To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

Well then why did OP ask 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣, the forum is am I being unreasonable?

Are we saying that I mustn’t give my view to OP when she’s literally asked!

Honestly, calm down. It’s not even your post, it’s another woman’s, so let her speak for herself?

It's overbearing and bossy and frankly dismissive to tell a woman she is being unreasonable to be annoyed because someone refuses to use her correct title.

I’ll decide what bothers me, you know being a fully functioned adult woman who can decide for herself.

Again, because you don’t seem to have taken any notice.

OP asked AIBU, she asked the question, my answer is yes.

If she didn’t want to know, she needn’t have asked.

Stop trying to speak for other women, they are able to ask questions and speak for themselves!

So overbearing and bossy!!

I use Ms, as a married woman, and wouldn’t be bothered if a pharmacist wrote Miss or Mrs.

I understand the arguments for using Ms, as I subscribe to them I.e.: not defining yourself by your married status, in the same way that men are not defined by their married status.

But when a pharmacist ticks Miss / Mrs in place of Ms, I assume they’re busy and my honorific isn’t their top priority. They haven’t philosophised over whether you should be acknowledging your married status as a married woman. They just haven’t thought about it, because amongst all their other duties, it isn’t an important consideration to them.

I’d let it go OP. Making a thing of it comes across quite self-important.

So? It bothers the OP, and many other women.

And maybe it would bother you if it were happening to you, which it isn't.

Exactly!

My response to that is, I don’t think is an issue. It wouldn’t bother me.

I actually agree with this. 3 different titles, different people pissed off for different reasons if their preferred title isn’t used

Men don’t have to deal with this shit.

You might have a PhD but your use of that insulting, unimiginative, lame and misogynistic "Karen" insult says a lot more about you than your PhD does.

What is your definition of overcharged?

Private prescriptions will consist of the drug cost plus a dispensing fee which varies from one pharmacy to the next. The latter is the professional services fee and as I mentioned, will be higher because of the level of risk involved with the medication in question. If you ask for an invoice, it will usually just state what you received and how much you paid without any calculation in my experience

When getting a private prescription, always shop around and ask different pharmacies how much they will charge then go with the one you are happiest with. In your case, I imagine they are ordering it in just for you as it is not something I would expect to see in regular stock so this will also be factored into the cost.

Honestly speaking, the best way to approach is just to vote with your feet if you are not happy with the pharmacy in question. I have done this many times and finally found a local independent that I like and trust

Yes me. If it addressed me as fatty drug seeker would that be fine cos only the two of us would know?

@IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle Yes I know I'm in the same position as the OP - I've made this clear in each of my posts on this thread. I don't give a toss about the reasons someone might have for choosing the title they want to use or what title they decide to adopt - everyone has the right to be addressed by whatever title they want and other people should respect that. I would never dream of addressing someone who chooses to call themselves a Ms as anything else, and would never question their reasons for not being a Miss or a Mrs. I would expect the same courtesy with how people address me. The OP didn't start this thread as a discussion about the rights or wrongs of referring to herself as a Ms, but to ask for views on whether she was being unreasonable in expecting the pharmacy to use the title that she has chosen to use and that is on her prescription.

Who cares?

decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

Someone that would get annoyed with this, imo would be either, someone older that has never married and they feel embarrassed, which is odd. If a pharmacist said “Miss Smith”, I’d assume they were meaning the 23 year old and not the 63 year old. The 63 year old would want to be known as Ms so no one knows what the situation.

The other would be someone who was previously married and who isn’t now but doesn’t want to remain as Mrs because of the connections to the ex but as previously, doesn’t want to be called Miss.

Perhaps someone who hasn’t changed their name after getting married.

I assume you must fit in to one of the above OP.

@IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle Yes I know I'm in the same position as the OP - I've made this clear in each of my posts on this thread. I don't give a toss about the reasons someone might have for choosing the title they want to use or what title they decide to adopt - everyone has the right to be addressed by whatever title they want and other people should respect that. I would never dream of addressing someone who chooses to call themselves a Ms as anything else, and would never question their reasons for not being a Miss or a Mrs. I would expect the same courtesy with how people address me. The OP didn't start this thread as a discussion about the rights or wrongs of referring to herself as a Ms, but to ask for views on whether she was being unreasonable in expecting the pharmacy to use the title that she has chosen to use and that is on her prescription.

They do know. It's literally written on her prescription.

It’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things those is it. I’m sure the pharmacist isn’t doing it on purpose to piss off the OP. It’s not rude if they don’t know.
For whatever reason they assume she’s Miss.

@Futb I'm not in either of the categories you've mentioned. I've been happily married for almost 40 years and was a Miss until I was married and chose to be a Mrs as soon as I married my husband. It was my choice to use the title of Mrs and it irritates me if someone refers to me as a Ms because that's not my title. It's got nothing to be proud to be a Mrs - it's the title I chose to use and it's bloody rude not to use the correct title. It doesn't bother me in the slightest if someone who doesn't know me refers to me as Ms initially, but once they know my title, then I don't think it's unreasonable to expect to be addressed correctly.

Your post shows what a load of nonsense it is that there isn't a female equivalent in English of "Mr"

Other countries manage perfectly well with Madame, Frau etc for all adult females. Only the UK clings to the idea that a woman must disclose her marital status on all occasions whether or not it's relevant.

I'm married. I never use Mrs.

Someone that would get annoyed with this, imo would be either, someone older that has never married and they feel embarrassed, which is odd. If a pharmacist said “Miss Smith”, I’d assume they were meaning the 23 year old and not the 63 year old. The 63 year old would want to be known as Ms so no one knows what the situation.

The other would be someone who was previously married and who isn’t now but doesn’t want to remain as Mrs because of the connections to the ex but as previously, doesn’t want to be called Miss.

Perhaps someone who hasn’t changed their name after getting married.

I assume you must fit in to one of the above OP.