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Neighbour watching me on ring doorbell

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fencedispute2024 · 17/02/2025 22:18

My neighbour keeps watching me through their ring doorbell. I’ve asked them to stop (via the doorbell when they were watching me) but they’re continuing to watch me.

they’re definitely watching, rather than just the doorbell being triggered by motion, as the blue light comes on. They’re not very tech savvy so I don’t think they realise that a blue light is on.

I’ve got multiple photos of their doorbell with the blue light from the last few months. Including a video where I asked the doorbell to stop watching me that shows the blue and red lights going off after my request.

I'm starting to feel harassed and think this is in response to the previous issues we’ve had with a fence. (See old post if you’re interested)

where do I go from here?

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Oioisavaloy27 · 25/02/2025 12:31

My friend has a ring doorbell and she was telling me that she can have the light off on her bell and record and she doesn't have to pay a subscription either as I am looking to get one.

gotmyknickersinatwist · 19/02/2025 16:41

BoundaryGirl3939 · 18/02/2025 14:41

I should do but I don't have the balls. My brother accidentally locked eyes with her for a few secs as he was getting out of the car. When she realised he was looking directly back at her, she backed away quickly from the window.
Yet her shadow still hovers behind the blinds. I don't think she realises that we can see her. We are not doing anything mildly interesting so I don't get it. Our lives are boring.

Think of how boring hers must be if she spends time watching you.

I wonder who's watching her?
The spider in the corner? And who's watching the spider....?

TY78910 · 19/02/2025 09:07

OKNerd · 18/02/2025 00:06

Yeah good luck with that one. They don’t have to give it to you at all. What a load of nonsense. The neighbours can request it the same way anyone can request anything but there’s no enforceable law that states doorbell cams residents HAVE to share footage. What do you think would happen if they refused?

I have a ring doorbell for safety, it benefits the whole street. My neighbours think I have it to spy on them. Even though I had it before they moved in. Fucking nutters

They might also not have the footage. Not everyone pays the ring subscription. So even though they can see things in real time, the clips don’t get saved unless you pay for Ring to store them.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 18/02/2025 14:41

gotmyknickersinatwist · 18/02/2025 11:47

I'd wave at her really enthusiastically every time the curtain twitches.

I should do but I don't have the balls. My brother accidentally locked eyes with her for a few secs as he was getting out of the car. When she realised he was looking directly back at her, she backed away quickly from the window.
Yet her shadow still hovers behind the blinds. I don't think she realises that we can see her. We are not doing anything mildly interesting so I don't get it. Our lives are boring.

moonsunandstars · 18/02/2025 12:34

BigSkyDreams · 18/02/2025 10:26

So there were 100-200 motions in your garden yesterday? Or have you not set up the boundaries so it only records your property?

Not in my garden - in front of my entrance door.

We live in an urban area.

Newbie8918 · 18/02/2025 12:10

HeyIAmGlidingHere · 18/02/2025 11:05

So it has been angled at/towards the bit of garden that's yours? Weird.
I thought they just filmed what was directly ahead of them. I'd put my bins in that square bit in that case. Might as well be hung for a sheep than a lamb.

Edited

It has a range with a radius. Ours was triggering none stop when people walked past the drive and before they’d entered the path. It also triggered whenever anyone entered next doors path. We needed to change it, so we reduced the radius and it’s fine. We were in no way spying on the neighbors. In fact the number of notifications were annoying! I honestly couldn’t care less when Tracey next door put her bins out.

This seems like a storm in a teacup.

gotmyknickersinatwist · 18/02/2025 11:47

BoundaryGirl3939 · 17/02/2025 23:32

I live beside a curtain twitcher, and I feel so uncomfortable whenever I get into my car/or get out of it.
I can see her shadow moving behind the blinds. She pretends she doesnt see me if we cross paths in public. It's ridiculous. I feel your pain. It is a form of stalking.

I'd wave at her really enthusiastically every time the curtain twitches.

HeyIAmGlidingHere · 18/02/2025 11:05

So it has been angled at/towards the bit of garden that's yours? Weird.
I thought they just filmed what was directly ahead of them. I'd put my bins in that square bit in that case. Might as well be hung for a sheep than a lamb.

Windsorlady · 18/02/2025 10:51

Get up really early a few times and trigger it ..or late ...it may cause them to set it differently..xx

BigSkyDreams · 18/02/2025 10:26

moonsunandstars · 18/02/2025 01:50

I don't know, OP.

I just had a look at my ring app and my camera detected motions between 100 -200 times yesterday.

I don't know where you live, but could it be that they're not actually spying on you?

Just the camera picking up the motion?

So there were 100-200 motions in your garden yesterday? Or have you not set up the boundaries so it only records your property?

Louise303 · 18/02/2025 10:23

If your doors are close together even though the camera is on your side it may pick up when someone comes in and out of next door. It happens to us all of the time so the blue light is probably not them watching you. It can be annoying I always think it's someone coming to our door. I don't think it bothers my neighbour hopefully we put ours up after noticing footprints in the garden. Bought the camera and it saved us from being broken in to in 2022 during the night. Our ring camera will sometime will alert if someone passes the fence or drives down the road which is a good distance away.

Hazylazydays · 18/02/2025 09:55

WallaceinAnderland · 18/02/2025 00:47

I’ve got multiple photos of their doorbell with the blue light from the last few months. Including a video where I asked the doorbell to stop watching me that shows the blue and red lights going off after my request.

