To ask my pharmacist to use my actual title on my medicine

You're paying
You're not happy
Go somewhere else
Job done
It's a non issue
It's customer service same as anything else in a shop

He sounds like he had some issues! This thread is a good example that people are aware that a woman is using Ms on principal and they have an issue with it hence all the "how pretentious, get some perspective responses" which is why I correct it every.single.time. because either they're being

Funnily enough though, I've never had a woman had to correct her Ms status on any of our systems but have had lots of women who admittedly haven't actually changed their name anywhere else or with their GP yet but they decide that the hospital appointment they've just arrived at is the time to ask all their paperwork that has been prepped in advance to be changed to their married name. But asking people to correct a title to what was provided is precious and time wasting🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think the OP started this thread for a debate on the rights or wrongs of using the title Ms as opposed to Mrs / Miss - thankfully everyone has the right to choose how they want to be addressed in the UK. She was just asking if she was being unreasonable to correct how she was being addressed when the pharmacy was not using her preferred title. If you are aware that someone uses a particular title, or you continue to use the wrong title after you've been corrected, then I think it's extremely rude and just as bad as deliberately using any other part of their name incorrectly.

THIS!

Yes.

Very “strange” indeed…😀

I thought the pharmacist was just picking up the doctor’s error. If they are deliberately changing it then it seems the pharmacist is a tw-t.

I used to work with a guy who if he say any correspondance addressed to me at work, he would angrily cross out “Ms” and write “Miss” in its place!

Meh, not a big deal. IMO.

I imagine a lot of them are the types of admins who are changing these because they think it's 'pretentious'. I've never worked on a system that reverted people's titles to anything especially not to another title and yet it seems common that women who go by Ms or Dr are always getting reverted 'in error' to a Miss or Mrs when this isn't the information they've provided as their details. Weird how these admins data entry mistakes keep affecting the same titles isn't it.

Er, yes. So they should not be bothered unless they think it's the wrong person intended?

@ttcat37 I’ll agree with you when the world makes it compulsory for all unmarried men of all ages to use the title “Master”.

Until then, I refuse to “shit or get off the pot” when the men are allowed to sit on their arses on the toilet for as long as they like.

I'm not sure that would be a sensible approach, if you actually need the medication.

@JHound I am assuming because it doesn't matter to those PPs - as it wouldn't matter to me. I understand people are annoyed by other things but for me personally this is a non-issue and so my opinion is that OP IBU.

A male friend of mine is a GP and insists people who aren't his patients address his as Dr - I think that makes him a bit of an arse. But that is just my opinion as well.

A Ms is a woman who may be single, divorced, married, cohabiting, widowed, in a same sex relationship, polyamorous, or any number of things which are none of your goddamn business, which is why she doesn't want to use a title indicating to nosy people which one she is.

If the pharmacists was mistakenly writing “Mr” would it still be a minor point for OP to be annoyed about?

Isn’t that the same then for those whose title is “Ms” and they were referred to by another title?

Ok well that’s the pharmacist being weird and I would correct them.

Oh and while I use “Ms” I also cannot be arsed to correct mistakes.

But my point remains in why so many people are claiming this is a non issue. If OP was “Mrs” and annoyed at being called “Miss” most of the comments would be very different

I couldn't care less what title people use for me to be honest. I am female but my old dentist surgery had me as 'Mr' / used to make me laugh a little when I received letters from them.

I have seen similar threads and I have to be honest that I just don't care about things like this. It may annoy you but maybe the pharmacist doesn't really care either.

Throwing stones in glass houses when it comes to causing NHS admin is, though.

Did you read the OP's posts. The doctor issues the prescription with the preferred title.

I don't. Though I might wonder if they'd got the right person.

I imagine a lot of the “why does it matter” people are married women who see a great deal of status in being married.

If they were “Mrs” and repeatedly referred to as “Ms” or “Miss” they would soon have an issue….

This!

Why do you assume we are embarrassed?

Cannot you not fathom that some of us just object to sexism?

Why is it necessary for women to be defined by the marital status but not men? Why is it “pretentious” to object to the sexism inherent in that double standard?

And how does that explain married women who use “Ms”? Are they embarrassed to be married?

Arrogance does not seem to be confined to me.