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Do you believe in Karma?

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Rainydays321 · 19/02/2025 13:42

Or like my Mum used to say “ what comes around goes around!” I think its a fascinating topic and thought it would be fun to see if anyone have any examples of karna, do you believe that whatever energy you put out, it will come back to you? I know my SIL was particularly horrible to me and the advice I was given was “not to worry, the wheel turns” waiting on that wheel to turn 🤣 Any stories or examples?

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SirDanielBrackley · 20/02/2025 18:51

No such thing as karma.

newfriend05 · 20/02/2025 18:43

Yes I believe in karma .. I've seen it a few times .. but i also believe bad things happen to good people

BlondiePortz · 20/02/2025 18:36

So when bad things happen to people it is payback?

And good things happen to bad people so even if it believed in it, it makes no sense to me i just think people say it to make themselves feel better really

StMarie4me · 20/02/2025 18:33

I've known too many horrible people getting away with charmed lives, so no, not really.

Shubbypubby · 20/02/2025 17:12

No of course not. Terrible things happen to good people and children all the time. Life is just random.

BigBlueRhino · 20/02/2025 12:07

custardpyjamas · 19/02/2025 14:20

No, if there was karma the nasty people around would get back some of what they give, but they never seem to. Unless you have to wait for the next life, if there is one.

They do eventually.

nepobaby · 19/02/2025 15:29

No, I believe actions come with consequences.

rainbowprincesschapell · 19/02/2025 14:51

i believe we are never free from the consequences of our actions, good or bad .

saynotoOrange · 19/02/2025 14:46

Sadly no. I have seen too many awful people have everything and really lovely people have nothing but disaster after disaster.

Cattery · 19/02/2025 14:42

LookingAtMyBhunas · 19/02/2025 14:22

Sorry but its bollocks.

I understand why people want to believe it. What a nice way to wrap things in a bow.

But no. Not after my truly altruistic best friend aged 35 died a painful, slow death last year and the violent, robbing offenders I deal with on a daily basis are living until they're 90.

She also believed in 'everything happens for a reason'. I wondered when I was with her as she breathed her last if she ever made peace with that.

She didn't die for any other reason other than the disease took over her cells and killed them.
I didn't have a miscarriage 'for a reason'.
Children aren't sexually abused 'for a reason".

As a rule, human beings don't like to think of life as a random, unlogical series of events that could hit at any time, so come up with patterns and arbitrary rules to make themselves feel better.

It doesn't make me feel any better.

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That’s not karma though. That’s pure bad luck and unfairness and I’m sorry for your friend. Karma is when life comes back to bite you for treating others badly.

Happyher · 19/02/2025 14:31

I have a good friend that is constantly in debt, had an affair and generally caused problems for herself, but she was also very lucky - received inheritance that paid her debt off, husband forgave affair and they are happy now. I always wondered why she was so lucky but then I realised she was actually the kindest person I know. She’s paid the debts of her beautician who had the bailiffs at the door during her treatment, gives to the homeless on the streets, always wanting to help me and others out etc., and I realise why she was lucky. I’ve started doing the same when I see someone who needs help, whenever I can (including said friend!) and it does make me feel better about myself and maybe I just notice small lucky breaks more now, but life does seem nicer

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Rainydays321 · 19/02/2025 14:30

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Probably 🤣🤣 for crimes including taking her brother away, standing up for myself and being a good wife and mother… but thats a whole other topic 😂

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Meandhimtogether · 19/02/2025 14:29

In the early 80's a friend paid for an item that DH needed to become successful in his work. This one small act changed his and our lives. He was paid back and got shares in the business. He was able to move from a caravan into a proper house.

Fast forward to when the lottery started and he went into a shop to buy a newspaper while waiting for his wife. A man pushed in front. Both the pusher in and our friend bought a lucky dip.
Friend won £1.6 million.

BigBlueRhino · 19/02/2025 14:28

Arrggghhhhhh · 19/02/2025 14:19

No.. I believe in law of attraction.

