To pleasure myself while husband is in the house?

I do it whilst he's sleep next to me

It’s absolutely fine. I would even say it’s your right.

Wap some Sean Bean remixes (other actors are available: Sean Bean is my personal fave) on YouTube and away you go

LOL

Sean Bean for the win. He might die in everything but...

Sounds like you're relying on them to know what to do rather than you knowing what you like and what gets you there.
Definitely start exploring on your own, you're much more likely to be able to get there.

Of course it isn't unreasonable. It's YOUR body and DH doesn't own your body.

Get a little bullet thingy it’s all you need. And tell him to bugger off and leave you alone while you do it. Nobody needs an audience. Wap some Sean Bean remixes (other actors are available: Sean Bean is my personal fave) on YouTube and away you go

I find it more weird he would feel rejected when he can't even give you an orgasm.

Another vote here for you getting a vibrator ASAP..

@TheIvyRestaurant

hahaha! Oh believe me I’d love to but I never seem to be able to we’ve had toys. He’s done what he can to get me there and he just can’t and neither have prevojs sexual partners? I have been looking at toys that are recommended for this to give it ago while on my own ( we don’t live together to be fair) I would say he’s good in the department and blame me for not being able to…

I love you women haha!

As long as its not taking anything away from your relationship with him then of course its not an issue. Especially as women generally aren't as limited in how often they can orgasm.

I could do it myself earlier in the day, then still want sex with him in the evening and probably have another solo orgasm before sleep (in my own bed). He'd probably be offended if he knew quite how often that happened, especially while he's in the same house, and he'd feel like he's not good enough to satisfy me, but its not about that - the two things are very different for me and quite often the solo activity makes me want him MORE rather than less.

If it was scratching an itch that meant I wasn't fussed about sex with him it would potentially be more problematic.

YABU to describe masturbation as "pleasuring yourself" 🤣 but apart from that, the rest is up to you!

Agreed - @purpleblue2 you need to experience it, life’s too short. I bet your OH orgasms every time. So why should you not have one now and again?

Buy a vibrator. Today.

FGS forget his fragile ego and treat yourself to an orgasm. I have never orgasmed through sex and I won’t be deprived of one because of some fragile male.

What he's asking is why are you putting your hands on yourself when he could be putting his hands on you. Shocking really.

I don’t do it full stop unless I’m teasing my partner but I geniunely think he’d find it weird if I was to do this. I’m not saying it’s not ok cause it is but I don’t think my partner would like it and he’d feel rejected knowing his personality. That being said I can always be arsed for sex and so can he so we don’t have that problem there has been a time coupe
years back where he said he’d had to sort himself out and I was ok with it cause it’s not like I was there at the time. I’d watch my man alll day long do it to himself and not get bothered

on that note I don’t think I’ve ever orgasmed fully in my life and wish I could no matter whether I play he plays an ex played or what not I have never orgasmed but I get extremely wet.

I probably would not have said anything only to avoid the annoying fragile ego thing.

Truthfully if I waited to have an orgasm with DH I would be waiting beyond the end of days. Unfortunately I don’t know what good sex is as he has been the only man I have been with and when I previously said something wasn’t working he got really cut about it! So I do my own private thing and don’t share/tell anyone this (except on this forum!). I wait till everyone is out of the house though (I couldn’t fully relax as we have a tiny house).

And also that women just swoon at the prospect of being only slightly better than a wank 😂😂 they really fancy themselves don’t they

Masturbation is natural and healthy. Crack on.

Yep.

He’s basically saying she’s a wank sock

Haha as if he only wanks when you’re out the house.

He says it's nowhere near as good as having sex with me so if I'm here he'd always try it on instead.

I prefer duck confit with dauphinoise potatoes. But sometimes you fancy a Mars bar, quick and easy.

His air of ownership over your body is shitty and I'd be closing that right down.

If you’re regularly rejecting him, I can see why this would bother him.

You’re absolutely entitled to have a wank whenever you want. But if you’re regularly masturbating more than you want to have sex, I guess that could be an issue. Whenever a woman on Mumsnet says their husband isn’t very interested in sex, everyone immediately says ‘he’s just selfish and he’s probably wanking instead and probably a porn addict and men are disgusting.’ So if he perceives that you’re masturbating instead of sex, I can see why he’s miffed. But of course anyone is allowed to do what they want with their own body and nobody is really entitled to tell their partner, male or female, not to masturbate.

He doesn’t own your orgasms!!

Sexual intimacy with a partner and solo masturbation are totally different activities though. Why does he think one should always replace the other. That's like saying you should always have the well balanced main meal on offer when you know what you're really craving is a crisp sandwich.

It’s none of his business.

Possibly upset because he feels you’re going off him or he’s not satisfying you enough. In which case, that’s a bit immature. But perhaps reassure him.