To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

Did they? I mean, no-one actually asked, did they?

What's your point? A majority of women once agreed that only men should have the right to vote.

Are they chill pills?
Take one

I’ve been using Ms since I was a teenager. Yet I still get post addressed to me as ‘Miss’ which makes me feel about 5. My small daughter is a ‘miss’. My small son and spouse are both Mr because nobody gives a shit if they’re married or not. It’s everyday sexism to use married titles in my opinion. I hate that my daughter knows which of her female teachers are married (irrelevant!) but nobody knows if the male teachers are married or not. It sends a poor message.

I don’t always raise it but I really should. It’s only a small issue if you think we should live in a sexist society and put up with it. The difficulty is so many people don’t understand why it’s an issue or indeed care. Whenever this comes up on mumsnet, everyone says not to get your knickers in a twist/I’ve got bigger things to worry about etc.

A rose by any other name.......

No idea! You’d have to ask them!

For me, being called Miss or Ms is a non issue.

In fact given by first name, I’m often called Mr.

As long as the meds were right, im
happy .

It's about time we stopped using titles - there's just no need and they're causing unnecessary hassle and wasting a lot of admin/management time.

We stopped using them in our firm a few years ago. Only one client even mentioned the lack of Ms/Mrs/Mr/Dr and they were just mentioning it in passing rather than complaining. Prior to that, idiotic complaints were far too common.

I know it will blow some people's minds, but we also stopped using Male/Female markers on databases etc. Just no need at all.

It was a data protection law change a few years ago that prompted it as one of the new rules/laws was that you should only keep and process data that you need to keep and process, i.e. every little bit of data used must have a purpose/requirement. We did a thorough review of all our databases and no one could come up with a genuine reason why we needed titles nor sex/gender for our clients, so we went through the databases, removed the fields if possible, and if not possible, changed the data within the field to be blank or n/a.

In the few years since we "cleansed" the databases, we've never actually missed having that data and never found that we needed the data.

Everything in our database, all forms, all letters, emails, etc., now use a simple salutation of initials, and/or firstname, and lasttime. Simples!

Yes the majority of women do agree with you and they put everyone they're ever registered with the admin load of updating their title and surname when they get married. So since the majority do care about their title it is really weird of you to not think it's a big deal when that title is Ms and it's not recorded as requested? If the majority of women agree with you it's no big deal why do the majority of you change it to Mrs if you don't care about whether you are correctly labelled as that and titles are something no one cares about? You can't have it both ways, therefore your "the majority agree with me, you're making a stink about being called Ms" sounds really hypocritical when you could have stayed as Miss maiden name but you want people to respect your choice to change it.

Well it’s reflective and your banging on at me being wrong, no place in 21st century, no respect and being in the “proud to be married” group.

A large proportion agree with me.

My opinion is it’s not something to make a point of in a pharmacy.

Please stop projecting!

again 77% of votes on a mainly female forum agree!

You can bet your life that if the pharmacist just called all women "Ms" regardless of what was written on their prescriptions because they considered that they couldn't give a shit about women's marital status and it's ridiculous to categorise women in this way in the 21st century, there would be a lot of unhappy customers.

"I'm not a Ms! Ms is only for divorced women or women who are embarrassed to be single! I'm a Mrs, thank you very much!"

If it's not an important detail at all, we shouldn't have it or note it down at all? But while we do ask people to supply these details, it's not that much to ask for people to record it correctly as supplied. It's really not that hard and part of the reason people are "bothered" by it, is because this seems to happen a lot and at more than one place we register as Ms and given some of the spiteful comments on this thread, it doesn't seem like it's a repetitive accident.

But if the pharmacist is getting this detail wrong because they are sloppy, they are probably getting other, "more important" details wrong.

And if they are managing to get other, "more important" details right, they can also manage to get this one right, but are failing to do so because they think female customers aren't deserving of basic respect.

Your opinion that the OP's name and title are unimportant and that she isn't entitled to basic respect and attention to detail from someone whose job literally consists of serving the public and paying attention to detail is wrong, yes.

The detail being missed is completely irrelevant to the proper dispensation of medicines. There is absolutely no risk of Ms Tiredofallthis of 123 Acacia Lane being given the wrong medicine because the label said Mrs Tiredofallthis of 123 Acacia Lane. Whether you are Ms or Mrs is something you choose, and can frankly change from day to day if you want. The other details are tied to a legal record, which is why they must be checked and accurate.

Yes, it does. And not in a good way.

It's interesting that we've had posts from people in patient care telling us that OP isn't BU.

I am a Ms. I also get pissed of being called Miss. It's really not that hard. Attention to detail surely should be important in a pharmacy?

Incidentally, 77% of voters think OP was BU.

Speaks for itself really.

Yes it’s tragic I’m sure!

You are telling me that my opinion is wrong, why are you saying that? It’s my opinion not yours.

Was it worth making a point to the pharmacist over this, no in my opinion it’s not.

I thought women being told to think in a certain way, mostly came from men, clearly not. You think all women should be a hive mind. We don’t.

I think it's a real shame that on a forum populated almost exclusively by women, the opinion that the OP's name and identity are unimportant is such a popular one.

Read this slowly

She asked AIBU, will I look mad?

My opinion is yes.

Let other women have their own view and opinion? How about that? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

To be fair, just about anything would add to the validity of that particular point.

Why do some posters think adding a row of laughing smilies adds to the validity of their point?