Nursery staffs older children playing with my 14 month old

As you know she didn’t say it out right but the it just feels weird that a significantly older child gets to be around my daughter and I have no idea who it is, what he's like and what they do together. makes it clear OP thinks there’s something insidious going on

I imagine that OP would have liked to have been told in advance that the nursery was run as a breakfast club for staff’s older children. It seems to me that the issue here is the blithe assumption that it’s OK.

Posters thinking that OP saw the child as a sexual predator- that’s ridiculous, she implied nothing of the sort. Says more about you than her that you jumped to this interpretation.

It sounds reasonable that the staff have children with them until the school next door opens and I imagine this is included in their ratios.
Some nurseries do 'school hour' sessions, so I expect the staff come in with their children, the numbers of babies and toddlers at this point is smaller so having their own child is not a problem. These children then go into school and the nursery children arrive. All within correct ratios. The older children probably enjoy playing with the little ones (as it is a good excuse for them to play with toys probably seemed too young for them) plus they are likely to be praised for helping, to encourage good behaviour in themselves and to model for the toddlers.
The way some people are talking it is as if they have 7 year olds working as unpaid slaves doing the jobs while the staff go off for a jolly!

What exactly is it that bothers you about the situation?

This is my thoughts too. Your paying for a trained caregiver to look after your child. Not for a child to be doing so. For however short a period of time.
I don't think there's anything sinister though.

Surely it would only be like if they were siblings?!

Oh this is really really sad. My DD and my colleagues Children have always been allowed to be part of our nursery environment when they have had days off for inset or at breakfast/after school club. (Within ratio and risk assessed)
it has taught them so much about helping with tasks, caring for others, appropriate boundaries, regulating behaviour around smaller children-I could go on. They and the smaller children get so much from it and we have only ever had positive comments from parents.

I suspect not.

What a lucky child your child is. Having older children around is hugely beneficial to them. Yabu.

My son went to a similar nursery, they were able to retain staff as they provided wrap around care for their own kids. When my son was 2, he became firm friends with the older kids and was included in all their games. Even now he get invited to their parties. Likewise now he’s older he loves spending time with his friend’s little siblings. I’m infertile and could afford anymore children so it’s lovely watching them play together.
I imagine that had a parent complained at my son’s nursery, the owners would have stopped them looking after their own kids and the nursery would shut due to lack of staff.

What ? This isn't something to worry about.

Which is why I said they should have the correct procedures in place. Or did you just not read that bit?

Show me where she said that. Please quote where the OP said that a seven year old boy is a predator.

Oh give over!! I doubt he’s actually OBSESSED! He’s just a young kid whose mum happens to work there and that’s why he pops in before class . Give him six months he probably won’t give a toss about her .

Of course she did

I doubt the 7yo is providing actual caring duties 🙄 please get a grip. He’s probably giving her a couple of spoonfuls of yoghurt watched over by his mum and the DD is probably loving it as many toddlers do when older kids pay them attention.

Kids at nursery help other kids with their jackets and hats and gloves. Should that not be allowed because that’s not what OP is paying for?

I do not think there is anything sinister about the young boy, I don't think he should be mingling around the toddler section either or any section that isn't his age group.

I have friends who work in childcare, they cannot bring their children in before school, unless there is a breakfast club for school age children and their child is registered.

Private settings too.

I don't see why this place can bend the rules.

Even if the owner was his mother, it isn't acceptable.

Take a chill pill. He’s 7 not 17!
It seems that the most innocent events spark outrage and disapproval from some.
Always looking for something disturbing and an unseen threat lingering.
Newsflash! little children do adore babies for the most part.
It’s called social interaction…some of you need to look that up, before you dial social services, or the fuzz.

Please get a grip, at no point did the OP imply that.

I can see the benefit of the toddler interacting with an older children, how lovely for all. But that’s not what OP is paying for, she is paying for professional childcare, not a seven year old to feed her child. Toddler feeding is something that requires supervision - my toddler gagged on a bit of banana today and it was fine because I noticed what happened immediately and sorted it. Lots of posters saying “oh this happens at a childminder/school” - ok well OP doesn’t send her child there, she sends her to nursery where she expects her child to be fed by adult staff and it’s actually fine to want that.

I can’t believe someone made such an embarrassing comment!

Yes, I think people would feel differently. Because it's a different situation.

Wait until her precious princess is in year 1 and taught rude words by the year 5 kids.

YABU to imply a 7 YEAR OLD BOY is some sort of predator towards your DD.

How much he loves playing with her and comes into the baby room to feed her her breakfast before he goes to school. He's 7

I don’t think he’s coming In specifically to play with your daughter. I think he’s coming in with his mum because otherwise he’d be on the playground on his own and seven is quite young for that.

What time does your nursery open, and what time do you drop off your daughter? I think the problem is that she’s looking after her own child when she’s meant to be looking after your child.

The world’s gone mad!!!!!! Ffs!!!!

If this is the case then it must be made clear to parents to ensure they are happy to be paying for older children to use their child to learn those life skills, there must be adequate risk assessments in place and additional staffing to ensure the ratio remains one adult to three children - including the primary aged child.

I actually think you're wrong here. The 14 month old is experiencing interacting with an older child, and the older child is learning how to care and nurture a younger child. These are such important life skills!
The baby interacting with the older child is IN ADDITION to having peers their own age. Not instead of.
I think your view is really limited and closed.
If the nursery is also licensed for after school care or had a certain amount of children they can care for on the premises up to the age of let's say 8 then they should have all the correct procedures in place. This would also mean they are included in the numbers.
There are certain methods of teaching that encourage older children mixing with younger age groups.