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To wonder what's normal re pain or health issues over 50?

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UncertainWife · 19/02/2025 18:09

As of recently (early 50s) I have lots of things gone wrong, hip arthritis, lower back pain, shoulder pain, and some new stomach issues, but most of my friends in their early 50s seem fine with no health problems at all.

I'm quite shocked at how rapidly my health and mobility has gone downhill. I eat well, am good BMI, before my hip went wrong I took regular walks each day.

If you're over 50, are you fully healthy and in good working order? Or are bits of you starting to 'go'?!

Is it just a lottery? I did all the advised things, diet, exercise, no alcohol, good sleep, but I am falling apart much more than my boozy friends who eat a lot of rich food! And am in worse health than my smoker husband!

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hattie43 · 19/02/2025 23:38

I'm 59 and no real health problems . Dr was amazed I don't have any regular prescriptions so must be a lot in their 50's . I have a few intermittent digestive niggles with acid reflux but take gaviscon as and when needed .
My parents are both enjoying good health in their 80's and hopefully I'll do the same .

HailtotheBop · 19/02/2025 23:33

52 with severe osteoarthritis in my knees - very painful and I get help thanks to steroid injections, but the next step will be knee replacements. Dodgy lower back (bulging discs) and a slightly misshapen upper spine thanks to mild scoliosis, so I get a lot of back pain. Not much fun!

Fibrous · 19/02/2025 23:28

yes, I'm 45, and I seem to be faring a lot worse than my friends (except the couple that have already died). I've switched to only working two days a week so I can get on top of things as sitting at a desk all day was doing me no favours. Two months in I'm starting to feel a lot better and have no new injuries, thankfully. But the list of chronic ailments is long now. Anyway, at least I'm alive.

villanova · 19/02/2025 23:27

55: obese but exercise regularly, on HRT but no other medication. No problems yet, though I notice that injuries take longer to heal (exacerbated by me not taking enough time off my sport to heal them properly!)

Dutchhouse14 · 19/02/2025 23:23

53, my body is definitely ageing! A bit concerning how it will be at 63, 73, 83..
Had some lower back issues which with physio have improved but still get niggles and I think it's vulnerable.
Then I had a painful frozen shoulder and a year later my other shoulder also froze.
I slipped down some wet steps, injured a finger which now has arthritis in the joint and has gone up several ring sizes.
My knees are shot and I now "think through" getting up and down off the floor!!!
Gardening is becoming more challenging-just as I've got more time to do it!
Although thankfully can still walk for miles.
I've had two operations:
gall bladder removal in my late 30s following excruciating gall bladder attacks and uterine ablation about 5 years ago following a year of prolonged very heavy periods/flooding that left me anemic.
Also had stage 0, pre cancerous cervical cells removed by lletz procedure.
DH, 56, who is very fit, also is getting aches and pains and just had painful bunions removed.
Some friends have fared better than others, one has had breast cancer thankfully now recovered, my cousin died of breast cancer at 45.
Two friends have fibromalgia.
Another was diagnosed with MS and died about 10 years after diagnosis.
Ones been recently diagnosed as diabetic.
However despite the list above most of us are faring perfectly well apart from some aches and pain. I do think your body takes longer to recover.

Ophy83 · 19/02/2025 23:17

For people mentioning vaginal oestrogen- where do you get it? And at what stage? I'm early 40s and aware peri menopause is approaching in the next few years

mumsandaunties · 19/02/2025 23:14

51 and I felt like crying in my Pilates class this morning because everything hurt so much...and I know there is nothing but more of the same ahead. And I can never stop the yoga/pilates or I'm finished.

Resisterance · 19/02/2025 23:07

I'm nearly 51 and my health has gone to shit since i turned 50. Everything aches or creaks suddenly!

justasking111 · 19/02/2025 23:04

Having read all your stories. I feel guilty. Two years ago my back finally went. Had an MRI at the age of 66 discovered that I was born with scoliosis. How I managed three pregnancies I'll never know. Now I've bulging discs and arthritis in my lumbar region.

Had lunch six ladies two of them said that they could no longer eat onions, garlic, tomatoes, chillies, spicy foods. I was delighted because my husband a very good cook thought I was weird they're a decade younger than me 😄

godmum56 · 19/02/2025 23:02

71 the bits of me that are failing are old injuries. caused by working in the NHS pre lifting and handling rules and going hip deep in a bog rough walking my dogs (now alas departed) at sparrow fart in the dark. Decided I could no longer do the attic ladder at will this year soemptied out the attic in stages on good days. So long as I can walk along beside the Reaper and keep dodging the blade I will be happy.

MrsPinguin · 19/02/2025 22:57

I had 2 cancers and 1 pre cancer at 48 with no risk factors, most treatment done within a year plus 10 years Tamoxifen, no hrt allowed. Last surgery just cosmetic in September. Now 3 years clear and pretty much fine. Odd ache in hips and take a vitamin then which solves that, Wellwoman 50. Normal BMI and exercise 3 times a week, no alcohol, never smoked.