Isn't this just you doing exactly the same back to them that they're doing to you then?

They're probably watching you because you keep taking photos them.

Yes this, I would start getting a life and stop worrying about your neighbours, I doubt very much if they’re watching you, why would they do that, unless you’ve let them know it winds you up, then they’re probably doing it to annoy you if you’ve fallen out. The less fuss you make about it the sooner they’ll get fed up. All in all to be honest I think it’s all a bit pathetic.

godmum56 · 18/02/2025 09:51

Mine is a Blink doorbell. It has a facility where you can blank out areas of the screen to give neighbours privacy but also to prevent spurious triggers. I didn't actually want one but we have had some worrying happenings round here. My neighbour's front door light got completely taped over. We live in a three house cul de sac so somebody came onto the property to purposely do it.

Allmarbleslost · 18/02/2025 09:39

Oh god they're awful things. My friend gets a notification from hers every time a bus drives past her house. I'm not sure there's anything you can do about it though unfortunately.

Mayfly3 · 18/02/2025 09:34

They might not be watching you in particular. My Ring camera is set to detect motion and will record when someone passes or comes to the door. Our property is detached and well away from the road though, so is only triggered by people actively on our property.

Also, as others have said you receive a notification and if I'm on my phone I'll click on it to see who it is and this will record for longer. They probably aren't just looking at you, but at anyone who triggers their camera.

BabyDream2025 · 18/02/2025 09:23

I live in a semi detached new build. Our front doors are almost touching so I hope they don’t get a notification every time I’m getting out of the car and coming home 😂

I feel like there’s very little privacy with the ring door bells. I know my friend has one and he often watches it when there’s anything going on in the street which gives me the ick.

Belaymehearties · 18/02/2025 09:22

Most of our neighbours have ring doorbells nowadays. Handy if someone car gets broken into or knocked in our narrow road - our street whatsapp twitches big time.

The only one that does annoy me is my nextdoorneighbour who changed where their front door was during a recent renovation so it directly overlooks our front door 6ft away. We have a wire fence between us which you could see through so I planted some fast growing creepers up it so I'm not spied on when I take out my bins naked - joking obv 🤣

Eyerollexpert · 18/02/2025 08:57

Also surrounded by cameras and door bells .The halfwit next door put his at an angle to my doorway rather than straight ahead to anyone coming to his door. I am the most boring person ever so he was just being thick , I just went round and told him straight, he moved it, they also pick up sound so wherever someone came to my door I told them what an idiot the neighbour was, lucky for me his wife decided same and got rid. She now watches kids playing out to check no child is bullying hers. I am getting too old for all this!

venus7 · 18/02/2025 08:55

Why are you photographing their door? That could be construed as invasive too.

cushionfiend · 18/02/2025 08:54

Hello - I was watching your other thread, I'm glad you got the fence situation sorted!
Regarding this one, can you clarify a bit? I'm not clear as to what area the ring doorbell covers - are they watching you when you come in and out of your front door? Or is it covering another area, where they can see you more often? For example, if it was somehow filming you in your back garden, could you put a large plant in a pot in the way? Perhaps you could add one of your excellent clear diagrams.

Runnersandtoms · 18/02/2025 08:50

OKNerd · 18/02/2025 00:31

My neighbour is batshit and thinks I have a Ring cam solely to spy on her. I didn’t realise until I was scrolling back through to find out where the fuck the DPD man had gone with my parcel, that she spends a not inconsiderable amount of time waving into the camera and saying “Hellooooo Are you enjoying the show?”. It really tickles me the thought of her thinking she’s catching me out when I’m probably enjoying a glass of gin in the bath completely unaware 🤣

I think this anecdote shows,exactly what others have said. In general people are much less interested in you than you think. So if you think your neighbour is spying on you they probably aren't and you're just being paranoid.

Nameynameynamename · 18/02/2025 08:44

Miyagi99 · 18/02/2025 06:12

I don’t get this, surely it’s the same as them looking out of their window, which they have every right to you. You could flip it round and you have actually been spying at their front door, filming it etc, they may feel harrassed by you.

Wouldn't you find it unsettling if a neighbour stood and look at you out of their windown every time you left your house? That's what it feels like. My neighbour has one and I can hear her phone going every time I walk by after work, not on her property but on a public footpath past her house

Delici0us · 18/02/2025 08:43

larkstar · 17/02/2025 23:16

I don't know about the ring ones but my Eufy will only be triggered to come on if someone is within a few metres of the camera/sensor or if someone presses the doorbell - even if it is triggered the image quality 10 or 20m away is going to be quite low quality I think. If it's being triggered all the time the battery life on the doorbell must be terrible. I wouldn't want mine triggered all the time for no real reason.

This is really useful info, thank you.

I hate my neighbour's ring doorbell. The thought they can, if they want, know all my movements is unnerving and unnatural. She listens in i know, because she has said things she could only know if she did. I am now super careful what I say which is stressful and unnatural.

So now I know I can drain her battery by taking my time doing up my coat, coming back for something I've forgotten and oops passing by the doorbell, oh dear never mind...

OKNerd · 18/02/2025 08:42

Im gonna have to stand outside my door and play around seeing which colours do what!

OKNerd · 18/02/2025 08:36

CaptainFuture · 18/02/2025 07:56

@fencedispute2024 You must spend a lot of time watching them,watching you? Maybe their conversation is
'Oh bloody hell, that neighbours been sat staring at our door all day again!'

Why on earth do you think that?!

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