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To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

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Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:00

decided to edit this a bit for clarity - I'm a Ms, my pharmacist keeps writing Miss on the labels (as part of a wider pattern of annoying behaviour). Will I look mad if I say please call me Ms on my labels?

(The prescriptions all say Ms)

OP posts:
BuntyBeaufort · 18/02/2025 23:44

If you had a cock and balls and wanted to be called Ms you could probably sue them for misgendering/ hate crime.

SecondStarOnTheRight · 18/02/2025 23:33

If its something that 'doesn't matter' then why does it need to be used?

If they insist on using it on your medication, you should be able to insist on it being correct. Especially when in an environment where records need to be accurate.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/02/2025 23:02

Itisalovelyday2025 · 18/02/2025 22:48

Ive read back on the OPs comments and she has said the pharmacist does not agree with the prescription so I think it is an opioid or something that can be abused. Methotrexate requires routine bloods so I can't see you getting that from an online Dr

Fair point - methotrexate just sprang to mind as it's so well known for that overlap. (I had a quick look online - and WTF, you can buy it online - ridiculous).

I was once given a very strong painkiller for dental pain - I forget its name - but when I looked it up, Insaw it was a painkiller typically used in a hospital setting for palliative care, particularly for cancer patients, and that it was helpful because, as a non opioid, it could reduce the amount of opioid painkillers taken by the patient. So it could be something like that with OP.

Anyhow, this is idle speculation on my part

BigDecisionWorthIt · 18/02/2025 22:58

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 22:40

The prescription I used to pay for privately was not linked to my NHS records. The private GP didn't inform my NHS GP.

Probably my flu brain not explaining it correctly. My bad. Didn't mean it will be logged on your records.

The systems that pharmacies use to dispense prescriptions can essentially "pull" the patient personal details from the NHS spine.
It means that the records on the pharmacy computer system is accurate, not a duplication to another record on the system and also saves time instead of manually having to type the whole thing out.
It isn't disclosed/recorded/sent back to NHS GP.

Whoarethoseguys · 18/02/2025 22:53

As long as I get the right medicine I don't care way I'm called

Itisalovelyday2025 · 18/02/2025 22:48

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/02/2025 22:42

Wouldn't necessarily be opioids - there are strong non opioid painkillers used for pain relief for cancer patients and elsewhere.

Similarly, Methotrexate is used for cancer patients and also for painful conditions like rheumatoid arthritis (helps with inflammatory diseases)

Ive read back on the OPs comments and she has said the pharmacist does not agree with the prescription so I think it is an opioid or something that can be abused. Methotrexate requires routine bloods so I can't see you getting that from an online Dr

MsVi · 18/02/2025 22:45

Such a fuss about nothing.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 22:42

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 18/02/2025 18:10

By the by , Re your aspiration/ desire to be called Madame : Madame is the French version of ‘Mrs’. Unmarried women are ‘Mademioselle‘ ; my eighty year old unmarried neighbour’s tax demand was addressed to Mademoiselle xxx.

(Although people in shops etc would call her ‘Madame’ as a courtesy to an older woman).

when you go into the pharmacy, do they call you Miss blah, when you want to be called Miz ? Can you really tell the difference en passant ? In the US they would probably call you ‘ma’am’…..

France has removed the option to tick "Mademoiselle" from french official administrative forms, leaving only "Madame

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/02/2025 22:42

Itisalovelyday2025 · 18/02/2025 22:17

Can I ask why you buy painkillers suitable for cancer patients online ? Will your GP not prescribe you them ? Do you feel like you are being judged by the pharmacy staff for buying strong painkillers online ...presumably opioids?

Edited

Wouldn't necessarily be opioids - there are strong non opioid painkillers used for pain relief for cancer patients and elsewhere.

Similarly, Methotrexate is used for cancer patients and also for painful conditions like rheumatoid arthritis (helps with inflammatory diseases)

DrLottie · 18/02/2025 22:41

My actual title is "Dr". But I go with Miss or Mrs or Ms on anything medical. Deliberately, as I'm not a medical Dr, or an arse!

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 22:40

BigDecisionWorthIt · 18/02/2025 18:03

Accuracy, efficiency and to avoid mistakes.

Better to have just one patient record on the system for someone than having multiple.

The prescription I used to pay for privately was not linked to my NHS records. The private GP didn't inform my NHS GP.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 22:36

KirstyandPhilme · 18/02/2025 18:01

Miss sounds like an ancient crone

Oh stop being silly.

Every woman is a Miss unless she marries.

Then it's Mrs although some women keep it to Miss for professional reasons if they retain their maiden name.

You sound egocentric I'm afraid.

The Mzzzzz was invented partly to try to apply to women who used Mrs but then got divorced and felt Miss wasn't appropriate any more- for whatever odd reason.

No it wasn't. It was meant to be like Mr. You can't tell a man's marital status.

Itisalovelyday2025 · 18/02/2025 22:17

Can I ask why you buy painkillers suitable for cancer patients online ? Will your GP not prescribe you them ? Do you feel like you are being judged by the pharmacy staff for buying strong painkillers online ...presumably opioids?

