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To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:00

decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/02/2025 18:17

lemonfizzysweets · 18/02/2025 17:43

I have come here in solidarity. I also have a pharmacist who got quite visibly exasperated when I questioned something which then actually highlighted an error had been made. He now makes the same face when I go in every month to pick up my prescription. A sour pinched face and a theatrical sigh.

I also have been reverted to a Miss, rather than a Ms and each time I ask if it can be changed he sighs again, makes a 'don't you know how busy we are' eye roll' with a 'look at what i have to put up with' glance around everyone else waiting and promises one of the team will update it when they have a spare second....

Does he realise it would be quicker just to get it right in the first place?

Oioisavaloy27 · 18/02/2025 18:15

Of all the things going on in the world you have to find the tiniest thing to whine about, there's people out there dying of cancer! Get a grip!

141mum · 18/02/2025 18:14

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 18/02/2025 16:27

Don’t be utterly ridiculous.

Oh God, get a bloody life

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:14

lemonfizzysweets · 18/02/2025 17:43

I have come here in solidarity. I also have a pharmacist who got quite visibly exasperated when I questioned something which then actually highlighted an error had been made. He now makes the same face when I go in every month to pick up my prescription. A sour pinched face and a theatrical sigh.

I also have been reverted to a Miss, rather than a Ms and each time I ask if it can be changed he sighs again, makes a 'don't you know how busy we are' eye roll' with a 'look at what i have to put up with' glance around everyone else waiting and promises one of the team will update it when they have a spare second....

Solidarity !It's so bloody annoying.

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HH4432 · 18/02/2025 18:13

MarshmallowClouds · 18/02/2025 16:05

On a scale of things that annoy me this would be very, very, very low down.

Thanks for that 😂but this post isn't about YOU

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/02/2025 18:13

nameXname · 18/02/2025 18:11

As previous posters have said, all this could AMAZINGLY SIMPLY be solved if we followed the French system, which uses Madame for any adult female (ie above around 18- 20 years old), married or single. It's an exact parallel for the title 'Mr' accorded to adult males. So totally equal - unless people want to be otherwise performative about it. (And that's their right, of course.)

Just why don't we all get together and demand this? We're - women - over 50% of the UK population. Come on Mumsnet - start the campaign!

Ironically, after all this fuss, it's also important to note that Miss, Mrs, Ms are all abbreviations for the same old word: Mistress.That meant adult woman worthy of respect. Regardless of marital status.Have a read of this:
www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/mistress-miss-mrs-or-ms-untangling-the-shifting-history-of-titles

Honestly, I think the reason women don't get together and demand this is because most married women still see being married as a social status symbol.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:12

nameXname · 18/02/2025 18:11

As previous posters have said, all this could AMAZINGLY SIMPLY be solved if we followed the French system, which uses Madame for any adult female (ie above around 18- 20 years old), married or single. It's an exact parallel for the title 'Mr' accorded to adult males. So totally equal - unless people want to be otherwise performative about it. (And that's their right, of course.)

Just why don't we all get together and demand this? We're - women - over 50% of the UK population. Come on Mumsnet - start the campaign!

Ironically, after all this fuss, it's also important to note that Miss, Mrs, Ms are all abbreviations for the same old word: Mistress.That meant adult woman worthy of respect. Regardless of marital status.Have a read of this:
www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/mistress-miss-mrs-or-ms-untangling-the-shifting-history-of-titles

Compte moi in

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thegirlwithemousyhair · 18/02/2025 18:12

I am called Mrs, Miss, Ms - I used to correct people from time to time but now I really couldn't give a toss what a stranger calls me. I dont take it personally and I am not my title at the end of the day.

MrSolitaire · 18/02/2025 18:12

lemonfizzysweets · 18/02/2025 17:43

I have come here in solidarity. I also have a pharmacist who got quite visibly exasperated when I questioned something which then actually highlighted an error had been made. He now makes the same face when I go in every month to pick up my prescription. A sour pinched face and a theatrical sigh.

I also have been reverted to a Miss, rather than a Ms and each time I ask if it can be changed he sighs again, makes a 'don't you know how busy we are' eye roll' with a 'look at what i have to put up with' glance around everyone else waiting and promises one of the team will update it when they have a spare second....

Have you not politely challenged him about his attitude? I certainly wouldn’t be putting up with such obvious distain and irritation! I’d be in huge trouble if I behaved like that with my customers at work!

nameXname · 18/02/2025 18:11

As previous posters have said, all this could AMAZINGLY SIMPLY be solved if we followed the French system, which uses Madame for any adult female (ie above around 18- 20 years old), married or single. It's an exact parallel for the title 'Mr' accorded to adult males. So totally equal - unless people want to be otherwise performative about it. (And that's their right, of course.)

Just why don't we all get together and demand this? We're - women - over 50% of the UK population. Come on Mumsnet - start the campaign!

Ironically, after all this fuss, it's also important to note that Miss, Mrs, Ms are all abbreviations for the same old word: Mistress.That meant adult woman worthy of respect. Regardless of marital status.Have a read of this:
www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/mistress-miss-mrs-or-ms-untangling-the-shifting-history-of-titles

BigDecisionWorthIt · 18/02/2025 18:11

TheignT · 18/02/2025 17:46

It does vary. I was surprised when I was charged £25 for some very bottom of the list antibiotics prescribed by my dentist as I was sure I'd paid a lot less when DH needed them a while ago and thought it was one of those cost of living things. Needed a second lot as it didn't clear it and I was in a big shopping centre so went to the pharmacy there.

