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ThisFluentBiscuit · 2025-02-19T23:41:32+00:00

Lighthearted AIBU. I have a lovely sexy FWB. Problem: He permanently obscures his handsome face by wearing these awful glasses. He won't wear contacts - has tried them and hates them. His glasses are really unsexy, but it's hard to get them smaller because they're the bifocal type with a line across. He looks like a bank manager from the early Nineties. When he takes them off, he looks about 20 years younger and 10 times hotter. Drives me mad. Also it's frustrating that I've got this handsome man who ruins all the general foxiness when we go out with these glasses. He sometimes sends me photos of himself - he's on holiday right now and just sent me a shot - and my vagina is starting to shrivel a bit at the bank manager look. It was OK for the first couple of years because it was all new, and we don't see each other THAT much anyway (although we're firm friends so we text a lot). I'm beginning to realise that the glasses are going nowhere. TLDR: His glasses are giving me the ick. Should I dump him for someone who's not perma-wearing a sexual impediment blazoned across his face?

Isittimeformynapyet · 20/02/2025 01:21

ElsaLion · 20/02/2025 00:10

Please OP, dump him. Doing so will enable him to find a woman who genuinely loves and appreciates him for who he is, rather than a superficial idol.

I would love to see the reactions to this post if it was a man posting about a woman!

Err - exactly the same? Scornful outrage, surely.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:20

Stirabout · 20/02/2025 01:18

Here’s some good news for you OP😀

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Really? They're discontinued? YAAAAAAAAS! He got his new ones in 2022, so perhaps the baby-blockers are numbered!!

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Stirabout · 20/02/2025 01:20

Now all you have to do is send him off for a new pair 🤣

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:19

ffsfindmeausername · 20/02/2025 01:06

Bloody hell op posted this as light hearted. most MNetters mustn't be in the mood for light heartedness tonight.
Tbh op it's strange how little things can instantly give us the ick, I got the instant ick recently when a guy asked me if i wanted to go out for some scran rather than for a meal. instant ick, and No I didn't go out for "some scran"

Thank you!! Yes, it's light-hearted, but if those glasses disappeared for good, I WOULD NOT CRY!

Some scran? No, that would be an instant turn-off for me, too. Gives flat-cap and whippet vibes. Nothing wrong with either, but it's not a sexy prospect.

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Stirabout · 20/02/2025 01:18

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:16

Yeah, that's what I have, but he likes the line. Doesn't want to try without, because he did years ago and didn't like it. Says he doesn't want to fix what's not broken.

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Here’s some good news for you OP😀

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:17

Mumtobabyhavoc · 20/02/2025 01:09

I actually think it's symbolic of your feelings for the relationship. It's run its' course.

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That's what I'm wondering, which makes me sad because it's been fun.

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BettyBardMacDonald · 20/02/2025 01:17

ChompandaGrazia · 19/02/2025 23:42

I think you’d be doing him a favour. He can do better.

This x1000

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:16

Stirabout · 20/02/2025 01:14

Do they still make those glasses with lines across for bifocals. These days and for a very long time you get them with the line blurred. The lenses blend so you can’t notice. Plus they really don’t need to be big to do so. Maybe he needs to try a better optician ( although everyone does them tbh )
I have three way glasses. Reading lens at the bottom , general distance in the middle and far away at the top. No lines.

Yeah, that's what I have, but he likes the line. Doesn't want to try without, because he did years ago and didn't like it. Says he doesn't want to fix what's not broken.

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Stirabout · 20/02/2025 01:14

Do they still make those glasses with lines across for bifocals. These days and for a very long time you get them with the line blurred. The lenses blend so you can’t notice. Plus they really don’t need to be big to do so. Maybe he needs to try a better optician ( although everyone does them tbh )
I have three way glasses. Reading lens at the bottom , general distance in the middle and far away at the top. No lines.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:14

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 20/02/2025 01:13

I suppose you look a little bit like Edwina Curry yourself

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Nah. But tbh, I've stopped bothering to wear contacts on our dates as well. At least my glasses are nice.

When we kissed goodnight after a double-glasses bar sesh on a school night, we clonked glasses. It was not cute.

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Iwanttoliveonamountain · 20/02/2025 01:13

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 00:46

Think Norman Major.

