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To dump him for wearing glasses?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 19/02/2025 23:41

Lighthearted AIBU.

I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad.

Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot).

I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere.

TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:45

Lyn397 · 20/02/2025 15:39

She doesn't like his glasses, why are people so angry about it? It's very odd. They've not been married for 20 years, they're just mates who shag. She can decide not to shag him any more for any reason she likes.

I get it completely OP, some people look really unattractive in glasses. I know because I'm one of them.

THANK YOU!

Yes, the anger is a bit 😱

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:44

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:22

You say you are shallow you have inflated ego you behave like a petulant child

if he can put up with all of this you can put up with his glasses goodbye Hyacinth

Put up with all of what?

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Lyn397 · 20/02/2025 15:39

She doesn't like his glasses, why are people so angry about it? It's very odd. They've not been married for 20 years, they're just mates who shag. She can decide not to shag him any more for any reason she likes.

I get it completely OP, some people look really unattractive in glasses. I know because I'm one of them.

RosaMoline · 20/02/2025 15:23

Suspect OP is on a wind up. Flippant tone of posts.

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:22

You say you are shallow you have inflated ego you behave like a petulant child

if he can put up with all of this you can put up with his glasses goodbye Hyacinth

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:22

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:19

Why not you admit to being shallow ?

I have admitted to being shallow. We are who we are.

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Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:20

There you go your living your life through validation from others good luck

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:20

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:18

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LMFAO! That is me!

I do wonder what the neighbours think about his glasses...

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Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:20

Poor man he’d be better off without you prob get an upgrade

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:19

Why not you admit to being shallow ?

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:18

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To dump him for wearing glasses?
ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:18

Finallybackinbootcuts · 20/02/2025 11:22

Not sure this adds up. He’s all that and you’re whining on about his glasses? 🤣

I know, I never thought they'd bother me this much.

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Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:18

Look a mess

To dump him for wearing glasses?
Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:17

Bucket

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:16

SpanielLarusso · 20/02/2025 13:35

Ooh I'm really intrigued, what's their religion? I'm imagining something really odd like an alien cult

The sex and the religion are separate!

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 15:16

BlueMum16 · 20/02/2025 12:02

Lots of sex is fine but not between 3 friends. Keep all partners separate. Starting to feel incestuous

Him and her have never met.

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Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:15

Wait I found one

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:15

Let’s see a picture of you let’s critique your outfit make up and clothes ?

OneTC · 20/02/2025 15:13

Surely when your FWB becomes a FWOB you just get another one?

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:13

Op suspect you don’t look as great as you think your just believing your own ego

you know what you are ? A user your using thing man for sex and it sounds like he’s an embarrassment to you .

StarlightLady · 20/02/2025 15:09

I would assume he would take his glasses off to do his job 😀.

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:08

You sound like Hyacinth bucket surely even you can see you sound like an insufferable snob

Sumthingsweet · 20/02/2025 15:06

It’s not that important in the grand scheme of things ? Op do you not realise there are bigger concerns people have about their partner . So what if you don’t like his glasses ???? Are you really this petty

HaddyAbrams · 20/02/2025 14:13

LovelyLeitrim · 20/02/2025 14:07

Never owned the same pair of glasses for three years 🤷‍♀️!

Also not sure how OP has managed shagging him for three years, with such strong feelings over the glasses.

So because you've never done it, no one else has either? I had my last pair for about 7 years.

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 20/02/2025 14:09

Please dump him, so he can find someone lovely and who isn't you...

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