I probably am being unreasonable but i need to vent.....

Mind blowing is right.

Bring me the receipts - showing me the figures that 3 x DLA leaves a 30k holiday slush fund. I’ve looked and I don’t see it. I say bollocks. Nasty bollocks.

If you think she is doing wrong, then feel free to report her.
Otherwise it comes across as being jealous of someone with epilepsy, who has 2 SEN children.

We have a friend of the family whose daughter has never worked a day in her life and gets DLA for epilepsy and has two children with SEN so gets DLA for them both too now. She had saved so much money she has stashed £30k in her mums account and goes abroad 4 times a year. Mind blowing.

Have you ever given any thought to the fact she maybe just giving the best life to her children that she can, while she is able too. This friend of yours will have a very tough road ahead of her due to her illness...
I bet she would swop with you in a heartbeat....Money cannot give her everything she wants, unfortunately...Always be grateful for what you have...

We are not broke because of people on benefits. They are just the easiest target for blame.
What job could OP's friend do that would take her off benefits? What employer is going to take on someone with zero work history, and who now has a degenerative condition?

MS is hard to diagnose. She may have been living with painful and routing symptoms for much longer and only just got the diagnosis late when she got it a couple of years ago.

You’d hate me. I’m a single parent. Part time working and top up with UC. My kids have expensive hobbies. Grandparents pay for one hobby and DLA for my other child pays for their hobby. My social media only shows the good things.

100pc agree. Also have a serious disability and am regularly told I look well. I don't feel well. I feel ill so much of the time. I have lost SO much of my life because of it. I'm always in hospital, I take an insane amount of medication. Some days are better and I treasure them but it's really, really, really hard. I wouldn't give a shit about you and your petty "need to vent" if you were my friend because I'd have endured far worse. But I do care about greater societal perceptions and this notion of "get back to work". Great. It's harmful and toxic.

Yeah, I really hate those seriously ill shysters who milk the system with their... (checks notes) MS. I wonder what's worse? The enduring pain or the knowledge it's chronic, and you'll never, ever, really be healthy?

I thought the same, I'm really heartened by this thread.

At least half the benefits in this country to working age people are paid to people who work. Unemployment is only about 4%. Loads of the job vacancies are for jobs which pay so little that you would be entitled to Universal Credit on them. Do your homework before you come out with the usual Daily Mail shit.

Maybe you’d like to also trade your life for her health condition OP? My sister has MS. Trust me when I say that no bloody holiday makes up for things it takes away. Shame on you for your ridiculous envy and lack of empathy.

This is so blatantly untrue.

She was raising children alone. Maybe we should lay the blame more towards men who get women pregnant and then fuck off without a care in the world.

You do. The PIP, mostly goes towards the car.

Do yourself a favor and unfollow her already.

Having MS is grim. I’m retired and get a good pension but am also in receipt of PIP; believe me it’s not easy to get. On the surface & on SM I probably look like im fine, but in reality every day is a mental struggle & I want to give up. But I don’t, because I took the decision to make the most of every day so I go out when I can and travel as much as possible. I am fortunate enough to have supportive friends to help me around. Never judge a disabled person, as you don’t know the invisible symptoms they are dealing with.

Indeed, and some can't. But it sounds like the OP's friend was well for about 20 years, and people who work have been funding that. We are flat broke in this country, we need to get more people off benefits and into work.

So you need to mix with better people then, rather than fraudsters. And I'm not taking it personally because, thankfully, I'm not disabled, but I've helped people claim disability benefits and understand the stigma they can feel - which you've added to on this thread with an anecdote of able-bodied, work-shy people when this thread is about criticising a disabled woman. Treating everyone on benefits as a homogenous group is ignorant and unfair.

Some people can manage their health conditions alongside work and some people can't. And again, PIP is not an out of work benefit.

Oh no. You won't be interested in debating.

I can see why you are annoyed that when she was well for 20 years, she was on benefits. Its so frustrating for those of us that work, especially those of us with health conditions that we have to manage alongside working.

Who’s debating I’m put my opinion on here that’s it.

This! Grow up and stop being so self pitying! You set the bar low if you’re jealous of someone with a disability! MS gets progressively worse, and the people I’ve known who have it, have ended up wheelchair bound before they got ‘old’ having to rely on their family for everything before the age of 50.

It says more about you and your ‘friendship’ if you’re jealous of her. I hope she has other, better friends.

I do know that they do. Yes they have said they won’t work because it’s great getting free money in the bank then have a few holidays a year kids have all technology available and nice clothes. Your taking this post rather personal I told op I get her frustration which I do this is not about the ms lady. It’s about people who don’t want to work.

She's a single mum with MS. Have you considered the latter might be why she can't work? I would far rather be employed than have a serious chronic illness but you do you.