On holiday thinking my marriage might be over

I would book one or two private lessons. Or never going skiing again, spending the rest of this holiday in spas and bars.

Sounds like you touched a nerve with the comment, which probably means that was exactly what his management style was like.
if it was me, I would think ‘sod this difficult skiing… not my bag’ then I would choose to be independent and find joy doing what I liked leaving them to go down black runs and do their macho crap. In the meantime, I would value a great trip away and enjoy the easier bunny runs, or chilling out in a swimming pool, or reading, or walking ,or ice skating and seeing them in the evening.

@SirRaymondClench We’re on the same page with skiing…I once had to be rescued by the ski instructor during a group lesson as I was too scared to ski down an easy slope with the others…made a real fool of myself! 😂.

I do think that because he was mean and disrespectful, the OP then retaliated but with a remark of perhaps some comparison of the two situations.

She said: (he left management a couple of years ago as had some feedback about his management style)

I think it was a good time to bring it up, instead of in a situation where it has no bearing on anything. I think it's a good point for him to think about, regardless of how sore the subject is for him.

The feedback he got was enough to make him leave his job. So, if the OP believes she may be receiving the same negative style in their personal life, why should she not give factual and constructive feedback, whether he appreciates it or not?

I've only been skiing once and I'm petrified of heights. Guess who got stuck on the ski lift thing because she refused to let go and jump off it? 🙄 I went round that bastard thing four times because I couldn't let go!
Everyone wet themselves laughing...so compared to me OP you are an Olympic skier!
I agree with PP that you should find the best looking instructor for a few hours of intense lessons!
Your H is behaving like a cock-shine and I hope all his colleagues have seen his behaviour.

Go home early, why waste your time with a bunch of people who don’t care if you’re having a shit holiday! The least they could do it take it in turns to hang out with you!

You husband is an arsehole. His behavior needs to be addressed.

Although I sympathise with you, I do think you are unreasonable to expect your husband to stay with you on a group skiing holiday when there is such a disparity in your skiing ability. Book skiing lessons, and build confidence at your own speed.

If he cannot see that his behaviour towards you is completely unacceptable in every possible way then it’s time to move on.
Does your DD still live at home?
Are you able to literally repack your case when you get home and leave? Even if it’s to a hotel until you find more suitable accommodation? Or tell him you want him to leave, but he might stand his ground and refuse.
Unless you make a stand and demonstrate that you will not accept his abuse things will not change.
I sincerely wish you well, if you want to work things out I hope you achieve that, but if you want out of this marriage only you can make it happen, it literally is a choice of one or the other.
sending you a massive hug.

Cool athletic ski family
Barf 🤮 😂

I'm sorry OP you've cone to realise it's not working for you abd now you need to take next steps. It won't be easy but You will feel easier and freer when it's done. You shouldn't have to stand for constant abuse. Good luck

Book a lesson with a very hot instructor!

My DH would only have to call me pathetic once before his stuff would be in bin bags. LTB.

OP your daughter knows whats going on and so does everyone else. Take your daughter and go home. Just go when dh is off skiing. At home consult a divorce lawyer. Your dh is a narcissist and a bully.

He does not like you.
You are not better off with him.
Your daughter is being damaged by his treatment of you.

Abusive arse!! You’re showing your daughter that you tolerate being treated like this.

Imagine this is how her future relationship pans out, you’d want to destroy that twat treating her so poorly. Channel your anger into leaving him.

He can ski. Whoop de shit. Fun, but pretty useless skill in life. What’s happened to his big career now?

Your comment was completely fair tbh. He sounds like a weapons-grade dickhead. He bullies you and runs you down, then when he gets a bit of pushback he pouts and sulks? I wouldn't tolerate that behaviour from a 6yo, never mind a grown man. You must be fed up to the back teeth with him. I think you should make plans to split, you won't be able to regain any respect for him now and he clearly isn't capable of improving.

Ask at the hotel about ski school to gain your confidence and make some new friends.

A man who truly loves and respects you would care about your fears.
Mocking your skiing abilities is not only rude but really dumb and insulting. I'd tell Eddie the eagle to do one.........you sound lovely and deserve only good things babe xxx

I'm afraid I can't offer much advice as I would do exactly the same as you and would end up with the silent treatment for days like you. You can't give it and not be able to take it, especially when you're not offering support! I guess try and talk through it at some stage but if your other half is like mine, they don't see the hypocrisy often!

His silence for so long, him assuming you apologise to bring on conversation was the start of domestic abuse & the end of my marriage. Please make it public, ask your friends for their opinions on your skiing. I’m sorry to be negative but his ability to hold a grudge means the respect has gone. Gather your self respect and stop swallowing down your anger and let him know you won’t accept his behaviour.

Me too.
No way would I stand for this behaviour. 😡

"I usually have my friend when I come who is at same level as me and we have a wonderful time together."

Is your friend not with you this time?
You just need to do your own thing during the day and not be dependent on him - ski with others of similar ability or just relax. Meet up for meals etc.
Maybe re-evaluate things when you get home.

Im so sorry OP, your DH sounds like a piece of work and no one should be talked to like that. Hard as it might be I would like into separating.

Im also on a skiing holiday with my family and my DH has been taking it at my pace and kept saying how proud he is. Not trying to ‘rub it in’ but this is how people who love each other should communicate

Yes, ski instructor may be able to help. I had one back when I was on 20s. I would still leave the a$$hole your married to. He should never talk like that to you.

Book your self in for a private ski lesson with an instructor for a couple of hours. Put it on your husbands credit card!! A couple of hours with a private ski instructor should get your confidence back. When you get home think long and hard about your marriage.

Class A AH. DUMP HIM. He wouldn’t want his daughter treated that way by her spouse! It also shows he is concerned with what the other folks think….like you should be the best skier and look like the “cool, athletic ski family”. Immature. Ridiculous. Nasty.