To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

To be fair, I voted YANBU and I don't have 'angst" about anything 😂 I do agree with the OP though.

I think you're right. But I do think things are changing. A few decades ago this wouldn't even have even a conversation at all. Now though, more than 1/5 of people on this thread appears to agree with the OP that her choice or title should be honoured and respected. That's a start. Progress is happening, but doesn't happen overnight.

I guess the point she is trying to make is that even if it's not important to you, it's important to her? It's important to me too.

I don't care what others choose to do, but I do respect their decisions. So if I knew it was important for someone to be referred to as Mrs for instance, I would respect that (even if I don't understand it and have the opposite stance!). Ultimately, we should all just respect each other's choices, surely?

I suspect that many women do in fact understand the misogyny in Miss/Mrs but still choose to embrace it.

@LovelyLeitrim Unfortunately the majority of women still don't understand the misogyny behind the title of Mrs. I do though, as do an increasing number of women alongside me, and it will always matter to me that my choice is respected.

@LovelyLeitrim Assuming you're a Mrs, but you're fine with me calling you Miss x/Ms x/Mr x, yes? 😀

Yeah, there's not a chance in hell you're going to get a reply to that one. It drives enough of a coach and horses through the argument that it can only be ignored. The answer, as always, is that a double standard is being applied.

So I've got angst, but nobody in this thread has got angst, goodness me, make your mind up.

Yes hun, I meant none of the 78% have angst, you’ve massively got angst.

Responses like this show very clearly why feminism has advanced at snail's pace at best.

I don’t care! It’s not important to me!

I don’t need to answer your questions.

I’ll do me hun!

But you can't answer the question - why should every man just be a neutral "Mr" but women have to pick a title which is meant to show if they are single or married?

Did you not accuse me of having "angst" in this thread?

I can't get my head round why some women can't see anything wrong with the situation that men, if they have to pick a title, have an all purpose, suitable for all men title, but women haven't.

And not only that, but women shouldn't be allowed to have an all purpose title without being mocked.

I think the angst you're reading might be people feeling like responding to you is responding to a brick wall. If you're gonna make the argument that the pharmacy is not the hill for OP to die on and that she would "look mad" and there are places a teeny bit more important for it to be correct then you can tell us all where that is. It's a really simple question that seems to be beyond you.

I’m not sad in anyway hun.

Oh good lord, no one has angst, have you read this thread?

No one has angst about anyone being called Mrs though. Some people find it a little cringey but I haven't seen anyone suggest you're hysterical, fussy or pretentious, suggesting you're going by Mrs because you're actually embarrassed to be single and alone etc all accusations thrown at OP for choosing a different title and asking me to record it correctly.

You're not going to get a medal for going to bat for the patriarchy.

I didn't say that. I do think it's sad that a woman thinks she has to validate herself by announcing her marital status when it's completely irrelevant to the particular situation.

I think it's sad that some women can't see anything wrong with the situation that men have an all purpose, suitable for all men title, but women haven't. Or that women who would also like an all purpose title are the subject of derision by women like you.

I can see from bank accounts that I've picked Ms and Miss over the years. As far as I'm concerned neither actually show my marital status, except to small minded people who can't get their heads round the idea that a woman might chose not to disclose her marital status.

Given around that % of married women change their title to Mrs and adopt their husbands surnames, you think they'd see the hypocrisy in telling another woman to stop making a fuss about what title she is registered with . Pot kettle black etc.

Sorry this makes no sense - where are the important places according to you we can correct your details without it being a fuss?

Yep. It's a sad reflection of the world that women think another women is being unreasonable for simply asking not to be labelled by her marital status, but at least it's not 100% (which it no doubt would have been a few decades ago). Progress is slow, but at least it's happening

I’m loving the angst about women called Mrs, means they’re in the “smug married club”.

We all have to get our kicks somewhere!

Oops sorry, my mistake it’s 78% now.

And the 77% that voted OP is BU, don’t forget those.