Being naked in front of DP/DH

I've read the posts from women saying they do and their husbands still find them attractive regardless of shape/size and, whilst I absolutely admire their confidence, I genuinely don't know what else i feel about it. I just can't imagine doing that and feeling comfortable. Not anymore. I used to and I used to feel confident doing so but I learnt the hard way that you don't make yourself vulnerable in front of a man in that way.

Whatever women tell each other, men don't find the confidence attractive if you don't have the body to back it up. Whether they tell you so or not, they are thinking negatively.

There's only so many times you can do it before you realise that you're the only one telling yourself you look great.

I hate my body so he hasnt seen me naked since I was pregnant (kid is 4 now). Which is sad really, I wish I could be all comfortable in my nakedness around him but all I can feel is all the bits I hate

My husband has seen me through the lowest parts of my life, he was there to see our children born and helped me shower after my sections. He has seen every inch of me and it does not bother me in the slightest if he sees me naked 🤷🏼‍♀️ we have kids now so not actively walking about naked but if I am out the shower or getting changed I don’t care if he’s there. Also several stone heavier than o was pre kids 😂

I voted you're being unreasonable justjust because from sizes 12-28 I've walked round naked in front of my husband. You aren't unreasonable if you aren't comfortable doing that it's just personal preference. Both my sister and I were brought up the same and we differ, she prefers to keep something on where I wouldn't give another thought walking round naked in front of him.

Been married for over 50 years. I don't mind getting dressed/undressed but am uncomfortable with just walking around naked and have always been the same, even when young. I don't like looking at my own body so can't think that anyone else would find it attractive (no boobs, no bum, straight up and down). He has never in all this time good me I'm beautiful because I'm not. He has told me he sees the beautiful person I am inside. He's not being unkind because I have no doubts about his love for me but he would never lie. Some of us just have to accept that we are not attractive. (And at 71 the ugly duckling is not going to turn into a beautiful swan😃). Also prefer sex in a darkened room so he can pretend I'm gorgeous.

This is hilarious because anything that would transfer from you to the bed is simply contained in your pyjamas, so your sheets may be cleaner, but you are still sleeping in the same piss/shit/skin (i do feel like a doctor might be able to help you though)

We sleep naked. It’s amazing we have room in there with all the piss, shit, hair and so, so many skin cells.

😂

DH and I wouldn't class ourselves as either "nudists" or "exhibitionists", despite having a past history of skinny dipping on a Greek island in our younger days, but we have never considered it to be anything but normal to slip out of bed in the morning in our birthday suits (nude sleepers of long standing), to walk to the bathroom (no en-suite, sadly) for our morning showers similarly attired and to return to the bedroom, still naked, to get dressed for the day. Repeated in reverse order at bedtime. DCs ditto as kids, and still ditto in their own households.

He doesnt have to be there when you give birth. Don't let his words take away from the fact that you, your body are doing something amazing.

I hope you can heal from that nasty comment. Don't let that bastard win.
Your stomach doesn't need to be flat for you to be beautiful and sexy to your husband or anyone else.

Honestly not judging you.... But how can you actually be with him and feel loved by him if you really think like this?
It's so incredibly sad to think your partner would rather look at a naked stranger he can't even touch instead of the person he loves and wants to spend his life with.
It all just sounds like fear and nothing grounded in reality.

We walked around naked at home when I grew up, I never found seeing my mother naked a problem and I would have no issue undressing in front of her now, even though I'm in my 50s.

9 and 5.

If they show any signs of discomfort then I’ll stop but currently they don’t appear to notice at all really.

We all walk about naked in the mornings, not just me. Not all around the house for excessive periods of time, but to and from bathroom etc.

What was it that you hated about it? That’s quite a strong reaction to a body.

Very happy being naked in front of DH, always have been, including any positions during sex. We're mid 50s.

Not too bothered if others see me naked either, including DS, who are both young adults, although they wouldn't want me to see them naked and I can understand that.

Thanks @Bloatstoat a lot of that makes sense! My husband 'prefers' me bigger than I am now, I have so many issues around food and eating and putting on weight all to the detriment of my health (which I'm fully aware of even when I'm at my worst, which I am now!) Just yesterday, he held my hand and told me it was 'too bony'. Now, saying that to me is a win! So, although it wasn't a compliment from him, in my head the word 'bony' or 'gaunt' as he called me on Sunday is fantastic. So, my body currently is skinny and for me that's amazing and I want to show it off but I also know, in the back of my mind that it's not to my husband. And that's quite a conflict in my head after reading this thread because what looks good to me doesn't to my husband.

Please don't be so hard on yourself.
Congratulations on your weight loss and please learn to love your curves and imperfections ❤

It's not pitch black - we have some lights by the bed with low watt bulbs so we can see enough

I think it's the opposite of what you say - if there is a lot of light, and I'm full of negative thoughts about how I look, then I can't relax. We've got young children, so I can't remember the last time we had sex in the daytime, but thinking back I definitely found that difficult even then.

Where my situation is different from OP is that my DH has never been negative about my body or how uncomfortable I am with being seen. I hope I would have the strength to do something about it if he was, but as another PP says it is hard, the voices of partners who have been abusive and cruel do stay with you, especially when deep down you agree.

What means most to me about my DH is not that he accepts and loves my body, but that he accepts how I feel about me, even if he doesn't agree. I don't think how I feel about my body has anything to do with our relationship, although obviously it does impact on it. A lot to think about from this thread.

You sound like fun.

To answer some questions (and NO this is not made up)🙄

sex is done in the dark, yes he has felt my stomach lying down but rarely and NEVER standing up, it has never been flat.

This all started when I was a teenager with a boy I was going with, we went in for a kiss and he just grabbed my stomach and said "Wow are'nt you chubby here?" I was 16 or 17 and 8 and half stone. He was comparing me to his ex who was superslim. Then I met DH and had kids and my stomach is now baggy and stretchmarked. I do not mind the rest of me, just that

Nope, he doesn’t see me naked.

I've no doubt he is fully aware of where he can find naked women to look at if he wants to. I don't need to disappoint him and humiliate myself.

This is not as normal as you seem to think it is.

Because for a start you're hiding?
If I'm about to have sex with someone, I can't really enjoy doing that while they are hiding under the covers. If I like you, I probably like the way you look so covering up seems pointless once you've already decided to literally let someone inside you.

Also, you find it laughable because you're not a man, you don't think the same way they do. But I promise you, they generally love to see you slathered in whatever 😂 and don't see things like cellulite the same way a woman does.

Still don't believe me, ask him! Or better yet just give it a go and see what happens..😉

You should see a doctor if you can't get through one night without pissing or shitting the bed, because the rest of us manage it fine.

I don't wander around naked because I get cold, but I have no issues with being naked in front of DH. I have few issues being naked in front of most people tbh.