I probably am being unreasonable but i need to vent.....

Nobody except my husband knows that I receive PIP for exactly the reasons illustrated by your post.

I have chronic multiple autoimmune conditions which cause significant pain and mobility issues. It's hard work doing even really easy things.

But here is the thing. On the really bad days, you simply won't see me. My husband will say, "oh, she's sick" and I stay home confined to bed or needing help for the smallest tasks. I certainly don't share it on social media. People probably think I'm flaky because I appear to often be staying home apparently slightly unwell.

So what people actually see is me on my best days. They don't see my Dr reports, blood tests, weekly injections, multiple daily medications, infusions at the hospital... I share none of this because it's fucking boring and it's not the badge I want people to know me by.

So, because I don't share my illness, I also don't share my PIP eligibility because I would be terrified of being judged for looking healthy or happy at any given time....

I said people milk the system which they do.

She's an influencer so clearly has another income stream.

My mum had just died of MS. my aunty is in a care home with it and my daughter also has it.
It's a progressive, disabling terrible disease. If you hear other people slating this woman you need to send them to me.
Unbelievable that people are jealous of a disease that used to be called creeping paralysis.

I have a friend with MS he has a motability car and goes to the gym in it daily. He is desperate to strengthen his muscles as much as he can in an attempt to delay the inevitable. Please don’t judge people with MS whether they’ve worked or not.

Yanbu - it's very puzzling to see someone living such a lavish lifestyle without having worked for it at all.

Is there some kind of scam going on, or lottery win, or inheritance?

I wouldn't want MS for the world tho, so if this was a friend I'd probably just be glad for them they're getting some joy out of life before it's too late. Maybe that explains things, but I'm still puzzled how there can be such a big differential between some people on benefits who are genuinely poor and others living the high life. How?

Another one the likes of whom you can't debate with. Referring to @Pessismistic of course.

@Pessismistic "I know plenty of people milking the system ...". How do you know they're milking the system? Have they told you they are (in which case you need to mix with better people) or, just like OP, are you making assumptions from the way they appear to be without actually knowing what their lives are like 24/7?

We have another one who displays ignorance about the diagnosis pathway of life limiting illness. You know plenty of people milking the system? Of course you do. 🙄

There’s a mum influencer on Instagram and TikTok.
She’s on benefits and PIP.
4 kids multiple fathers
Driving around in a Range Rover and then going on about her healthy start vouchers.

You can tell when it’s benefits day and the shopping hauls are all over her pages. She spent £2k on a media wall recently and lives a life of shopping and holidays, Turkey teeth etc and then out comes the anxiety excuse and how lonely she is when she’s clearly spent all her benefits for the month.

With friends like you who needs enemies!

She will have MS symptoms long before she was actually diagnosed. And OP didn't say why her friend has been on benefits before then. But you just assume she is "milking the system" despite knowing nothing about this lady.

You were being harsh though, you’ve no idea why this woman was on benefits since 16,you’re just making assumptions like the op due to jelousy. You ve no idea if it’s true, her personal cricumstances, anything, you’ve just seen benefits and holidays and jumped.

I am entitled to my opinion I was responding to the op. She has had ms 2 years been on benefits for 23 years. I know plenty of people milking the system so keep your ffs to yourself.

Seriously @smileitlightsupyourface what the fuck is WRONG with you?

Jealous of a single parent with MS?

Look at yourself.

I have to say this thread has been awesome for me so thank you OP for your sheer ignorance and lack of awareness.

I live day to day with worry about judgement because of my rare good days, in case I come across too healthy and happen to enjoy myself so much that someone narrow minded like yourself would judge me.

Unfortunately in the past ive been ridiculed by family for having to use a wheelchair and also talked about for days where I felt strong enough to try without it. I feel judged when I'm well enough to venture out on a day out, judged by people for having to use the benefits system. I stress on my bad days because all I want is to consistently be well enough to work, to do anything, to feel like I can contribute and not feel so useless. I feel bad for having good days, like I'm a fraud, but lately they have been so few and far between.

But this thread has shown me for every misinformed, judgey, bitchy person, there are 10s who understand, who won't judge and they do get it. I think those who understand dont voice it and so all we hear is the nasty or ill informed voices, online, in person and mostly in the media. So it's so easy to get down on yourself for being ill, even though none of us would choose this. But I really do appreciate hearing how many do get it, so thank you.

Next time I feel judged, I will remember all those who do get it and remember that, at least on mumsnet, these people were in the minority.

I reported it, but, and here's a surprise... It's still there.

You're right, though. It lets people see who they really are.

Mind you I haven't reported it. People like her need to be seen for what they are.

It's a dreadful comment. Unsurprising, sadly.

Someone with Multiple Sclerosis is a slacking grifter?

Just, wow. How do you sleep at night, knowing what a disgusting, appalling person you are?

And Mumsnet - why is hate speech about other protected characteristics removed, but disabled people, covered under the same law, are fair game?

You sound extremely ignorant and nasty. Do you know much about MS?

It hasn't stopped the odd ignorant poster joining in. Some people are just so keen to benefit bash they show how misinformed and lacking in empathy they are. They pop up on all sorts of threads to spew the same bile.

You do realise your mouth is for talking out of and your arse is for farting out of, right? Because you seem to have it back to front...

Very similar here. One day (sometimes one hour) at the time... and you didn't moan at all.

@smileitlightsupyourface And there's a further alternative to the above options OP: you could take on board what the overwhelming majority on here are telling you (in particular, the very personal stories of the reality of living with disabilities) and join in the bitches' conversations explaining to them how ignorant they are and how much you've learned about the subject recently (assuming you've learned anything at all, of course).
I still can't get my head around the premise of this thread - slagging off a disabled person - honestly, you can't get much lower than that OP.