not your own personal sex prop. He doesn't walk for this earth for your sexual pleasure, and he's correct to prioritise the ability to fucking see over your own sexual preferences. Obviously.

Dump him so that he can find someone who accepts that his vision is important. Also, you're not a good friend to him.

Jumpingthruhoops · 20/02/2025 00:07

ChompandaGrazia · 19/02/2025 23:42

I think you’d be doing him a favour. He can do better.

This!

HaddyAbrams · 20/02/2025 00:06

There's nothing lighthearted about being a judgemental prat.

cheseandme · 20/02/2025 00:03

Can only hope this is a fake post!! If not,please relieve this guy of a shallow mind!

Topseyt123 · 19/02/2025 23:58

He does deserve better than someone as shallow as you.

username299 · 19/02/2025 23:56

Please dump him. There are plenty of nice women out there.

catgirl1976 · 19/02/2025 23:55

What an astonishingly awful view you have

SheridansPortSalut · 19/02/2025 23:53

Please dump him. He deserves better.

You say light-hearted but there's nothing funny about this.

teenmaw · 19/02/2025 23:53

Can you break up with a fwb?

Firm friends don't judge each other like this.

He's not that into you either or you'd be in a position to dump him.

Set him free from this situation.

BellissimoGecko · 19/02/2025 23:53

Dump him. He deserves someone much better than you, who fancies him for himself.

ZippyCat · 19/02/2025 23:53

Break up with him he will get better then you that's for sure

ThinWomansBrain · 19/02/2025 23:53

Maybe he's never wanted to take it further than FWB because you're so shallow?

stonebrambleboy · 19/02/2025 23:52

ImAChangeling · 19/02/2025 23:49

Nerd glasses on a hot man are a fabulous combination!

A bit like Superman

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 19/02/2025 23:52

Dump him, who would want a superficial girlfriend.

BishBashBoshClick · 19/02/2025 23:51

Definitely break up with him. He deserves better.

ImagineRainbows · 19/02/2025 23:50

Clicked the wrong button. Was supposed to put YABU! What an awful thing to write about someone you’re supposed to care about!

ImAChangeling · 19/02/2025 23:49

Nerd glasses on a hot man are a fabulous combination!

PennyKitchen · 19/02/2025 23:48

You need to let him know how you feel so he can find someone nicer. If you don't like him for a pair of glasses, it's shallow but it's up to you. He shouldn't have to change himself to be more likeable to you.

ConstanceM · 19/02/2025 23:47

This is someone's daughter. She must be a hot keeper. The Hot/Not Hot man should lose the glasses or lose this winner of a LADY!

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