What do you do when your child won't take no for an answer?

I go with I'm not discussing this anymore, usually said 5 or 6 times before adding If you keep asking you will face xxx consequence (usually removal of screentime). Then I follow through with the consequence. 90% of the time reaching the if you keep asking conversation is enough for them to stop now.

If its about doing something now instead of later, I remind him that the more he asks the less likely it is he will get it.

Its taken probably 6 months to get to the stage where he doesn't just keep asking

Love that idea!

I agree.
I don't think punishing for keeping asking is the way to go. You will paint yourself into a corner that way and just feed the drama.
You do however (as pps have said) need to be strong every time. because if you've given in after twenty asks in the past, it'll take a while for them to unlearn that twenty asks isn't just what they need to do to get what they want.

We used to say 'Go on - ask me again'. And when they did, say 'no' with a big smile like it was a game. And then say, ' Go on! Ask me again!'.....'no!'.

And repeat until they became exasperated. They always cracked before we did.

Tell her not to ask again!

If one of mine asked again after I said no and told them to stop it then they'd be going to their room until they could behave.

A combination of saying no/distract / ignore for a bit until an obvious big distraction comes along like it's time to go to school/dinner/bed/bath that tends to put a big reset on the question. (Mine are younger tho!)
Sometimes I think you have to remind yourself it is OK if your child is upset, especially if they are upset at not getting the thing you have already decided they can't have or is not good for them. It's not your job to keep everyone 100% happy 100% of the time.

You say no and then you just ignore any further moaning about it. Distract and deflect.

I used to say to my DD during this phase: 'You've asked me a question. I've said no. You can spend all day asking me the same question. The answer will be no every time you ask. Very boring for you. Very boring for me. Or you can find something more interesting to do - read, help me baked, play in your room.'

Sorry but you made this situation the first time you gave in after saying no. She learned that your no means yes. You have to tell her that from now on you will say what you mean and if she keeps asking after being told then there will be no treats and tv etc will be removed BUT you have to mean it. Sort this now before she is a 14 year old making your life hell.

I say if they keep asking the consequences will be worse than no or later - eg if I have said later continued demanding will become a not happening at all.

What do you mean you're running out of things to take away? You need to stick with it until she gets bored basically. I have been known to write NO! A4 sized in marker pen and every time I was asked, just pointed to the piece of paper. You need to be consistent and not give in, she's learned that if she's annoying enough she gets what she wants so you have to grit your teeth and see it through.

Just let her whine on
You don't need to take things away or any other punishment
You need to learn to ( pretend to ) ignore
Withdrawing your attention is what she will hate

"I said no, that's the end of it . I'm going to read my book now / wash the car"

She see you getting wound up, she presses more

It took a long weekend away to train one of the Cubs out of this. He'd had his parents wrapped around his finger for years, and "no" meant "try again until I buckle". By day 2 of consistent "no" and reminding of expectations he was totally flumoxed that not one of the leaders or Explorers had given in. By the end of day 3 he'd got the message that "no" meant "it ain't happening". At Cubs at least!

With my own DCs "no: tends to come with a reason and that's generally accepted. Further badgering will have consequences. Generally if I'm issuing screen bans, I'll work in one hour increments so repeats of behaviour accumulate a longer lasting consequence, and I don't run out of options quickly.

No, it isn't illegal. But physically assaulting your child is still a form of abuse, whether it's legally permitted or not.

100% agree with this. Only say no once, then do not discuss. The less airtime the topic gets the quicker they will move on.

You: Didn't you ask me this yesterday?

Child: Yes
Y: And what was my answer?
C: No
Y: Well done, that's right.

Well its not illegal here, unlike in many western countries.

because assault ALWAYS works! I am English too.

Do you remember asking this before - if yes - and what was the answer - it was no so why do you think that will have changed?

If they say no - well I do and the answer was no then and now.

If there a time delay - reminder I said yes for x date but I can change my mind and say no completely.

Taking things away from one of mind never did anything but cause further issues - and one had such a poor memory it could be that child had forgotten but even with other kids who had excellent memories if they did this might ask them what they were playing at - similar to above - and if it went on and they got older asking them why they thought annoying me would make their day any better.

7 YO!

if you ask me the same question once more you can go to your room and lie on your bed for ten minutes in silence

Stop asking me otherwise you will not be watching any TV tonight

If you ask again there will be no iPad time today

rinse and repeat - give a warning first though

and you must follow through on your threats

I'm not sure what being from England has to do with the fact that you rely on physical abuse to discipline your child?

I wouldn't bother removing toys, privileges etc because sometimes I think kids like the drama / attention of this kind of thing. Basically they enjoy winding you up and getting a response! I think it's more effective to ignore / say no and move on. Just don't engage at all.

I'm from England. At those ages, I would smack.

Why are you taking things away? If DD wants something and can't have it, I explain why and offer an alternative. Sometimes we try to find a compromise. Sometimes I use the false choice (e.g. you cannot go out in your socks. You can choose to wear trainers or wellies)

No with a reasoned response.
I said no with warning of lost privileges if asked again.
Remove privilege e.g. screen time
Remove to bedroom/time out spot to consider behaviour and do not engage.
Once calm have a quick chat no meaning no. Hug and move on.

You only have to do this a couple of times and soon the child will learn that a no from you really means no and they will learn valuable skills to deal with their frustration.