I probably am being unreasonable but i need to vent.....

You just randomly heard these bitchy comments and weren’t enthusiastically joining in? Sure.

you are so jealous of this woman, it’s become like an obsession to you, so I’m guessing she isn’t the first woman you’ve been jealous of.

so this is about you,

It’s either-

1. maintenance from the dads
2. debt on credit cards
3. an income stream you don’t know about - inheritance, some sort of win, some sort of non- employed work

that’s paying for this.

It’s not going to be benefits.

Also, it’s very weird and lacking in imagination to be jealous of a single Mum with a disability - I’m sure you don’t want to swap! Or wouldn’t if you knew what MS is like.

Perhaps you could ask to swap her MS so you can really tell what her good days are like?
I have enhanced rates of PIP due to CP
Fancy a walk in my shoes?

Yanbu op.

When I got cancer and then had a stroke, I was absolutely delighted, a life on disability benefits is amazing, sometimes I just light (expensive) candles with £20 notes because I don't know what to do with all this money.

Perhaps if we all pretend we can't hear, it might go away...

I'm really sorry you're living with this, but pleased to hear you're doing all you can to stay healthier longer and you have great support from your DC. You paint a very clear picture of what living with a disability (specifically, MS) is like and I think one of the things that people on the outside looking in don't appreciate is the pain, which can be exhausting. I honestly don't understand anyone resenting a disabled person receiving welfare benefits and I hope this isn't your experience within your own social circle. Stay well. 🤗

Please don't be jealous of her. Lots of people post on social media and look like they are having a great time when in reality they are not. Do you know much about MS? I do. Most likely by the time she is 40 she will be falling over a lot and people will judge her, assuming she is drunk. She will increasingly need more and more care until she dies. Her dc may become young carers. She will probably attend her dc weddings in a wheelchair. She won't be able to be an active grandparent, she may not even be able to hold her first grandchild. She will probably die before she is 70. No amount of expensive hobbies are going to make up for her children not having their mum around when they are adults. And don't forget their mum is already the only present parent they have.

Your disabalist and nasty

If the government stopped supporting disabled people with benefits you would still be no better off they don't even know who you are they don't care all they care about is making you crap on people worse off than you and causing a divide

Crikey OP, she has MS. Be grateful you don’t have a chronic disease. Here is a sampling of what she is dealing with (from the NHS)

There are lots of possible symptoms of multiple sclerosis (MS). Everyone with the condition is affected differently.
Some of the most common symptoms include:

• feeling extremely tired (fatigue)
• problems with your eyes or your vision, such as blurred vision or eye pain
• numbness or a tingling feeling in different parts of the body
• feeling off balance, dizzy or clumsy (uncoordinated)
• muscle cramps, spasms and stiffness
• needing to pee more often or not being able to control when you pee
• problems with memory or concentration
• sexual problems, including a dry vagina or erection problems

She’s living the best she can between flare ups.

2, 5, 15. The numbers still don’t stack up. It’s bollocks

I think you need to stop focusing on her curated social media portrayal of her life and focus on your own life. What are you not happy with, what are your options? Can you re train and find a better job, do you just need to prioritise more exercise and outdoor time for your family, etc.

FFS Another one about benefits
Nose out... You're no friend

I get where you're coming from it's tough to see someone living that kind of lifestyle when you're working hard and still struggling. It's easy to feel frustrated when things seem unfair, especially with social media showing only the highlights. But try to remember, you don't know everything going on in her life behind the scenes. Maybe it's not all as perfect as it seems. At the end of the day, focus on your own path and what makes you happy. You're doing your best, and that’s what matters.

Yep exactly this, have a word with yourself lady! Here, have my pain I've got right now for about an hour. I hope she's living her best life ever before MS fucks her body completely.

Someone else said it; you're not her friend.

Stop looking at her life, stop following her, look in a mirror, envy isn't your friend.

Will you be happier when she progresses her MS? Stop bitching, stop being envious and do her a favour and distance yourself.

WOW

That's socialism, and she still contributes to the economy in vital ways. Benefits in reality are pretty poor and you have to jump through intrusive & humiliating hoops for them, but they save people too ill to work from destitution.

Your own life could change in a moment and you'd find you need them yourself.

As someone else has said, the motability scheme doesn't give people free cars and remains expensive for those who participate.

Also benefit fraud is less than <1%

This is not very nice. This woman could die suddenly and also will likely have a shortened life as a result.
and you begrudge her for making the most of the time she has with her family?

i wouldn’t believe everything you see on social media.

You do realise that some people are so disabled they will never work and never “contribute” as you so nicely put it. Maybe we should all just euthanise them like the Nazis did… 🙄🙄

You don’t sound very nice op. It’s a telling sign of how content you are with your own life to so enthusiastically launch an attack on someone else’s.

OP I get it, its normal and reasonable to be envious of people who you percieve to have more than you.

I also know that you wouldn't actually swap lives with her.

I deleted my FB a few years ago, and I deleted Insta about 6 months ago after bursting into tears when it told me that my pension was 10% of what it should be at my age. My life is so much better, less stressful that I can just concentrate on myself.

Oh I see I didn’t realise that. Thank you for clarifying

Do people really believe this? That a single parent with two kids can fund all their housing, food, electric, clothing plus ponies, golf and premiership football on benefits. Putting aside the MS for a minute and the implications of that. Honestly, are people really so fucking thick as to believe that this is true? Come on OP, for fucks sake.

Can we go back to the days of it just being about the big telly. Please.

MS is a progressive illness, I would rather be healthy than sick and needing benefits.

Hobbies maybe but long haul holidays - not possible on benefit payments.

I used to vaguely know someone who entered a lot of competitions and won holidays and other things like Christmas hampers. They were willing to make fools of themselves and concentrated on that sort of competition. So maybe they've done that or maybe you're making this up.