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 22:12

LlamaDharma · 18/02/2025 22:05

Where do you think pharmacies get their funding?

Pharmacies are independent businesses contracted by the NHS to provide certain services, including dispensing prescription medicines. They are paid to do this by the NHS. They are not funded by the NHS.

Anyone choosing to pay for a private prescription, or choosing to pay for medicines which could be prescribed is saving the NHS money.

LlamaDharma · 18/02/2025 22:05

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 20:14

What has it got to do with the NHS?

Where do you think pharmacies get their funding?

LlamaDharma · 18/02/2025 22:01

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 16:05

I honestly think it is. I know people can be too touchy but this is my name!

Your name is Ms? 😳

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 21:58

Replying to Grammarnut

Bit like changing Miss to Mrs then?

In any case as this is a private presciption it was probably written by a private GP so nothing whatsoever to do with the NHS. The prescription was written as Ms. The pharmacist doesn't have access to the OP's NHS records.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/02/2025 21:54

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 18/02/2025 20:02

This. ^ Anyone who insists on using 'Ms' is divorced or single, and is embarrassed to be (divorced or single.)

I'm not saying women who are divorced or single should be embarrassed, at all! But IMO the women who insist on being called 'Ms' are a bit embarrassed about their marital status, and are desperate to hide it. 👀

Hello, the 1950s called, they want you back.

(Married Ms here.)

ThePartingOfTheWays · 18/02/2025 21:53

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 18/02/2025 20:02

This. ^ Anyone who insists on using 'Ms' is divorced or single, and is embarrassed to be (divorced or single.)

I'm not saying women who are divorced or single should be embarrassed, at all! But IMO the women who insist on being called 'Ms' are a bit embarrassed about their marital status, and are desperate to hide it. 👀

Of all the things wrong with both of these posts, not knowing that MN is the land of married Ms has to be the winner. There are sooooo many of us on here!

Grammarnut · 18/02/2025 21:47

Everythingisnumbersnow · 18/02/2025 20:14

What has it got to do with the NHS?

It has to do with the NHS because if you request your Dr to change the title on your notes - which is the only way you will get your pharmacist to put Ms instead of Miss - then that has to be updated across all your records. The NHS has enough to do updating records without having unnecessary work added - and changing Miss to Ms is unnecessary work.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 21:30

MissTrip82 · 18/02/2025 21:28

I suspect there are quite a lot of people who can’t understand ‘the drama’ who’d be very annoyed indeed if their title was changed from Mrs to Ms…….

Oh there definitely would.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 18/02/2025 21:29

Bababear987 · 18/02/2025 20:12

I genuinely think you must have lived some sort of absolutely privileged life to get so wound up over something so ridiculous. Like I flabbergasted that people have so much time on their hands to be so petty over a title. I didnt even realise anyone alive today would care about their title, I find womens titles so misogynistic.

Secondly the pharmacist is probably fed up with you commenting and complaining over every little thing everytime you come in. You sound like one of those people who is just never happy and has to make a fuss. Being a pharmacist in community is a horrible, thankless job and you've just proved it. Peoples expectations are so high, pharmacists clinically and physically check hundreds of scripts a day, do vaccinations, run BP, viagra, morning after puill and diabetes clinics, sort staff issues, sort customer/gp issues, order medicines, to a mountain of paperwork.... very rarely get lunch or get home on time and yet people question our role and blame us for everything.
Pharmacist do not just stick labels on stuff, they clinically check prescriptions and you would not believe the amount of errors doctors make.
Most hospital wards now have their own pharmacists because of their knowledge of medication. Pharmacists actually correct a lot of what doctors do.

At the end of the day, theres no way to address it without the staff all doing an eye roll. If you must, ask the girls at the counter or find another pharmacy and give everyone there a break.

Do children work in pharmacies?

MissTrip82 · 18/02/2025 21:28

I suspect there are quite a lot of people who can’t understand ‘the drama’ who’d be very annoyed indeed if their title was changed from Mrs to Ms…….

ilovesooty · 18/02/2025 21:26

Just ask them to correct it. Why the drama? Alternatively you could remind them of your financial clout and tell them you expect them to be more respectful, given the hundreds of pounds you spend on your private prescription.

GabriellaMontez · 18/02/2025 21:24

prescribingmum · 18/02/2025 19:14

Pharmacists are highly trained professionals and are expected to do FAR MORE than just check name, address and medication. Otherwise a vending machine could do the job. GPs are not infallible and can make mistakes, the expectation is we pick it up if it does happen

If there is an error with the prescription where the dose is wrong and the patient comes to harm, we are jointly liable with the GP. Yes we do ask why something has been prescribed on occasion because some drugs are prescribed at different doses for different conditions.

With an attitude like yours, it’s no wonder your pharmacist has taken a dislike to you

Edited

So you agree it's important that details are correct? Like the patients title.

Or not...?