Ask DH to not go on holiday with female friend.

Again,of course there is nothing wrong with a business lunch together,or a work related night out with a group. Married couples who are happy with their husbands & wives having close relationships with the opposite sex where they regularly go out together should crack on. I definitely don't think they are the majority though.

Again,of course there is nothing wrong with a business lunch together,or a work related night out with a group. Married couples who are happy with their husbands & wives having close relationships with the opposite sex where they regularly go out together should crack on. I definitely don't think they are the majority though.

If men and women can be friends, why would they be cavorting about and why would a man and woman eating together automatically be a couple? It's just eating.

Can you only eat with your husband once you get married? I think I missed the memo.

I mean things like holidays.

My best friend is male, I'm not going to avoid going on holiday with him just because he isn't a woman.

When I go away with my best friend, it usually involves football but we make a holiday out of it too. So we'd watch a match and then spend a few days doing activity stuff.

DH hates football and sporty activity things in general so would never want to do that which is fine, we do other things on holiday instead.

Am gobsmacked that 22% think this is okay! On what planet do people think it’s fine that their husband go on holiday with another (single!) female?! Bonkers…

Of course men & women can be friends. I have to admit though I'm happy my DH doesn't cavort about with other women going for meals,nights out etc as a couple. It's nothing to do with trust & plenty to do with respecting boundaries within marriage.

Do you think it happens with other transport too?
s"Oh shit, I've caught a bus with someone I know. Now everyone will think we're having an affair"

Of course men & women can be friends. I have to admit though I'm happy my DH doesn't cavort about with other women going for meals,nights out etc as a couple. It's nothing to do with trust & plenty to do with respecting boundaries within marriage.

But also I agree with PP that letting the boys back out wouldn't be an option for me for parenting reasons. That's not ok.

There's a lot of When Harry Met Sally "women and men can never just be friends" going on here

I thought that was weird too.

Is sharing the same flight supposed to be romantic or something? Because it really isn't, even when I'm with DH. 😂

Or you subscribe extra layers of meaning to every day occurrences

As long as they aren't in the same room, why does the same hotel matter? Why does it matter to eat meals together or catch the same plane on a specific trip to see a specific thing?

But why is it mind-boggling? I’ve been to NY with a male friend who shares my enthusiasm for art, and DH sometimes meets a female friend of his for football trips to Rome or Barcelona which would bore me to tears. I certainly haven’t shagged anyone other than DH.

What do you mean by "going away"? Activity partnership?

Meeting a fellow art lover at the Uffizi Galleries in Florence and discussing the pieces at dinner afterwards, staying in separate hotels - yes.

Doing a motorcycle tour of the Peruvian Andes with an experienced opposite sex rider, pooling navigating, spannering, and language skills - yes.

But getting on the same plane at Heathrow, sitting next to this person, staying in the same room/hotel, eating every meal with this person for days? - nope, way beyond activity partnership, and into the holidaying zone, which I prefer to do with my husband and or family or same sex friends.

What do you mean by "going away"? Activity partnership?

Meeting a fellow art lover at the Uffizi Galleries in Florence and discussing the pieces at dinner afterwards, staying in separate hotels - yes.

Doing a motorcycle tour of the Peruvian Andes with an experienced opposite sex rider, pooling navigating, spannering, and language skills - yes.

But getting on the same plane at Heathrow, sitting next to this person, staying in the same room/hotel, eating every meal with this person for days? - nope, way beyond activity partnership, and into the holidaying zone, which I prefer to do with my husband and or family or same sex friends.

How does it sound like an open marriage?

Going away with my male friend is no different than going away with my female friend. You don't have to be in a romantic relationship with someone to go away with them.

My DH & DS have gone on holiday with DS’s friend and his mother several times in the past. They all share an interest in basketball and travel to the US to watch NBA games.

This year, despite booking tickets, the children have decided they want to travel with the friend’s father instead - the friends parents are divorced. However, my DH & this woman, are still planning to travel to the US together, as the tickets have already been paid for.

I don’t want him to go on holiday with just her; I have never been 100% comfortable with these trips but decided to keep my mouth shut because I’ve gone on holiday with male friends in the past, which my husband was unhappy about. I regret being so blood minded at the time.

Is it reasonable to ask him not to go?

@southLondonMum22 As I mentioned each to their own. I would find it distasteful & disrespectful to my DH if I suggested going away with another man & he wouldn't dream of holidaying with another woman. I almost find laughable.

Why do t you go with themas well? I would

I doubt if a poll was taken you would find many women happy to have their husband going off on holiday with another woman,nor men happy for their wives to holiday with another man. Sex or no sex it still sounds more like an open marriage but each to their own.

But why is it mind-boggling? I’ve been to NY with a male friend who shares my enthusiasm for art, and DH sometimes meets a female friend of his for football trips to Rome or Barcelona which would bore me to tears. I certainly haven’t shagged anyone other than DH.