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To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:00

decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

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PreciousRighteousTeacher · 18/02/2025 16:49

Yes I agree with @prescribingmum that’s likely what has happened. My DH was addressed as ‘Master’ by his private health provider for years before they finally changed it to ‘Mr’. Goodness knows why that title was entered onto the database! Where I currently live there are no pharmacies that will fill any sort of private prescription. So that’s probably something to be aware of OP if you do change to another pharmacy. I assume the cost of a private prescription will be the cost of the drug and some sort of mark up? If it’s any consolation I often get told what an expensive medication I am getting on the NHS by my pharmacy.I therefore understand you feeling got at OP. I just ignore my pharmacy generally but I did once rise to it by telling them it would cost the NHS a lot more if I went blind by not having the medication.

godmum56 · 18/02/2025 16:49

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:15

It is my name for the purposes of my professional regulation, my medical records, my bank account and security background checks.

And general human decency 👍🏻

um no, its your title not your name.

prescribingmum · 18/02/2025 16:49

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:43

The correct price was £50. I was initially charged over £250. And refused an invoice.

When you say the correct price is £50, do you mean that is the cost of the drug from the supplier or that you paid £250 but now get exactly the same thing for £50?

Acc0untant · 18/02/2025 16:48

What makes you think the pharmacist is disapproving of your prescription? The responsibility lies with the pharmacist regardless of what the doctor has prescribed, if the pharmacist decides you can't have the meds then you can't have them so the very fact you've got them means he/she can't disapprove that much.

VickyEadieofThigh · 18/02/2025 16:46

HamptonPlace · 18/02/2025 16:45

obviously not in scotland then!!!

It's a private prescription.

Convolvulus · 18/02/2025 16:45

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:41

Why would a private prescription be cheaper than the product it contains??

Depends whether every single medication that has ever been dispensed for you is or was on a private prescription.

HamptonPlace · 18/02/2025 16:45

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:04

I pay the pharmacist hundreds of pounds I think they could owe me a bit of politeness in return

obviously not in scotland then!!!

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:43

prescribingmum · 18/02/2025 16:40

What is your definition of overcharged?

Private prescriptions will consist of the drug cost plus a dispensing fee which varies from one pharmacy to the next. The latter is the professional services fee and as I mentioned, will be higher because of the level of risk involved with the medication in question. If you ask for an invoice, it will usually just state what you received and how much you paid without any calculation in my experience

When getting a private prescription, always shop around and ask different pharmacies how much they will charge then go with the one you are happiest with. In your case, I imagine they are ordering it in just for you as it is not something I would expect to see in regular stock so this will also be factored into the cost.

Honestly speaking, the best way to approach is just to vote with your feet if you are not happy with the pharmacy in question. I have done this many times and finally found a local independent that I like and trust

The correct price was £50. I was initially charged over £250. And refused an invoice.

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MissMoneyFairy · 18/02/2025 16:42

Have you asked why it's Miss? Is there a Ms option on his printer or are the labels handwritten

MrsMitford3 · 18/02/2025 16:41

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:06

They are already very much not on my side due to openly disapproving of the prescription so that ship has sailed

I don't want to be an arse to the till staff they're all lovely but he needs to sort himself out

I don't understand what you mean by they are openly disapproving of your prescription?

Surely they have seen it all?

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:41

Convolvulus · 18/02/2025 16:38

I'm prepared to bet that the medicine you receive costs a lot more than you pay for it

Edited

Why would a private prescription be cheaper than the product it contains??

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prescribingmum · 18/02/2025 16:40

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:35

This does make sense - to be fair it is interpreted in the wider context of quite a spiteful-feeling service. As you seem like an insider can I ask if it's common to be overcharged for private prescriptions (and not given an invoice detailing what you paid for)?

What is your definition of overcharged?

Private prescriptions will consist of the drug cost plus a dispensing fee which varies from one pharmacy to the next. The latter is the professional services fee and as I mentioned, will be higher because of the level of risk involved with the medication in question. If you ask for an invoice, it will usually just state what you received and how much you paid without any calculation in my experience

When getting a private prescription, always shop around and ask different pharmacies how much they will charge then go with the one you are happiest with. In your case, I imagine they are ordering it in just for you as it is not something I would expect to see in regular stock so this will also be factored into the cost.

Honestly speaking, the best way to approach is just to vote with your feet if you are not happy with the pharmacy in question. I have done this many times and finally found a local independent that I like and trust

ZaraSkyTraveler · 18/02/2025 16:40

I’m Dr (and also Mrs), I had to complete a form and could only choose Ms or Mx. so I did.

I think you’re massively over thinking this.

Convolvulus · 18/02/2025 16:40

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:05

I honestly think it is. I know people can be too touchy but this is my name!

It isn't your name, unless your birth certificate has "Ms" as your first name. It's an honorific.

MyrtleLion · 18/02/2025 16:39

jannier · 18/02/2025 16:38

Why ...can't you get a prepayment certificate for £10 or so a month?
Odd thing to worry about I wouldn't even look if it's my regular meds.

Because it's a private prescription.

suki1964 · 18/02/2025 16:38

At least they have the correct sex

Im Mr on my wage slip - I was born female and I have never in my life identified as male

Convolvulus · 18/02/2025 16:38

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:04

I pay the pharmacist hundreds of pounds I think they could owe me a bit of politeness in return

I'm prepared to bet that the medicine you receive costs a lot more than you pay for it

jannier · 18/02/2025 16:38

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:04

I pay the pharmacist hundreds of pounds I think they could owe me a bit of politeness in return

Why ...can't you get a prepayment certificate for £10 or so a month?
Odd thing to worry about I wouldn't even look if it's my regular meds.

Jeezitneverends · 18/02/2025 16:38

I get pissed off that my prescriptions don’t come with my correct title which is Princess

Twiglets1 · 18/02/2025 16:37

Talk about first world problems.

shrinkingthiswinter · 18/02/2025 16:37

Women have been trying since the 80s to get a neutral title that doesn’t indicate marital status. It’s a very reasonable demand. This does matter. The mistake may not be personal tho

ForRealCat · 18/02/2025 16:37

You sound like you might be liable to read a bit too much into things.... I doubt they really have an opinion on your medication, I would assume the computer is just reprinting labels rather than there being a repeated desire to offend you. By all means ask them to update their records, but I really don't think this is being done out of spite!!

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:35

prescribingmum · 18/02/2025 16:29

The first time you presented at a pharmacy, a profile will have been created by a dispenser or student who incorrectly input Miss rather than Ms. They will likely have been unaware of the significance of any difference. Each time you go back, the label is generated from that original profile. The checking pharmacist ensures the name matches that on the prescription together with all the other necessary medication details - with a prescription for a controlled drug, there is a long paperwork trail together with additional paperwork because it is a private prescription so this will be taking up all their time and energy.

Contrary to your insistence, this has not been done to spite you - they are just a lot more focused on all the other admin that comes with dispensing your medication. It really is not personal and the high cost is a reflection of the risk and responsibility that goes with dealing with controlled medication

As I said in an earlier post, if you really despise them that much, go find another pharmacy.

Edited

This does make sense - to be fair it is interpreted in the wider context of quite a spiteful-feeling service. As you seem like an insider can I ask if it's common to be overcharged for private prescriptions (and not given an invoice detailing what you paid for)?

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Agapornis · 18/02/2025 16:35

Can you move to a different pharmacist?

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:32

Soontobe60 · 18/02/2025 16:31

Why not ask the local cannabis dealer for a bag - I’m sure they’ll call you anything you want!

Not very advisable to buy things like that

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