To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

You say "you're not in either category" yet you would take exception to someone not calling you Mrs after you'd told them that was your title.

That's exactly the situation the OP has- she has previously told them her correct title.

As an NHS consultant of 30y, I say get them to change it. I make huge efforts to ask patients what they want to be called, and how to pronounce their names if complex. It’s basic courtesy and costs nothing. A decent pharmacy will understand the importance and change it to Ms as per your wishes.

It’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things those is it. I’m sure the pharmacist isn’t doing it on purpose to piss off the OP. It’s not rude if they don’t know.
For whatever reason they assume she’s Miss.

@Mayana1 Ms. I'm a married woman. Also a feminist. HTH?

@Futb I'm not in either of the categories you've mentioned. I've been happily married for almost 40 years and was a Miss until I was married and chose to be a Mrs as soon as I married my husband. It was my choice to use the title of Mrs and it irritates me if someone refers to me as a Ms because that's not my title. It's got nothing to be proud to be a Mrs - it's the title I chose to use and it's bloody rude not to use the correct title. It doesn't bother me in the slightest if someone who doesn't know me refers to me as Ms initially, but once they know my title, then I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to be addressed correctly.

Wouldn’t bother me one little bit!

I’m not that hung up on the whole thing.

Where is this proud to be married club? I may ask to join.

Someone that would get annoyed with this, imo would be either, someone older that has never married and they feel embarrassed, which is odd. If a pharmacist said “Miss Smith”, I’d assume they were meaning the 23 year old and not the 63 year old. The 63 year old would want to be known as Ms so no one knows what the situation.

The other would be someone who was previously married and who isn’t now but doesn’t want to remain as Mrs because of the connections to the ex but as previously, doesn’t want to be called Miss.

Perhaps someone who hasn’t changed their name after getting married.

I assume you must fit in to one of the above OP.

Surely Miss and Ms both just means someone isn't married. Why does the pharmacist need to know your exact marital status?

No, Ms just means a woman. Nothing to do with being married or not.

It is in fact the one you'd most likely use if agreeing with the view that the pharmacist doesn't need to know your marital status!

As has been pointed out on nearly all the approximately 346774345 threads there have been on aspects of women's honorific titles, Miss, Ms, Mrs are all contractions of mistress. They mean nothing other than what social convention at a particular point in time decides they mean. However, as almost every one of these threads shows, whichever title you choose, someone will make assumptions and judgements about you. It matters, because this is something men simply don't have to go through- thry are all Mr by default, just as adult women in various other countries are all Frau, Madame, Señora, because they're adult, not because they're married or divorced or anything.

And it matters, because it's part of how we're addressed. I am Emma, not Em, and I'm Ms, not Miss or Mrs. Mrs Bearhug was my mother, my aunt, my grandmother, but it really isn't me. I don't usually answer to it,because my first assumption is they don't mean me. This is not something men ever have to think about, because it just doesn't happen to them.

But it's not relevant whether you think it's a fuss about nothing. You're not the person it's happening to, and the person it is happening to is annoyed by it.

As someone else pointed out, the responses from the proud to be married club would be very different if the pharmacist was calling everyone Ms.

Honestly Op why do you care? I literally couldn't get worked up about what the label on my medicine says!!
Surely Miss and Ms both just means someone isn't married...... Why does the pharmacist need to know your exact marital status? I find it really odd that it bothers you. You must have a charmed life to worry about such things.

The only place I'd be worried about correct title would be on official paperwork (passport, bank, mortgage etc.)

The important thing is that the medication is correct....?

Their names are not wrong, it’s their title!

Problem solved!

Well we will
have to agree to disagree?

The OP was AIBU, my answer to her and others is yes, ridiculous thing to get upset about,

In my opinion you have been rude and patronising in most of your posts.

OP, are you on regular monthly prescription??
if yes you can use Hey Pharmacist app, and have your all prescribed medicine deliver to your home.

You’re being extremely rude and asking very rude questions like “am I one of those woman who is proud to be married”, like I shouldn’t be? Like it’s an issue to you, like it’s any of your business! It’s not!

I still think it’s a huge fuss about nothing in a pharmacy.

Can I not have my own opinion?

That is quite obvious.

I'm not dictating your title. You call yourself whatever you like. Just respect other women's right to make different choices, it's not hard. And don't patronise them by saying that people persistently getting their name wrong is not a big deal.

It’s gobsmacking that women think they’ve the right to dictate to other women.

And you don’t get to dictate my title either, yet you’ve spent so much energy on this post alone, trying to do that!

The irony!

Why is it ok for you to do this? Please do explain?

Incidentally I’ve not dictated to you, I’ve just said it’s a lot of fuss about anything at a pharmacy, that’s used presumably no more than once a month.

Oh damn! I really thought I did.
🤣

I’m just “married” there is really no more to it than that.

It’s not something I really think about.

Are you "proud to be married", like so many women who cling to being called Mrs Husbandsname then?