TheSmallAssassin · 19/02/2025 22:56

UncertainWife · 19/02/2025 22:13

To answer some questions from PPs, I'm not on HRT.

This all happened gradually, hip arthritis started 3-4 years ago. Four years ago I had frozen shoulder on one side. My other shoulder now hurts and I'm not 100% sure yet but I think that one's slowly freezing.

Low back pain arrived end of last year when hip worsened - it's possibly caused by the bad hip.

Stomach stuff was most likely triggered by stress of all the above. I'm not taking any prescription meds.

Before my body fell apart I enjoyed walking, cycling, swimming and gym classes.

Sympathies to others on this thread having health issues. From some of the posts it sounds like a lot of this is luck. Obviously diet, exercise and lifestyle play a part but doing the right things doesn't guarantee good health.

If you're not on HRT, then it could be worth a try, joint pain is a common symptom of perimenopause, and I've read that frozen shoulder might be linked too.

justasking111 · 19/02/2025 22:50

Got away with it until mid sixties, then like buses it all arrived at once. It's genetics I think.

RaraRachael · 19/02/2025 22:50

I was convinced mgmy problems were due to thyroid or B12 deficiency as my mother had those but blood tests all came back fine.
I still haven't had a definitive answer

Angrymum22 · 19/02/2025 22:47

I assumed that it was perimenopause and thought that HRT would solve all my problems. HahHah! All it did was get rid of the mild hot flushes and slight dragon mood. The aches and pains turned out to be age related.

I’ve found that walking and moving helps but the pain is much worse in the winter. I walk the dog daily and still work a couple of days a week, magnesium and B12 help but I’ve got used to the new normal.

Most of my friends will reluctantly agree. Again the magic HRT never seems to deliver as promised. I think there is a placebo affect initially when you eventually convinced your GP to prescribe it. But I think that the burst of energy clouds the actual effect.

I thought losing weight would help but no, I just ended up with less fat around the rear end so sitting down for any length of time on hard surfaces can because uncomfortable. Good job I’m not a regular church goer.

bakebeans · 19/02/2025 22:42

Just a thought have u been checked for anaemia, b12 deficiency or vitamin d deficiency. All may contribute to tiredness, aches and pains, joint pain

RaraRachael · 19/02/2025 22:41

I feel like you OP. Not a day goes by but I have pain odmr soms other health issue. I could probably list at least 10 and have an ever increasing repeat prescription list.
I was perfectly fine until I hit 50.

Crikeyalmighty · 19/02/2025 22:38

Forgot this!

To wonder what's normal re pain or health issues over 50?
UnctuousUnicorns · 19/02/2025 22:38

UncertainWife · 19/02/2025 22:24

@UnctuousUnicorns you've been so unlucky. Must have been a huge shock. I hope you have a speedy recovery.

Thank you. 🙏🧡 It was bit of a shock to go from being at home with DH and DD to spending nine nights in hospital.

Tbh I'm more worried now about my blasted foot; it just flops about like some stupid useless rubber foot, and noone can tell me when or if I'll regain full feeling and mobility in it, or at least, what mobility I had before my fall.
I used to dream of walking normally, without needing a stick. Right now I'm dreaming of walking with a stick and not a frame. I fell twice again on the ward after my op after which the physio diagnosed foot drop.

I hope your own op goes well and leaves you pain free. 🙏 Some encouraging stories here to take heart from.

Crikeyalmighty · 19/02/2025 22:35

I posted this a while ago having spied it on Facebook and it feels very true for me 

mitogoshigg · 19/02/2025 22:35

Same age and yes a few bits are starting to give me gip

Sonolanona · 19/02/2025 22:34

57 here. I do an active job p/t (TA in special school) look after my 3 yr old grandchild 3 days a week, have a dog and an allotment. I'm slim, vegentarian, etc.
Since 50 I have had a frozen shoulder, developed arthritis in my left hip and lower back, developed horribly painful diverticulosis... horrific restless legs, the list goes on. Everything bloody aches!
I can only imagine it would be even worse if I wasn't active! I even broke my wrist last month slipping on mud, and felt so stupid!
I now have to take regular meds too which annoys me!

Dh is 63 and VERY fit for his age, barring a damaged arthritic hand from sports. Unfair!

Crikeyalmighty · 19/02/2025 22:33

Mine started about 58 - prior to that apart from being a couple of stone overweight no issues - it did coincide for me though with covid /vaccine - so goodness knows if it was just age or the virus

Then started with non coealiac gluten intolerance ( am ok with very small levels though) neck arthritis ( intermittent) dry eyes , pre diabetes, much weaker bladder - just generally a whole load of niggles- I function ok but never exactly feel 100%

SabbatWheel · 19/02/2025 22:27

Other than Crohn's and asthma I haven't gone downhill past 50 in fact I'm more active and generally healthier, although about a stone heavier than I'd like. I do take glucosamine daily though - if I stop I become more aware of clicking in my knees, although they aren't painful.

UncertainWife · 19/02/2025 22:24

@UnctuousUnicorns you've been so unlucky. Must have been a huge shock. I hope you have a speedy recovery.

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