Half/step siblings

Yes, the moral superiority in denying reality is as weird as it is nonsensical.
Like they think there's a value judgement in stating actual facts.

I think you’re totally over reacting on this! It’s hardly the end of the world how they refer to these siblings, so not sure why you’re taking such exception to it. You’re the one turning it into an issue!

Toxic

I think you would have to be a really nasty person to “correct” your kids in this way.

My 2 children have different fathers. They are officially half siblings. But they would never ever use that term. They are brother & sister. My daughter’s dad tried to correct her when my son was born & pointedly kept telling her she had a half brother not a brother. She used to get so upset and insist it was her brother. Her dad is still a nasty & bitter person to this day. Don’t be like him. My daughter does not have much to do with him. His nastiness pushed her away too in the end. She is 24 now, my son is 19. They are still brother & sister & always will be.

I agree that this should ideally be child led. I don't get the idea that it's somehow morally superior to consider a half sibling just a sibling though. Families are all different and people are allowed to see things differently.

To be honest OP I would find this hard in your situation but I agree with PP that correcting your DC isn't a fair way to deal with this. You need support from elsewhere to process these feelings.

Stop correcting them..it's not your call how they think about them, if the half matters to them, it matters. Back off.

This is a disgusting view point.
my husband is 100% my eldest dad regardless of the fact he was 4 when they met. Blood is irrelevant when it comes to love and family. If we divorced tomorrow he would still be his dad because he’s loved and raised him for 11 years (which is 5 years more than his bio did).
given your replies I’m sure this isn’t even your worst trait

I refer to my ex's step kids and new kids as my kids siblings. My kids however always refer to them as step and half. No matter how much I correct them. Their dad basically ignored them and didn't really want much to do with them once he got extra kids - so it's possibly understandable!

I always call my husband ‘my current husband’ 😆

I am so sorry you feel this way.
You still have a life to live, and it’s not too late to find what you really deserve and are looking for.

Don’t turn your disappointments into a trauma for your child(ren) though. Let them live, laugh, and love their extended family and forge strong healthy relationships with their siblings of whatever denomination. xx

My sister is actually my half sister. Different dads, but we have never ever addressed each other that way! Same with my own two children. We are family, don't care who came from who. To make a massive issue with your kids about this says more about you I think. Why dont you want them addressing them that way?

I have 3 biological children and 1 step child. they all refer to each other as brother and sister. I would never 'correct' them. It feels like demoting their half sibling. As young adults they are now all very close but weren't always as younger children. I'd certainly say that their relationship is more important than how the family dynamics looks to others.

My two kids refer to their half brother as brother, as do I, I would never correct it. They've grown up with him.
I refer to 2/4 of my step siblings who I see and am close with as my brother/sister and the other two I'm not (from a different parents marriage) as step. All 4 came in to my life when I was 18 and they're all younger.

Thirty odd years ago I had a relationship with a married man. Not proud, wrong, bad thing to do. I had a baby. No contact with father. When she was 18, she contacted his older children. They all refer to each other as brothers and sisters.

Eeeew why would you correct someone they are siblings and comfortable and happy with that

Why are you making an issue of it

I think it’s cruel to correct them. Surely you want them to feel like they’re family?

We aren't talking about parent child relationships. We are talking about sibling relationships.

my brother is my half brother but then the family always made it clear we were not brother and sister (no gift for me at xmas!).

I think if step siblings due to marriage then yes you could say they are not your brothers/sisters . But I wouldn't be ott about it.
But if they are related as in the same dad then no i would agree they are brothers/sisters when talking about them.
I have 2 sister who have a different dad but would never say half siblings.
It sounds like it is hurtful to you . But it's not about you . It's about your kids. You don't want them growing up feeling awkward mentioning things or people.

Oh, OP, I can relate to this — the not wanting your ex back, but wanting the life you thought you’d have/the life he and his new partner have. I struggle with it a lot (hence the username). But I also know that this jealousy and bitterness aren’t helping anyone, least of all me. I wish there was an off switch I could just press…

I’m glad you’ve seen the light OP as I was really starting to get concerned for your children reading through this post.

My parents remarried others when we were all grown up, I refer to my siblings as brother/sister and my step siblings as step brother/sisters if talking about them to someone who doesn’t know them.
If I say I’m meeting up with them to someone who knows me/my family I refer to them by name. My children call them all auntie/uncle regardless of if they are my siblings or not.
The difference here is that we were all adults when our families blended, we didn’t grow up alongside each other.
If we were all children my guess is we would have referred to them as we wanted to without interference from grown ups.
My children don’t call my step mum/step dad ‘step Grandma/Grandpa’ they are Grandma/Grandpa as much as my own my parents.
I don’t know why anyone would wish alienate family members over wording. I’m guessing your daughter’s other parent has met someone else and who has children and you’re trying to maintain some sort of boundary? Seems a shame to pick on the wording when an only child enjoys the company of step siblings.
edited for spelling

Poor kid. Just let them enjoy their relationships.
You know the technical terms, you don't need to keep reiterating it to them.
It just comes across like you feel your feelings in this are more important than your child's? (I'm not saying that to be true, but that's how it reads.)

i am one of 5 but the only child between my 2 parents… so all of my siblings are ‘half’ I just refer to them as my brother/sister