£9 for an identical private prescription. That's quite a big difference.

Different pharmacies use different suppliers and the cost can vary from there. There will be price differences between medications dependant on whether the majority of delivery comes from AAH or Aliance Healthcare and whatever agreements these companies have with manufacturers already.

Were the brand names identical?

Even if using generic, the cost of generic tablets from Teva, Wokhart etc will still be different and the actual brands a lot higher.

Supply and demand can also play a factor. The moment one manufacturer has issues, the prices for the rest skyrocket.
I remember when there was a Metformin shortage years ago. The cost of the cheapest generic went through the roof.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:11

BigPinkKnees · 18/02/2025 18:10

Leaving aside the Ms/Miss/Mrs debate, the fact that they have not checked the personal details correctly surely raises questions about whether the medication has also been checked correctly.

That plus the price miscalculation are a worry

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Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 18/02/2025 18:10

By the by , Re your aspiration/ desire to be called Madame : Madame is the French version of ‘Mrs’. Unmarried women are ‘Mademioselle‘ ; my eighty year old unmarried neighbour’s tax demand was addressed to Mademoiselle xxx.

(Although people in shops etc would call her ‘Madame’ as a courtesy to an older woman).

when you go into the pharmacy, do they call you Miss blah, when you want to be called Miz ? Can you really tell the difference en passant ? In the US they would probably call you ‘ma’am’…..

BigPinkKnees · 18/02/2025 18:10

Leaving aside the Ms/Miss/Mrs debate, the fact that they have not checked the personal details correctly surely raises questions about whether the medication has also been checked correctly.

Brokenrecordroundround · 18/02/2025 18:09

YANBU OP, tell them to change it. It's always Ms that gets ignored and changed to Miss as much as the weird posters say it doesn't matter, it very much does matter and I think it's telling how much it's "incorrectly" entered as Miss.

You know the posters clamouring how silly it is and it's only a title would be on the phone the instant they are down as Miss instead of Mrs because they actually do find it very important.

GabriellaMontez · 18/02/2025 18:07

KirstyandPhilme · 18/02/2025 18:01

Miss sounds like an ancient crone

Oh stop being silly.

Every woman is a Miss unless she marries.

Then it's Mrs although some women keep it to Miss for professional reasons if they retain their maiden name.

You sound egocentric I'm afraid.

The Mzzzzz was invented partly to try to apply to women who used Mrs but then got divorced and felt Miss wasn't appropriate any more- for whatever odd reason.

Do Drs have to stay 'Miss' unless they marry?

Or are your rules a bit silly?

oakleaffy · 18/02/2025 18:07

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:04

I can promise they do care. It's not that expensive - a lot cheaper than the medicine I took before.

Surely they wouldn’t offer it if it bothered them?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/02/2025 18:07

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 18/02/2025 17:57

Miss sounds like an ancient crone?

What a vile comment.

MUZZ sounds much worse. It sounds ridiculous.

And what on EARTH is wrong with a woman changing her name (to her husband's) on marriage??!! The vast majority of women do! Confused (90% actually! Whether you like it or not!)

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Edited

The reason most women change their names on marriage is because of the patriarchy though.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:05

BigDecisionWorthIt · 18/02/2025 18:03

Accuracy, efficiency and to avoid mistakes.

Better to have just one patient record on the system for someone than having multiple.

No but my treatment is totally unconnected to my NHS records. I don't want it to be connected and I've never confirmed any details about my NHS theoretical registration.

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space99 · 18/02/2025 18:04

I am a pharmacist and would be totally happy to change it over to Ms. It would take less than a minute to do it. However I would have made sure it was right in the first place as it bugs me if someone has entered the incorrect title.

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:04

oakleaffy · 18/02/2025 17:58

It’s massively different.
The pharmacist won’t give two hoots about a cannabis prescription- our pharmacy do them too. ( They had leaflets about them) but very expensive.

I can promise they do care. It's not that expensive - a lot cheaper than the medicine I took before.

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BigDecisionWorthIt · 18/02/2025 18:03

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 17:53

Why would my private prescription be linked to my NHS records at all?

Accuracy, efficiency and to avoid mistakes.

Better to have just one patient record on the system for someone than having multiple.

oakleaffy · 18/02/2025 18:03

Sarahbackinthesaddle · 18/02/2025 18:01

If i was the pharmacist i would happlily update it for you.
But id be thinking 'what a dick' in my head.

Most pharmacists are rushed off their feet- ours snatches a lunch break at about 3pm and doesn’t leave the premises- It’s long hours, too. 9-6

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 18:03

KirstyandPhilme · 18/02/2025 18:01

Miss sounds like an ancient crone

Oh stop being silly.

Every woman is a Miss unless she marries.

Then it's Mrs although some women keep it to Miss for professional reasons if they retain their maiden name.

You sound egocentric I'm afraid.

The Mzzzzz was invented partly to try to apply to women who used Mrs but then got divorced and felt Miss wasn't appropriate any more- for whatever odd reason.

Incorrect

Show some respect for others

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KirstyandPhilme · 18/02/2025 18:01

Miss sounds like an ancient crone

Oh stop being silly.

Every woman is a Miss unless she marries.

Then it's Mrs although some women keep it to Miss for professional reasons if they retain their maiden name.

You sound egocentric I'm afraid.

The Mzzzzz was invented partly to try to apply to women who used Mrs but then got divorced and felt Miss wasn't appropriate any more- for whatever odd reason.