Hi all,
I have known MIL since I married DH 15 years ago. From day 1 she did everything to make my life hell. She is a narcissist and very manipulative and she enjoyed causing trouble between me and DH. She never made any effort with my DC and is just generally not a nice person. Things got so bad that I ended up with depression and I went minimal contact with her 7 years ago. DH realised how abusive she was and he supported me but he still carried on having a relationship with her. I didn't want him to stop seeing his mother, especially as she lives alone.
MIL has been fine health wise but she had a fall last weekend and went into hospital. Today we have been told by doctors that she is terminally ill. She is 78 and has maybe 2-3 months left. My DH is devastated.
At one point in life I hated MIL but I came to forgive her and I now have no feelings towards her whatsoever. I don't like her and I don't hate her. I feel guilty that I feel this way and in a different world I would have loved to have had a good relationship with her and cared for her at this stage in her life. My DH is really upset and I don't know how to navigate the situation. For the last 7 years I've only visited her twice a year but I feel like I need to go see her more often, my DH will definitely be stepping up his visits. I just don't know what to do.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do?
Thanks.