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Original poster

To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:00

decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

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Newposter180 · 18/02/2025 17:30

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:11

Yes but life isn't misery top trumps. If someone dying is the only thing that matters why not just repeal the equality act.

And of course neither you nor they know what my prescription is for.

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Obviously some drugs like broad spectrum antibiotics can treat a host of issues, but a pharmacist will know what your drug is used for - that’s literally their job. You seem very touchy about the whole thing so I’m assuming it’s weight loss injections.

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:30

whitbywaves · 18/02/2025 17:28

You are correct of course.

I was just trying to be honest and say what I would do and say professionally and what (depending on the day) I might be secretly thinking in my head. But this is just ME and I apologise for invading your thread by a personal opinion.

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My prescription is often given to people with otherwise untreatable pain from cancer. Lovely to know what pharmacists are thinking.

Not as bad as my friend who went to her local to collect morphine for her dying sister and was told "oh someone's having a party!"

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PickAChew · 18/02/2025 17:30

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:04

I pay the pharmacist hundreds of pounds I think they could owe me a bit of politeness in return

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Why? Do you not have a prepayment certificate?

The pharmacy will see very little of that money, BTW. Pharmacies are over-stretched and the future of many is precarious.
https://www.npa.co.uk/campaigns/save-our-pharmacies

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:29

GucciBear · 18/02/2025 17:28

The time to make a fuss is when you are given the wrong meds .............................

They have actually done this before. With a little pen tick on the box next to the wrong thing. I assume someone else got mine.

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Glorybox2025 · 18/02/2025 17:29

Lou205 · 18/02/2025 17:18

I find Ms as pretentious at they/them.

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How are you even vaguely equating them :/

whitbywaves · 18/02/2025 17:28

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:11

Yes but life isn't misery top trumps. If someone dying is the only thing that matters why not just repeal the equality act.

And of course neither you nor they know what my prescription is for.

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You are correct of course.

I was just trying to be honest and say what I would do and say professionally and what (depending on the day) I might be secretly thinking in my head. But this is just ME and I apologise for invading your thread by a personal opinion.

Pushmepullu · 18/02/2025 17:28

I think you have your priorities a little mixed up. It’s your prerogative to insist they use a title of your choosing, and to get worked up when they don’t, but surely the fact you say they are overcharging you by 5 times more than the actual cost of the prescription should be of more concern to you? Most people would go elsewhere based on this alone but clearly you have the money to waste and continue using them then get worked up about being called Miss rather than Ms. So in answer to your question, yes you will look mad.

GucciBear · 18/02/2025 17:28

The time to make a fuss is when you are given the wrong meds .............................

cocoromo · 18/02/2025 17:26

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:05

I honestly think it is. I know people can be too touchy but this is my name!

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It’s not your name, it’s your prefix and it sounds like you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Get a hobby.

Acc0untant · 18/02/2025 17:26

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:22

So you call married women who don't have the same name as their husband Mrs? Weird to me. I mean I don't care what you think obviously.

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If you don't care what people think then why ask people's opinion on what the pharmacist's opinion will be? You don't need to be snappy just because someone has a different opinion.

Thetrainer · 18/02/2025 17:25

As a pharmacist I would change it happily and apologise.

I wonder if they made a mistake with the earlier charge and every time they see you they are cringing about that.

It does sound peculiar. A pharmacist will rarely have time to have an opinion on who is getting what medication other than the actual clinical check of appropriate dosage etc

Pharmacist's don't input the name, title etc themselves a dispenser does and once registered it wouldn't be changed. Prescriptions are checked for correct name, address etc but personally I don't check titles...just wouldn't have the time! but I definitely correct it if asked and wouldn't give it another thought.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 18/02/2025 17:24

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:19

Because it's super close to where I live and the next one over isn't

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It might be worth the extra journey to save yourself the irritation. There’s also online pharmacies.

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:23

SleepToad · 18/02/2025 17:22

In the long run, does it actually matter. It's not a legal document only you and the chemist staff are it. Do you get the right meds. Yes. All that matters.
Now if it was an important thing like a contract to buy a house, lease a car, a phone contract then yes I think it should be Ms. But are you just making a point to make a point.

In hospitals they write above your bed how you should be addressed because they recognise how much it matters.

Pharmacies are healthcare providers too.

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:22

Lou205 · 18/02/2025 17:18

I find Ms as pretentious at they/them.

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So you call married women who don't have the same name as their husband Mrs? Weird to me. I mean I don't care what you think obviously.

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SleepToad · 18/02/2025 17:22

In the long run, does it actually matter. It's not a legal document only you and the chemist staff are it. Do you get the right meds. Yes. All that matters.
Now if it was an important thing like a contract to buy a house, lease a car, a phone contract then yes I think it should be Ms. But are you just making a point to make a point.

LastNightMyPJsSavedMyLife · 18/02/2025 17:20

Does anyone remember a time when people saved their offence for something offensive?

sweetpickle2 · 18/02/2025 17:20

I'm divorced so now a Miss, and the NHS still has me down as a Mrs on all my prescriptions/appointments/letters no many how many times I tell them its changed.

Couldn't care less tbh but just to show that they obv do it across the board- I imagine it's an admin error rather than a personal slight.

StressedLP1 · 18/02/2025 17:19

I’ve just checked my routine Jed’s, which I’ve been in for 10+ years, and it says Miss even though I’m a Ms. I’ve never noticed it before and couldn’t give a rats ass but obviously means a great deal to you so I think you should speak to your pharmacist. I just wanted you to know that I dont think they’re targeting you personally :)

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:19

AlohaRose · 18/02/2025 17:17

Many people have asked why you don't just change pharmacist if he is rude and overcharging you?

Because it's super close to where I live and the next one over isn't

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Lou205 · 18/02/2025 17:18

EmmaMaria · 18/02/2025 17:01

Why do you care if it matters to somebody else? It does matter if someone thinks it does to them. It is rude to think that you can change someones preferred title.

OP, this reminds me of a previous GP practice, where I registered as "Dr" (on the basis that I am!) and for two years, each time I went to the GP the bloody receptionist had changed it to Mrs (which I was not and never had been). I complained each time, it was changed, and by the time I went back it had reverted again. Eventually the GP asked something and I said that I was not Mrs and I was fed up of having my title changed the that from Dr every time I went. He said he'd discuss it with reception, and it never happened again.

For a site where 99% of people seem to be willing to die over pronouns, it's interesting how many think that on'es title shouldn't be respected.

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I find Ms as pretentious at they/them.

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:18

Jeezitneverends · 18/02/2025 17:16

Ok ok sorry I didn’t agree with you enough 🙄

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I appreciate your agreement I was just being emphatic.

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AlohaRose · 18/02/2025 17:17

Many people have asked why you don't just change pharmacist if he is rude and overcharging you?

Jeezitneverends · 18/02/2025 17:16

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:15

And then some!

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Ok ok sorry I didn’t agree with you enough 🙄

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:15

Jeezitneverends · 18/02/2025 17:15

Not if it’s a private script, you pay the actual cost

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And then some!

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Jeezitneverends · 18/02/2025 17:15

Convolvulus · 18/02/2025 16:38

I'm prepared to bet that the medicine you receive costs a lot more than you pay for it

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Not if it’s a private script, you pay the actual cost