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Marsh40 · 19/02/2025 09:00

So I've posted on here a while back about issues I'm having but thought I'd re do an updated version as I couldn't find my old post!

So since September 2024 (a few weeks of being with new partner) I started getting UTI's which was something I've never struggled with in the past.
Well these symptoms continued and still continue now! :( I've done numerous urine tests/samples some of which come back with an infection (e-coli) and some clear.
I've also passed blood in urine a few times (especially after sex)
I've had numerous blood tests taken
a few hospital visits
I've had severe lower back pain (mainly left sided) since November 2024

Tests I've had so far:
Bladder Scan- clear
ultrasound scan - clear
CT scan- clear (kidneys etc all clear)
mri on pelvis - clear but since has been re checked and Cyst found inside lower back. (Waiting on another MRI of back for this)

I'm just noticing that I'm having issues everytime I've had sex with my partner!!
We've both had clear STI tests (infact I've been tested twice nuts to make sure)

i also noticed that if he ejaculated in me I am in agony! It's like I'm allergic to his cum! Is this even a thing??

sorry for the essay but hoping somone has some insight! 🙏
its effecting everything I do, want to do and now me physically and mentally :(

xx

OP posts:
ToBeOrNotToBee · 19/02/2025 09:07

How old are you?
Is there a chance this could be linked to perimenopause.
The drop in hormones cause the tissues to thin and become less elastic internally. The increased friction then causes microtears in the urethra which can become damaged during sex and more susceptible to infections.

If this is the case, time to discuss HRT.

fourelementary · 19/02/2025 09:04

When you say bladder scan, do you mean a flexible cystoscope where they put a camera up into the bladder?

and yes it’s possible to be allergic to his ejaculate- have you tried condoms?