I think there is something in that . I have one child who is an optimist and things do tend to go his way but I guess if you are likeable and easy to be around doors open for you and your mistakes are minimised .

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 19/02/2025 14:27

I have never seen it happen but I am always a 'nice' conscientious' 'caring' person because I am scared of Karma getting me.

There have been plenty of people in my life who have deserved it, but nothing. Although, several of them are now dead so could that be Karma? Or just an age thing?

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Rainydays321 · 19/02/2025 14:27

LookingAtMyBhunas · 19/02/2025 14:22

Sorry but its bollocks.

I understand why people want to believe it. What a nice way to wrap things in a bow.

But no. Not after my truly altruistic best friend aged 35 died a painful, slow death last year and the violent, robbing offenders I deal with on a daily basis are living until they're 90.

She also believed in 'everything happens for a reason'. I wondered when I was with her as she breathed her last if she ever made peace with that.

She didn't die for any other reason other than the disease took over her cells and killed them.
I didn't have a miscarriage 'for a reason'.
Children aren't sexually abused 'for a reason".

As a rule, human beings don't like to think of life as a random, unlogical series of events that could hit at any time, so come up with patterns and arbitrary rules to make themselves feel better.

It doesn't make me feel any better.

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The older i get the more I understand the “life is a random, unlogical series of events that could hit at any time” my best friend lost her 4 yo DS in a complete freak accident, 2 years before her mother died, a few months after loosing her ds her husband had a stroke… she has never hurt anyone in her life. I suppose “karma” would make life easier to deal with,

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BigBlueRhino · 19/02/2025 14:25

Cattery · 19/02/2025 14:10

I believe if you’ve treated people badly in the past karma will come for you. I’ve seen it happen

I do too . I tell my children that is someone hurts you don't dwell on it as karma will take care of them . I've seen it happen many times often years after the event .

Ruminationstationagain · 19/02/2025 14:24

I don’t believe in karma. I’ve made big some mistakes in my life and I’m going through a hellish time in putting it right and having therapy because of shame and guilt.

Unless me feeling this broken is the karma? Possible, I guess!

💐 to anyone else going through a tough time at the moment.

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Rainydays321 · 19/02/2025 14:23

Arrggghhhhhh · 19/02/2025 14:19

No.. I believe in law of attraction.

Is Karma kind of the law of attraction? Like you do bad things and have bad thoughts and bad stuff will come to you? And you think positive thoughts and do good things then good will come to you? I agree though with good people having bad things happening to them. I have had no end of shit/trauma/ loses but always do my best too be kind and thoughtful.

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LookingAtMyBhunas · 19/02/2025 14:22

Cattery · 19/02/2025 14:10

I believe if you’ve treated people badly in the past karma will come for you. I’ve seen it happen

Sorry but its bollocks.

I understand why people want to believe it. What a nice way to wrap things in a bow.

But no. Not after my truly altruistic best friend aged 35 died a painful, slow death last year and the violent, robbing offenders I deal with on a daily basis are living until they're 90.

She also believed in 'everything happens for a reason'. I wondered when I was with her as she breathed her last if she ever made peace with that.

She didn't die for any other reason other than the disease took over her cells and killed them.
I didn't have a miscarriage 'for a reason'.
Children aren't sexually abused 'for a reason".

As a rule, human beings don't like to think of life as a random, unlogical series of events that could hit at any time, so come up with patterns and arbitrary rules to make themselves feel better.

It doesn't make me feel any better.

custardpyjamas · 19/02/2025 14:20

No, if there was karma the nasty people around would get back some of what they give, but they never seem to. Unless you have to wait for the next life, if there is one.

Arrggghhhhhh · 19/02/2025 14:19

No.. I believe in law of attraction.

BarneyRonson · 19/02/2025 14:17

I would love to believe in karma, but I see zero evidence to suggest it exists, sadly.

Cattery · 19/02/2025 14:15

@Honeyroar that’s not karma though, that’s just bad luck. I’m talking about serial cheaters or those who have purposely stitched people up getting their comeuppance.