To leave my 15 &11month child overnight

Better still the kids could suck it up for one night to allow their parents some quality time together.

I wouldn’t leave the overnight but I’m a worrier.

So why does it make a difference it being overnight? Unexpected things could happen while they are alone during the day. If the house should catch fire it's the same whether it's day or bight

And that's still not a law. It's NSPCC guidelines

What website? How about a 16 year old who doesn't live with parents? Or o e with their own child?

So would you expect the eldest to mature significantly in that month before her 16th birthday that it would make a big difference?

Regularly left my 14 year old daughter overnight for 1-2 nights. Despair of parents who wrap their children in cotton wool. When will you let them cross the road on their own - when they are 20?!

My mum left at 14 back in the late 60s. She was from a big family and was expected to start contributing.

In a month's time your eldest can join the army, I think 1 night would be fine, I'd be more nervous of a 14 yr old, and if they're doing something daft can the older one cope with that appropriately. I think as well it's what time you go, if it was literally 9pm to 9am probably better than 9am to 9pm, if that makes sense.... the nspcc say no child under 16 should be left overnight- I would say your eldest will basically be that age but youngest not so much.
You know your kids though, only you can judge it really

What part of "You're staying the night with Granny" wasn't clear? You're the adult here.

That being said, I was left home alone for 2 nights when I was about 16 and a half. Didn't enjoy it one bit tbh. I think an almost-16yo and a 14yo would be fine. They've got each other for company/security.

They wouldn’t get a choice if they were mine.

The fact is you want them to go to their grandparents because you will feel more settled. So it's not about whether they can be left. You deserve a night off.
So they do as they're told.

I wouldn’t leave my 16 & 14 overnight. They’re both really sensible but I just don’t know how they’d react in an emergency. Also I don’t think it’s fair for the older one to be responsible for the younger one.
For me there’s 2 choices - either they suck it up & go stay for one night with the grandparents so you can have a night out - or the grandparents come and stay with them at your house :-)

I can’t believe you aren’t telling your kids they are staying at grandparents. They don’t dictate to you.
there is no minimum age to leave kids alone as it depends on the child etc.
will you enjoy your night away if you are worrying about them.

yes they can move out but it doesn’t sound like they can support themselves anytime soon.
what else are they soon about to say no to? Going to school? Chores etc?

couldn’t pick an option as I thought you were the adult in this situation.

I wouldn't leave them personally. I also wouldn't let them dictate to me to the point you're considering cancelling your night out. It's one night. They can get over it.

Do your DC have friends they could stay at rather than stay at their grandparents? I think my DC would have preferred this at this age.

I think the issue is that you have two children here. The nearly 16 year old then, yes, assuming they are confident and sensible. But I wouldn't leave a 14 year old without adult supervision and it's wrong to expect a 15-16 year old to be responsible for their younger sibling.

Literally one of the most sensible responses on here. I can’t imagine an about to turn sixteen year old can’t manage one night at home, same with the slightly younger one. They’ll watch TV, microwave a meal or order a pizza, probably eat some junk food and go to bed. They’ll have a great time. Unless some medical or neurodivergence issues making it unsafe I find this bizarre.
I appreciate we keep children in formal education until 18 now, but really not that long ago (“in my day…” ha!) you could leave school and go straight to work at 16. Now we want to have them babysat by someone practically their own age. This is bonkers to me.

I think 14 is too young so I wouldn't, personally. My partner lives 3 hours away and I sometimes visit at weekends. I didn't leave my dc alone in the house until they were more like 16 and 18.

You could have written the title better - it made me think who is this crazy person leaving 2 little babies alone (15months and 11 months old) rather than almost 16 and 14yrs.
We started leaving our 2 to at home from when the youngest was 13ish and eldest 15yrs, for a couple of hours dinner, cinema etc. So when it was an overnight it was no big deal. We spoke to them on the phone and got them to text us. They also spoke with my parents who live nearby. Have a great night!

If anything bad happened god forbid, you’d be absolutely slated for leaving them. The thought of a break in or fire would be too much for me. At that age my children would be told what they are going tbh

But they could come up at any time they are either mature enough to deal with it or not.

it’s not about them being fine, it’s about any issues that might come up such as a fire? a burglar? any other emergency.

Depends how close you are to the Neighbours

things happen - we have had boiler stops working (needs pressure checking), electrics go (needs electrician called out on a Sunday) water goes (supply issue) car caught fire house behind

all of these things can happen (electricity and water infrastructures are rubbish) do they know what to do in these situations

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