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I suppose you look a little bit like Edwina Curry yourself

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:13

Lorelaigilmore88 · 20/02/2025 01:07

If hes just a FWB and he takes his glasses (and presumably unflattering clothes) off for sex, why are you so bothered about what he looks like? The glasses don't make him any less good in bed.
Also you sound like a Samantha Jones wannabe trying desperately hard to sound cool and casual.

It works! You mentioned her! 🤭

He keeps sending me selfies and we do go out for dinner/bar snacks and drinks. It would be nice to look at him and feel turned-on instead of wondering when he's going to approve the next Budget.

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WhenICalledYouLastNightFromTesco · 20/02/2025 01:12

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:08

It's true that I'm in my shallow era. Just having fun, and found this great FWB. But the bloody glasses are becoming like a third party in the relationship, possibly because I know there's never going to be any respite from them. Ever.

I wear both, glasses more so. I've probably got a 6 month supply of daily ones upstairs. You've just reminded me that I need to adjust my subscription.

I have fallen asleep in contacts after heavy nights of debauchery and the consequences are definitely not an attractive look.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:10

Millyjanice · 20/02/2025 01:08

This. For me, the glasses would make him hotter!

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Well, you run out and get your blokes some John Major specs then, and get him to wear them permanently. You can get them with plain glass. Let me know how it goes. And chisel a bifocal line across them for extra allure.

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 20/02/2025 01:09

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 00:50

It's all very well for others to judge, but I bet if your SO's Norman Major specs were plastered to their faces at all times except sex and sleep, and you were completely stuck with them, I bet you wouldn't like it either!

It didn't bother me the first couple of years, although I never liked them. Funny how things get more icky with time.

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I actually think it's symbolic of your feelings for the relationship. It's run its' course.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:08

It's true that I'm in my shallow era. Just having fun, and found this great FWB. But the bloody glasses are becoming like a third party in the relationship, possibly because I know there's never going to be any respite from them. Ever.

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Millyjanice · 20/02/2025 01:08

ImAChangeling · 19/02/2025 23:49

Nerd glasses on a hot man are a fabulous combination!

This. For me, the glasses would make him hotter!

ForZanyAquaViewer · 20/02/2025 01:08

ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:06

Well, we have been shagging for three years, and he would be delighted to be described as an amazing lay. I don't see anything wrong with that.

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I see.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 20/02/2025 01:07

If hes just a FWB and he takes his glasses (and presumably unflattering clothes) off for sex, why are you so bothered about what he looks like? The glasses don't make him any less good in bed.
Also you sound like a Samantha Jones wannabe trying desperately hard to sound cool and casual.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:07

WhenICalledYouLastNightFromTesco · 20/02/2025 01:04

Does he keep them on when you are doing things that FWB do? If so, just ask him to take them off because they're scratching your ego.

Takes them off. But keeps them on until the last possible moment.

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ffsfindmeausername · 20/02/2025 01:06

Bloody hell op posted this as light hearted. most MNetters mustn't be in the mood for light heartedness tonight.
Tbh op it's strange how little things can instantly give us the ick, I got the instant ick recently when a guy asked me if i wanted to go out for some scran rather than for a meal. instant ick, and No I didn't go out for "some scran"

cheseandme · 20/02/2025 01:06

ForZanyAquaViewer · 20/02/2025 01:00

Been shagging for three years. Such a pity because he's an amazing lay.

I’m very pro having sex with who you want, when you want. However, the way you’re talking about this man is horrible. Really disrespectful. It would appear you’re trying to make people furiously clutch their pearls? Why?

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Agree with @ForZanyAquaViewer …what is the point of your post? You really come across as shallow and lost . Give this guy the best gift and go somewhere else for a good shag ..am sure there are good vibrators to get online without glasses!!!

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:06

ForZanyAquaViewer · 20/02/2025 01:00

Been shagging for three years. Such a pity because he's an amazing lay.

I’m very pro having sex with who you want, when you want. However, the way you’re talking about this man is horrible. Really disrespectful. It would appear you’re trying to make people furiously clutch their pearls? Why?

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Well, we have been shagging for three years, and he would be delighted to be described as an amazing lay. I don't see anything wrong with that.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 20/02/2025 01:05

Arlanymor · 20/02/2025 00:53

Norman Major? Don’t you mean John Major and are conflating his name with his wife’s name Norma?

YES. John Major.

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WhenICalledYouLastNightFromTesco · 20/02/2025 01:04

Does he keep them on when you are doing things that FWB do? If so, just ask him to take them off because they're scratching your ego.