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To dump him for wearing glasses?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 19/02/2025 23:41

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

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TheRossie123 · 20/02/2025 00:40

You sound like a Twat!

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 00:40

Bythewayimgoingouttonight · 20/02/2025 00:19

You’re only a fuck buddy so don’t get too carried away now.

Exactly! I can't suggest contacts or go glasses shopping with him! We don't really have much in common in terms of our interests, it's all about the hawwwwwwwt sex, and the sodding glasses are ruining even that! He does take them off in bed, thank duck.

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ToWhitToWhoo · 20/02/2025 00:39

Either you are really shallow, or this relationship is going nowhere for other reasons and you're just using the glasses as an excuse. Either way, best to call it a day before he has too much invested in the relationship, and let him find someone with whom he has more in common.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 00:37

CraneBeak · 20/02/2025 00:07

Unfortunately for you, he's a real actual person, not your own personal sex prop. He doesn't walk for this earth for your sexual pleasure, and he's correct to prioritise the ability to fucking see over your own sexual preferences. Obviously.

Dump him so that he can find someone who accepts that his vision is important. Also, you're not a good friend to him.

It's mostly about the sex, and the glasses are giving me the real ick. I do care about him as a person, but I care about my sister as a person too, and I certainly don't want to sleep with her!

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Eenameenadeeka · 20/02/2025 00:36

Yeah let him go so he can find someone less shallow.

evtheria · 20/02/2025 00:36

Set this man, and his efficient eyewear, freeeeee

em2001ily · 20/02/2025 00:36

Agreed, a pair of glasses don't make anyone look 'ugly'.

CaptainBeanThief · 20/02/2025 00:35

I think OP expected this to go better 👀

TunipTheVegimal24 · 20/02/2025 00:34

Sounds like a Clark Kent / Superman type situation. Wouldn't put me off.

Trunksarebetter · 20/02/2025 00:31

If you’re only FWB, what’s the problem? He doesn’t keep them on while he’s at it, does he?

MyDeftDuck · 20/02/2025 00:30

Better get him to clean those ugly specs of his.........he might then get a better idea of just how shallow, self-centred and judgemental you really are OP. 🤓🤓🤓👊Power to the spectacle wearers!!!!!!!

HeyDoodie · 20/02/2025 00:29

Love men in glasses, the geekier the better, there’s something very sexy

Arlanymor · 20/02/2025 00:27

Downwiththecrumpets81 · 20/02/2025 00:16

How did you find this out? Do you begin dates with a handshake greeting? I don’t think I’ve ever shaken hands with anyone I’ve shagged. Apart from when I shagged my boss I guess but we won’t go into that.

😆 😆

Beastiesandthebeauty · 20/02/2025 00:24

stonebrambleboy · 19/02/2025 23:52

A bit like Superman

Thats where my mind went

Then immediate to my giant jam jar cock blockers

RedToothBrush · 20/02/2025 00:24

Superman was always a bit of a dickhead.
Clark Kent was always so much better.

Butterfly292828 · 20/02/2025 00:21

ThinWomansBrain · 19/02/2025 23:53

Maybe he's never wanted to take it further than FWB because you're so shallow?

Yep- as shallow as a pie dish!

LaughingCat · 20/02/2025 00:21

Downwiththecrumpets81 · 20/02/2025 00:16

How did you find this out? Do you begin dates with a handshake greeting? I don’t think I’ve ever shaken hands with anyone I’ve shagged. Apart from when I shagged my boss I guess but we won’t go into that.

I was doing sound engineering for bands, and he was doing lighting when we first met. Professional relationship first (until the end of the tour 😄).

JanetareyouokareyouokJanet · 20/02/2025 00:20

What’s his number?

Bythewayimgoingouttonight · 20/02/2025 00:19

You’re only a fuck buddy so don’t get too carried away now.

Pokadotspink · 20/02/2025 00:18

Downwiththecrumpets81 · 20/02/2025 00:16

How did you find this out? Do you begin dates with a handshake greeting? I don’t think I’ve ever shaken hands with anyone I’ve shagged. Apart from when I shagged my boss I guess but we won’t go into that.

how did you get the boss ?

JHound · 20/02/2025 00:17

Yes dump him.

He deserves far better than you.

Pokadotspink · 20/02/2025 00:16

keep him, better the devil you know, just for the sake of a pair of glasses

Downwiththecrumpets81 · 20/02/2025 00:16

LaughingCat · 20/02/2025 00:12

Oh my Lord - you even marked it as lighthearted, OP and MN took it super seriously 😂

My take? You get to take the glasses off and witness the transformation to peak hotness each time - a transformation few others get to see. Hot in itself, right? 😍

I once got the ick from a limp handshake. He was lovely, funny, gorgeous but shook hands like a wet rag. Couldn’t take it. So weird what hits you! (Happily married to a firm handshaker for 13 years now).

How did you find this out? Do you begin dates with a handshake greeting? I don’t think I’ve ever shaken hands with anyone I’ve shagged. Apart from when I shagged my boss I guess but we won’t go into that.

PinkyFlamingo · 20/02/2025 00:14

Just because you put the word light-hearted doesn't mean it is.

Octoberdreaming · 20/02/2025 00:12

Can I have his number? He sounds like he deserves better than you OP.

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